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My gf had a dream in which I cheated on her and she is mad at me.
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Okay, this isn't "break up" worthy, but at the same time...
People saying to apologize? Accept it as a weird quirk? No wonder people talk about their relationships like a prison.
Part of communication is also accepting when you're 100% in the wrong and holding the L. Talking about gaslighting but "apologize even if it isn't your fault"
But again, OP's gf basically took the L and bought an apology gift without him having to remotely take it seriously.
If your partner has a mental illness, that's one thing. Outside of that...? Naw
People saying to apologize? Accept it as a weird quirk? No wonder people talk about their relationships like a prison.
Part of communication is also accepting when you're 100% in the wrong and holding the L. Talking about gaslighting but "apologize even if it isn't your fault"
But again, OP's gf basically took the L and bought an apology gift without him having to remotely take it seriously.
If your partner has a mental illness, that's one thing. Outside of that...? Naw
I can only hope, if I can set this one trend I can die a happy cookie.
Sure. OP was probably in a stinky mood all day because his GF was mad at him over her dream. That's emotional abuse. It's not a big deal if it was a one time thing, but if she does other things like this, it could eventually wear down on the relationship and make things untenable at a certain point.
Sorry to hear that OP. Next time you have to act faster and instantly dump her before she gets the chance to do something like that.
op ask her what the girl's name was in the dream
then we you have makeup sex you say that name
but for real, i've definitely had dreams that affected me emotionally upon waking up. sometimes it takes a while to really register what went down and rewire yourself from it
then we you have makeup sex you say that name
but for real, i've definitely had dreams that affected me emotionally upon waking up. sometimes it takes a while to really register what went down and rewire yourself from it
I was thinking about this thread because I had a dream about my girlfriend flirting with some guy last night. I shouldn't have had a banana before bed.
I get this periodically.
I think it's actually kind of a good thing because it shows that I love my wife enough that I'm afraid of losing her. That's really what's driving these kinds of dreams.
I don't get mad at my wife though because I'm mature enough to realize the deeper meaning of these types of dreams don't come from a place of genuine suspicion.
I think it's actually kind of a good thing because it shows that I love my wife enough that I'm afraid of losing her. That's really what's driving these kinds of dreams.
I don't get mad at my wife though because I'm mature enough to realize the deeper meaning of these types of dreams don't come from a place of genuine suspicion.
Depends what you mean by "okay". The whole episode was dumb, but I laughed my arse off and said the thing about having a counter-dream. She admitted that the whole thing had been dumb, although it took her a few days.
My wife still does this to me and we're in our 30's now. She's not projecting or emotionally unstable. Just a bit crazy I guess lol. I remember laughing hysterically at her when I first dealt with this, which probably didn't help. Even now I still just poke fun at her about it, in the end it's no big deal. It'll happen, she'll be mad for a bit, and then she'll get over it.
Dreams are short windows to various multiverses. You cheated on her, just not in this timeline. She still has the right to be upset.
I wouldn't go that far only because dreams are so tied to real-world emotions. Just talk it through with her, OP, and don't laugh at her.
If you believe this you should proibably never be in a relationship.
It happens OP I dont know why our minds do this. She'll get over it eventually or have a dream where shes the one cheating. I've had those kinds of dreams with my bf numerous times over the years we just laugh it off.
Now if she keeps running with it and remains or grows more hostile towards you then you might want to have a sit down.
Now if she keeps running with it and remains or grows more hostile towards you then you might want to have a sit down.
I had a GF who would do things like that, get angry for many reasons that were incomprehensible to me, including this. In the end, we broke up because of it, and it wasn't like the break up was any shock to me.
Yeah, it's probably this.
My girlfriend has done this a couple times. Although she qualified it by saying that she knows it's completely irrational, and that she's sorry for seeming mad at me for it. It just affects her mood for a few hours after waking up.
She said it's probably just because most of her past boyfriends had cheated on her.
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I put Freddy Krueger as her laptop wallpaper and told her she needs to keep it up for weekend to realize what she really should be afraid in terms of dreaming.
She barely even remember the dream now, just a blur and feeling pissed when she woke up. She is generally super chill so she even surprised herself.
She barely even remember the dream now, just a blur and feeling pissed when she woke up. She is generally super chill so she even surprised herself.
You. Are. An. Ass.
It is such typical behaviour of you to write me off as the crazy ex girlfriend due to your reluctance to do the most bare minimum of introspection. But on a goddamn forum we're both on???
I left you because you were an immature toff, and I didn't want to spend the rest of my days coming home to some troglodyte that was always on Era, playing Rocket League, thinking it was okay to make anti semitic jokes to their jewish girlfriend, having tantrums left and right over the most asinine shit, and incapable of articulating their needs and feelings to me. You couldn't even be bothered enough to take out the rubbish while I was away at work or take into consideration my work schedule the next morning whenever we tried to make date night plans. You constantly pissed off our friends by arriving late to everything. You pissed off my flatmate and wrote her off as an extreme racist when you were the one slamming doors at 2am knowing full well she had work the next morning and then leaving me to clean up your mess.
The fact that you immediately turned into a poonhound post breakup just solidifies so much I suspected about you. You lacked so much consideration for anyone that wasn't yourself and always will. I was a bigger fool to have stayed with you.
She said it to me and that "it must mean something", I started laughing like an idiot and told the only cheating I do is eating too much pizza in my diet and she went to gym to cool off.
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Went to gym
Went to Jim
Jim...
Uh oh OP. I think I just cracked the case.
I dunno, just tell her you would never cheat on her. Unless you think you could, then you got problems to deal with.
Damn your ex dun goofed. That kinda explains the anti Israel sentiments...
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I had an ex who was told by a fortune teller that I would cheat on her. It made our life miserable and she could never get that shit idea out of her head. Makes my blood boil just thinking about it.
The dream thing happened many times with her. It massively sucks to be guilt tripped for imagined actions over which you have no control.
The dream thing happened many times with her. It massively sucks to be guilt tripped for imagined actions over which you have no control.
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Honestly most of the people they pull shit like this are trying to coverup for their own infidelity.
Haha, I hear you OP! My girlfriend got mad at me when-
Wait, I've never had a girlfriend...
Carry on.
Wait, I've never had a girlfriend...
Carry on.
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