So my brother has been going through a divorce since last September from a controlling woman with some major problems, they had two kids together and he had one older child from another relationship. He moved in with my parents after she cheated on him and kicked him out of the house last December (the oldest son caught her in bed with another man). they seemed to be living a very high-class lifestyle big McMansion, two BMW's, the whole nine yards built on credit and debt. My brother got a lawyer but still talks to her and gets emails from her lawyer (which seems really wrong) and has been trying to negotiate a deal with her to go away. as he's been doing this my parents have been writing him checks for what my other brother and I think is close to $100,000 that's been going to pay her off or the lawyer fees. He refuses to go to court cause she has him convinced that her lawyer is better connected in town. She drinks, is addicted to pain killers, and yells at the kids but she has them convinced he will never get 50/50 custody of the kids. she used the only court meeting they had to say my brother was a heavy drinker (no dui's and no job issues) so he only gets to see his kids one day a week. She refuses to get a job and believes she is entitled to $7,000 a month (which is more then I make at my job) and is 75% of his monthly pay.
Both my parents have lost a significant amount of weight and have become heavily depressed. My mom refuses to leave the house and they are getting ready to sell their shore house in order to pay more of my brothers bills or create a large lump sum to pay her off. My other brother and I fear my parents are going to die penniless at the end of this and think because we are not concerned with money that it's okay to do all this.
This whole thing comes after today I asked to open a life insurance policy in my name to have it all go to his oldest son cause his wife wanted her none son removed from his. They think this is okay because I'm single and my bother will pay for it, my fear is what happens when he gets tight on money and now I'm somehow obligated to a child that's not mine for the rest of my life. I know this sounds mean but I have 7 nieces and nephews.
Both my parents have lost a significant amount of weight and have become heavily depressed. My mom refuses to leave the house and they are getting ready to sell their shore house in order to pay more of my brothers bills or create a large lump sum to pay her off. My other brother and I fear my parents are going to die penniless at the end of this and think because we are not concerned with money that it's okay to do all this.
This whole thing comes after today I asked to open a life insurance policy in my name to have it all go to his oldest son cause his wife wanted her none son removed from his. They think this is okay because I'm single and my bother will pay for it, my fear is what happens when he gets tight on money and now I'm somehow obligated to a child that's not mine for the rest of my life. I know this sounds mean but I have 7 nieces and nephews.
