I don't think this thread was made in bad faith, just reeked of toxic attitude in the earnest hope of it be rationally pointed out why it is so, even though it is blatantly obvious to most us, here and now. OP is not alone with that attitude and I don't know how much his culture plays a part in this (because a lot incels are white and christian).
I know there are a few Era members who think anyone who did not grow up from the womb perfect, believing as they do in ways of openness and equity are shit human beings and are unworthy of their time. However, there are many more Era members, from personal experience, who understand that people come with all sorts of flaws and that they are capable of learning to be better, especially when they do not keep on deliberately flaming, trolling, gas lighting or doubling down on their regressive POV (like Boogie or Vavra). This is because these members are capable empathy given their own background. As someone who survived being red-pilled, I more often than not realize when a problematic theme presents itself in bad faith.
I just hope OP understands that women are people too, flaws and all, because the root of his issues are much deeper than just games.