First thing, sorry for another break up thread, but like many others here I don't have much of a social support net outside the internet.
I am 23/M and she is 22/F. We've been together for a year and a half, living together for a year. She's the first girl I've ever loved and she broke up with me today. On Thursday we both left for separate trips over the weekend. I went with my dad and brother to DC from friday to Monday, and she went to hang out with her old friend (a dude who I suspected she had feelings for) in upstate New York for the weekend. Red flag #1 was that she lied to me about the trip, telling me she was going to her mom's. I found out one way or another and she apologized a lot and told me nothing had happened with him or would happen with him. Red flag #2 was that she barely talked to me during the trip. I called her once a day and she never picked up the phone, and she barely answered my texts. Eventually it comes to Monday night and we are both supposed to be home (we lived together at my apartment), and she doesn't show up, telling me they stopped at his parents house and that he didn't want to drive her home and drive back alone (it was 1 am at this point, I got home at 12:30 am, she was about two hours away). I ask her if she needs help and ask to talk on the phone since we hadn't talked in like 4 or 5 days. She refused to take my calls. Flash forward to today, she calls me and breaks up with me. Says she didn't expect to have the feelings she had for this guy and that she felt our relationship had been going down hill for a while, and that she didn't want to try harder to fix it. She told me she slept with the guy over the weekend and she wants to try tbings out with him. She's coming over tonight to get her stuff out of my room.
We had also planned to share an apartment in the fall as well. It's a two bedroom, with one shared room bw us and one other guy. Neither of us can afford the room on our own, and she is asking me for the money back that she paid for first and last months rent, which I don't have and can't give to her. This part is kind of a nightmare since I already signed the lease and don't have any way to pay the full cost of the room, and I also can't giver her any money back.
I have read enough break up threads to know what to expect. I already deleted her number out of my phone, and blocked her on Instagram and facebook. Despite this, I can't avoid all contact with her. We have a summer class together twice a week, so I will have to see her there. Similarly, we scheduled our fall schedules so that we would have similar classes. I'm not sure how to deal with this so if anyone has any advice I'd appreciate it.
Beyond that, I'm not really sure what to do now. I want to start working out again, see a psychiatrist to deal with my anxiety, and try to make more friends. I think something I read need to work on is getting more confidence in myself. I'm not really sure how to do that either though, so any help there would also be greatly appreciated. I am feeling slightly ok right now but I know I will be in a lot of pain soon.
Sorry for the rant, just really needed to vent.
I am 23/M and she is 22/F. We've been together for a year and a half, living together for a year. She's the first girl I've ever loved and she broke up with me today. On Thursday we both left for separate trips over the weekend. I went with my dad and brother to DC from friday to Monday, and she went to hang out with her old friend (a dude who I suspected she had feelings for) in upstate New York for the weekend. Red flag #1 was that she lied to me about the trip, telling me she was going to her mom's. I found out one way or another and she apologized a lot and told me nothing had happened with him or would happen with him. Red flag #2 was that she barely talked to me during the trip. I called her once a day and she never picked up the phone, and she barely answered my texts. Eventually it comes to Monday night and we are both supposed to be home (we lived together at my apartment), and she doesn't show up, telling me they stopped at his parents house and that he didn't want to drive her home and drive back alone (it was 1 am at this point, I got home at 12:30 am, she was about two hours away). I ask her if she needs help and ask to talk on the phone since we hadn't talked in like 4 or 5 days. She refused to take my calls. Flash forward to today, she calls me and breaks up with me. Says she didn't expect to have the feelings she had for this guy and that she felt our relationship had been going down hill for a while, and that she didn't want to try harder to fix it. She told me she slept with the guy over the weekend and she wants to try tbings out with him. She's coming over tonight to get her stuff out of my room.
We had also planned to share an apartment in the fall as well. It's a two bedroom, with one shared room bw us and one other guy. Neither of us can afford the room on our own, and she is asking me for the money back that she paid for first and last months rent, which I don't have and can't give to her. This part is kind of a nightmare since I already signed the lease and don't have any way to pay the full cost of the room, and I also can't giver her any money back.
I have read enough break up threads to know what to expect. I already deleted her number out of my phone, and blocked her on Instagram and facebook. Despite this, I can't avoid all contact with her. We have a summer class together twice a week, so I will have to see her there. Similarly, we scheduled our fall schedules so that we would have similar classes. I'm not sure how to deal with this so if anyone has any advice I'd appreciate it.
Beyond that, I'm not really sure what to do now. I want to start working out again, see a psychiatrist to deal with my anxiety, and try to make more friends. I think something I read need to work on is getting more confidence in myself. I'm not really sure how to do that either though, so any help there would also be greatly appreciated. I am feeling slightly ok right now but I know I will be in a lot of pain soon.
Sorry for the rant, just really needed to vent.
