I been in this relationship with my current gf for almost 6 months now, and overall it's been great. We get along really well, great chemistry, enjoy similar hobbies, and just what you want in a healthy relationship. Only problem is her diagnosed anxiety and depression which manifest often as attacks towards me, and maybe appears strongly between 1-5 times a month depending on just what is happening in our lives.
Due to what I do for a living ai can afford to accommodate her wanting to leave public settings early, or change our plans on the fly. And even if she's irritable i'm great at giving space and doing small gestures after everything subside (like making a meal for both of us), which seems to work out.
Lately though she's been placing blame on me when she has episodes, and I've addressed this multiple times because we have open dialogue about all major aspects of our lives. During these discussions there's usually a gameplan like "I will tell you when to leave me alone or not text me so you won't be receiving mean or petty messages from me." Something along those lines are usually discuss, and I have no problem as I said giving space; still it usually turns into something that I did when a situation arises. Of course she apologizes afterwards, and comforts me heavily, but I don't want her to blame the actions mainly caused by her mental illness, and would rather just have us follow through on methods we've talked about. I honestly don't know what to do, and she is taking all her medication as prescribed or at least I'm making sure she is. I don't want this to be a breaking point down the line, and if I could, I would mentally fortify myself more to handle her outburst, but as of right now I'm just running out of physical and emotional stamina.
Era if you have ever face something like this please let me know.
Due to what I do for a living ai can afford to accommodate her wanting to leave public settings early, or change our plans on the fly. And even if she's irritable i'm great at giving space and doing small gestures after everything subside (like making a meal for both of us), which seems to work out.
Lately though she's been placing blame on me when she has episodes, and I've addressed this multiple times because we have open dialogue about all major aspects of our lives. During these discussions there's usually a gameplan like "I will tell you when to leave me alone or not text me so you won't be receiving mean or petty messages from me." Something along those lines are usually discuss, and I have no problem as I said giving space; still it usually turns into something that I did when a situation arises. Of course she apologizes afterwards, and comforts me heavily, but I don't want her to blame the actions mainly caused by her mental illness, and would rather just have us follow through on methods we've talked about. I honestly don't know what to do, and she is taking all her medication as prescribed or at least I'm making sure she is. I don't want this to be a breaking point down the line, and if I could, I would mentally fortify myself more to handle her outburst, but as of right now I'm just running out of physical and emotional stamina.
Era if you have ever face something like this please let me know.