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"Monogamy has been bullshit since day one and anyone who believes in it deserves to be cheated on."

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Heckler456

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Discuss.

This topic was just too juicy to simply give up on. I was personally surprised that there was more than one person who actually shared this belief with the person who made this comment in that "liberal men" thread, so I'd really love to see where these people are coming from. I always thought that polygamy was relegated to hippie communes, Mormons, and some African countries.

I'd also love to hear these people's thoughts on the decision of the United Nations to declare polygamy as violating the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights. Because, you know, I can see how you'd love to stray from a marriage as a person, I guess, but I do hope that these people understand the implications of polygamy on a population-wide scale.
 
TerminusFox

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Classic case of wanting to have your cake and to eat it too.

Either A) just sleep around as a single person orB) Find a partner who's polyamorous

Don't knock others for their choice of monogamy
 
gutter_trash

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polygamy does not compute with my jealous and introverted nature

monogamy is about trust, mutality, respect, love one-to-one.

polygamy is just STDs all over the place, disloylty, distrust, chaos, and dilution of love.

now you talk about international stuff. Polygamy is just an excuse for men to have multile wives. A power status for men over women
 
Hellwarden

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I mean, if you're not looking for a one on one thing, cool.

Just make sure you tell people that before you hook up.
 

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Gonna be honest. I feel anyone who thinks monogamy is easy or the default way humans should be is either living in a fantasy world or simply doesn't have all that many options.

We commit to monogamy for many reasons, but it is a commitment and it is over time very hard. We do it because we love our partners and don't want to hurt them.

But I feel way more people would be poly if they truly believed their partner would be OK with it. Especially if said partner had no problem staying exclusive in return. Men lie, women lie, numbers don't.
 

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I think there is merit to the idea that it could cause social unrest by creating inequality. Probably why polygamy is pretty niche and never really catches on.
 
RDreamer

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Monogamy as a societal standard to live up to is bullshit.

But no pretty much no one "deserves" to be cheated on. Unless they cheated themselves I guess.

If you don't want monogamy then don't do it. I hope more people feel free to choose other lifestyles that fit them as time goes on so we don't have this sort of dilemma.
 
Slayven

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Sounds like someone trying justify their bullshit.

Decide what you want in a relationship, tell the other parties if they agree cool, if not then other fish in the sea
 
TinfoilHatsROn

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This topic doesn't seem like it was made in good faith for discussion, and I was one of the ones in the thread who reacted to this comment. Eh. I dunno. Whatever.
 
Ogodei

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Polyamory is one of those things i struggle to understand. Rationally I get that there's no harm in it as long as everyone involved is informed and consenting, but as a long-term arrangement it leaves me scratching my head (this compared to something like Swinging, which I find more understandable for some reason).
 
collige

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I personally am not a fan of monogamy, but Barry Bond's post in the other thread was nonsensical because the defining property of cheating is the lying part which by definition makes you a prick.
 
Mr_Black

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I think genetically and perhaps naturally, women are meant to be group sexed on.

Why would we have sperms that are designed to fight other rival sperms otherwise?

I maybe wrong but assuming we do have a sperm that do battle, then one can infer that women are designed to be taking on multiple guys.
 
gcwy

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I couldn't image myself in a situation where I love two people at the same time. People cheat because they're no longer attracted to their SO, physically or otherwise.
 
Barry Bonds

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For all the people mentioning the societal problems associated with polygamy, you do realize those problems only arise because historically polygamy has been a one sided affair?

If we had true polygamy where both men and women can have as many partners as they desire, there would be no increase in crime etc.
 
nick shaw

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its really insanely easy not to cheat on one person, and monogamy is a million times easier to comprehend and manage than polygamy or polyamory, so frankly anyone who tries for more than one lover is either an idiot or addicted to love
 

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Highly disagree. While I enjoy the hunt when going out even while being in a relationship. I don't need to actually have sex with another person.

I'm all for open relationship to be a more common and less stigmatized as some people can't seem to function in a monogamy, but it's not for me.

I am surprised by the amount of men and women that are fine with being the lover (for one time or multiple times).

Mr_Black said:
I think genetically and perhaps naturally, women are meant to be group sexed on.

Why would we have sperms that are designed to fight other rival sperms otherwise?

I maybe wrong but assuming we do have a sperm that do battle, then one can infer that women are designed to be taking on multiple guys.
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Well male ducks have dicks made for rape and female vagina's are a maze to avoid getting raped. So I wouldn't infer anything based on just the male sexual characteristics.
 
Balma

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Sounds like someone who wants to fuck around but would get angry if the other person did the same.
 
nick shaw

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furthermore, we are ourselves one person. it stands to reason we should not try to bite off more than we can chew.
 
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Heckler456

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Barry Bonds said:
For all the people mentioning the societal problems associated with polygamy, you do realize those problems only arise because historically polygamy has been a one sided affair?

If we had true polygamy where both men and women can have as many partners as they desire, there would be no increase in crime etc.
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Yeah, and, how do you guarantee this happens the way you say it should? There's a reason that, historically speaking, polygamy ends up the way that it does today.
 
megloveszelda

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Blah. As somebody who is only interested in monogamous relationships, that is bullsh*t.

"Deserves to be cheated on" ... Damn.
 
TrueSloth

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If a couple wants to be in a monogomous relationship, that's up to them. If they want to be in a polygamous relationship, that's up to them. Its not up to others to tell people who to live their lives.
 
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low-G

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I don't know how you can make this statement without having been in a polygamous relationship.
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I don't think anyone besides a researcher is qualified to make this statement truly. I have polyamorous friends who have maintained relationships and so far at least one of their relationships eventually falls by the wayside (leading to problems).
 
Kyougar

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I think the society has to differentiate between married people that live together until they grow old and sexual partners.

For most couples, sex gets boring or the partner doesn't have the same sexual kinks that the other want. But both are happy in their marriage. They have kids and fell happy, just not sexually active with another. Having their sexual needs satisfied elsewhere with the approval of the other partner could let them continue their happy married life.
 
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