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My interest in gaming has hit an all time low today
- Thread starter Agni Kai
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You've gone from having alot of time to play games to something along the lines of a person with more responsibilities.
Perhaps there's a little tiredness thrown in, as I know I'm a lot less patient with games when tired.
Maybe it's time to change things up. Shorter single player games, and ease up on the online multiplayer. Sounds like you're a little too serious about it to get so upset over things you should just shrug off.
Perhaps there's a little tiredness thrown in, as I know I'm a lot less patient with games when tired.
Maybe it's time to change things up. Shorter single player games, and ease up on the online multiplayer. Sounds like you're a little too serious about it to get so upset over things you should just shrug off.
This is one of the reasons why the Switch is such an enormous success. It fits better in the live of mature people with a job and partner.
If at all possible, with the little time you have with games. Try to switch up the times you play, it sounds like you need to break the cycle you've been playing in. Changing up your gaming routine can help a lot.
If you're not used to working a full time job then the change can definitely affect you. There's no harm in having a break, focus on your work and then get back into gaming in a few months. As you settle into your new role you'll find that it's not as tiring and you adapt to the new work/life balance.
it's understandable wanting to play a short burst game like Overwatch or Apex when time is limited. HOwever, these games are stressful and competitive.
There could be other more relaxing games out there. Maybe puzzle games, or "walking simulator" games or whatever. Something that you can play in short spurts, but isn't raising the tension level.
There could be other more relaxing games out there. Maybe puzzle games, or "walking simulator" games or whatever. Something that you can play in short spurts, but isn't raising the tension level.
Yeah.
Shoot for beating 30 games instead of 50. Your gaming life is far from over.
Since iam getting successful in Blockchain with our company... i hardly have ever time or the urge to play something. I just want to work and get rich. ;)
There is more important stuff in the world then videogames.
I have less time than you and I go through peaks and troughs. Had a recent phase of Stardew Valley on the train commute in, and quietly sitting on the sofa to wind down after work.
I do like story based games so that can be challenging - I will tend to session those on a Sunday so I don't lose too much track of where I am.
I do like story based games so that can be challenging - I will tend to session those on a Sunday so I don't lose too much track of where I am.
I'm in the same boat, I worked a job that I hated so I spent a lot of time playing video games late into the night and not getting sleep and coming in the next day late and tired. Video games was an escape for me at that point.
Fast forward to now, I'm working a job I enjoy, at a salary that I'm very happy with, and now I'm down to maybe like an hour of video games a day. I'll play a few hours more during the weekend if that. The Switch though is awesome for the train ride.
Fast forward to now, I'm working a job I enjoy, at a salary that I'm very happy with, and now I'm down to maybe like an hour of video games a day. I'll play a few hours more during the weekend if that. The Switch though is awesome for the train ride.
Yeah, 9 1/2 hours a day wasted at work is definitely not something i would do 5 times a week.
Never hurts to take a break and find new hobbies. I have a busy job, a girlfriend and a social life. At times, it's tough to find time to sit down and play a game. I usually get 3-5 hours on a Sunday, which is a nice block of time. Recently I got back into reading. Once I had put the controller down for a couple weeks, I slowly started to regain some interest in games I hadn't played yet.
It can come and go. Simply go with the flow, enjoy other hobbies and don't stress too much. Games will always be here.
It can come and go. Simply go with the flow, enjoy other hobbies and don't stress too much. Games will always be here.
Since I got my job I just do whatever on weekdays when I get home and play more on weekends instead. Playing longer games is doable, you just have to keep at it. No one says you actually have to finish a game in one sitting.
Seems like OP has the gaming time most people over 25 have. Get used to it before marriage and kids come.
I probably game once a week, maybe twice, for 2-3 hours. I've just become incredibly selective about what games I play and the time investment. I'm no longer going to be the enthusiast who plays every great game, but I'm still getting a lot of excellent experiences.
