I guess? I've been married over ten years and I feel like the reality is more like if something is a priority you find time for it, and if you truly *want* it you find time for it, not just when your partner pushes a button and then the impetus is on you to accept or reject, I don't see how it would help with feelings of rejection.
How exactly do you "annonymously tap your button"? There's only two of them. She's going to know it was you.
Uhh we have this already, it's called texting your SO a š or š out of nowhere
It depends what the problem is. If the problem is that one partner literally never wants sex, then of course this device is useless. If the problem is that there's a minimal overlap of when both partners are DTF and that one or both are hesitant to ask the other because there's a fear of rejection, then this device could be helpful to them.It won't solve the issue, your partner just won't press the button.
I donĀ“t think the relationship is going to last when you need this.
I really dislike this attitude and line of thinking. You are lumping everyone who might possibly benefit from this device into the "doomed relationship" bucket, and I think this only encourages people to not seek practical solutions to their relationship problems.Sounds like a good healthy relationship where the communication is A+
There's no impetus placed on your partner when you push the button - the whole point is that you can freely press it whenever you want and not worry about rejection.
I really dislike this attitude and line of thinking. You are lumping everyone who might possibly benefit from this device into the "doomed relationship" bucket, and I think this only encourages people to not seek practical solutions to their relationship problems.
Sometimes relationship issues are more logistical than romantic.
just claim that your button never blinked and that it must be a signal issue.
Neither person is notified if the other has pressed their button until they press their own.just claim that your button never blinked and that it must be a signal issue.
The way you've written it here makes me unsure if you understand how this device works. When you press the button there's nothing for the partner to ignore or pretend they don't see. I don't mean to be rude in ignoring the rest of your post, but understanding the mechanics of the device is key to understanding why this might be useful for some people in very specific circumstances.Who said it was doomed? Relationships require work and communication like almost any other sustained human interaction, farming out something as intimate as communication in a relationship around sexual desires to an app is just a dumb shortcut that only sounds good in an elevator pitch.
You can smash that button all you like , but what is to stop your partner ignoring it? Or pretending they don't see it? Nothing. It doesn't fix the underlying communication breakdown in the relationship.
Kind of, but the rejection has lost it's sting because it's passive rather than active. Passive rejection has ambiguity which softens the blow. Active rejection is unambiguous and embarrassing.
The way you've written it here makes me unsure if you understand how this device works. When you press the button there's nothing for the partner to ignore or pretend they don't see. I don't mean to be rude in ignoring the rest of your post, but understanding the mechanics of the device is key to understanding why this might be useful for some people in very specific circumstances.
Kind of, but the rejection has lost it's sting because it's passive rather than active. Passive rejection has ambiguity which softens the blow. Active rejection is unambiguous and embarrassing.
Should it be tho? Embarrassing? "Not tonight honey." "Sorry, I'm not in the mood."The way you've written it here makes me unsure if you understand how this device works. When you press the button there's nothing for the partner to ignore or pretend they don't see. I don't mean to be rude in ignoring the rest of your post, but understanding the mechanics of the device is key to understanding why this might be useful for some people in very specific circumstances.
Kind of, but the rejection has lost it's sting because it's passive rather than active. Passive rejection has ambiguity which softens the blow. Active rejection is unambiguous and embarrassing.
On the other hand, jerking off and trying again tomorrow is free.
Couldn't they have just made this an app?
The way you've written it here makes me unsure if you understand how this device works. When you press the button there's nothing for the partner to ignore or pretend they don't see. I don't mean to be rude in ignoring the rest of your post, but understanding the mechanics of the device is key to understanding why this might be useful for some people in very specific circumstances.
Kind of, but the rejection has lost it's sting because it's passive rather than active. Passive rejection has ambiguity which softens the blow. Active rejection is unambiguous and embarrassing.
i showed this to my fiance and she replied "that is fucking stupid"...............sooo yea...
"anonymously tapping your button" lmfao. Who else could have clicked the fuck button?
Mate, if you're hitting that button 5 times every morning for a month and it never lights up that's going to sting like a motherfucker.
But it also confirms that the issue goes beyond communication and into drive. Which is important information for addressing the problem.Mate, if you're hitting that button 5 times every morning for a month and it never lights up that's going to sting like a motherfucker.
Better to be ignored than rejected and negatively judged.Mate, if you're hitting that button 5 times every morning for a month and it never lights up that's going to sting like a motherfucker.
Is it really?
It won't solve the issue, your partner just won't press the button.
As someone who listens to a lot of Esther Perel podcasts, the scenario whereby 'one partner gives up asking for intimacy due to experiencing frequent rejection' is actually quite common.
As a relationship tool to assist these kinds of couples, it actually sounds like a pretty neat product that could help people.
On the other hand, jerking off and trying again tomorrow is free.
Oh shit. Can someone isolate the lower animation?
Yes of course, the sexual needs being ignored is the invariant, this will happen regardless. The only thing added is one partner feeling pressured or unable to satisfy needs and the other being rejected and unattractive, both of which will frustrate the future chance (and experience) of sex.Is it really?
Like negatively judged isn't necessary to the rejection. So let's just look at the rejection - it's at least communication, a conversation, resolution to a point
I don't really see how a person's libido or sexual needs being straight up ignored day in day out by a partner is all that much better to be honest
Obviously this doesn't take into account the way in which someone is rejected (IE, if they're are unpleasant, manipulative, vindictive, etc - then that's obviously basically abuse at that point, not rejection)
How does the product actually really change the situation. Other than giving the person rejecting an out?Yes of course, the sexual needs being ignored is the invariant, this will happen regardless. The only thing added is one partner feeling pressured or unable to satisfy needs and the other being rejected and unattractive, both of which will frustrate the future chance (and experience) of sex.