I've been in a similar mood recently. I was super excited for Kingdom Hearts 3 - I've played maybe 20 hours since it came out. It's fun, but just wasn't all I was expecting after 13 years. I almost always buy the new big games. But I skipped Anthem, Division 2, and Sekiro. Not sure what it is. But the last 2 games I really, really enjoyed were BotW and God of War. But those are generational games, so I'm not sure when another will come.
I did try Subnautica last night and found that really engaging. Mostly because I have a fear of open water, so I felt like it was therapeutic in some way.
I did try Subnautica last night and found that really engaging. Mostly because I have a fear of open water, so I felt like it was therapeutic in some way.
Those are all normal feelings, frustration and such
Sounds like you have an unreasonable standard of how many games you played before the job and not, you especially seem like you play too many games if you beat 50 in 2018.
Take time with some titles and let them simmer longer if you enjoy them. For example, had you not bought RE2 and KH3 at the same time you'd have beaten one of the RE2 pathes in a combined 6 hours ish (you said 3 hours each)
It's okay for your life to change and time to be limited but the games didn't change, you did it. You have to understand this and adapt. Weekends, late nights, small pockets here and there will show you you do have time for it. Any partner should support you engaging in your hobbies as well so hopefully yours does too
Sometimes games do require us to sit down and persevere for a bit, just take a small break and then get back at it.
I think a big key would be try a game that's very different than what you normally play. I'd recommend Stardew Valley imo
Sounds like you have an unreasonable standard of how many games you played before the job and not, you especially seem like you play too many games if you beat 50 in 2018.
Take time with some titles and let them simmer longer if you enjoy them. For example, had you not bought RE2 and KH3 at the same time you'd have beaten one of the RE2 pathes in a combined 6 hours ish (you said 3 hours each)
It's okay for your life to change and time to be limited but the games didn't change, you did it. You have to understand this and adapt. Weekends, late nights, small pockets here and there will show you you do have time for it. Any partner should support you engaging in your hobbies as well so hopefully yours does too
Sometimes games do require us to sit down and persevere for a bit, just take a small break and then get back at it.
I think a big key would be try a game that's very different than what you normally play. I'd recommend Stardew Valley imo
Welcome to real life OP lol
Best option is to take a break from gaming and come back refreshed in a few weeks or however long you feel but get used to playing in shorter bursts because gaming time probably isn't going to get any better from now on. You get used to it though, I did.
Best option is to take a break from gaming and come back refreshed in a few weeks or however long you feel but get used to playing in shorter bursts because gaming time probably isn't going to get any better from now on. You get used to it though, I did.
DId you try narrative-focused, more shorter games? I mean, if you enjoy good stories, as in books, movies, TV series, why not enjoying them interactively.
If that doesn't work, try games that rely almost purely on gameplay but don't need much investments (lots of smaller, indie games).
Or relaxing games that aren't competitive and easy to play and are easy to progress in (e.g. Elder Scrolls Online).
Also, replay old games you love. I find myself more often replaying old stuff than all this new mainstreamed stuff. Memories attached to it come back and I REALLY enjoy myself playing and not wondering, almost begging, when does a game finally ends.
Stop playing games you don't enjoy and don't force yourself. I gave up on AC Odyssey for example, after roughly 35h. At first it kind of ticks in your head, nagging you, that you have unfinished business. But soon you'll realize that there are no obligations; the game's job is to be fun to you.
If that doesn't work, try games that rely almost purely on gameplay but don't need much investments (lots of smaller, indie games).
Or relaxing games that aren't competitive and easy to play and are easy to progress in (e.g. Elder Scrolls Online).
Also, replay old games you love. I find myself more often replaying old stuff than all this new mainstreamed stuff. Memories attached to it come back and I REALLY enjoy myself playing and not wondering, almost begging, when does a game finally ends.
Stop playing games you don't enjoy and don't force yourself. I gave up on AC Odyssey for example, after roughly 35h. At first it kind of ticks in your head, nagging you, that you have unfinished business. But soon you'll realize that there are no obligations; the game's job is to be fun to you.
I've been doing the restricted gaming time thing for a while now. It's just become a bit more of a deliberate activity.
My tips would be:
- don't play more than one or two games simultaneously
- step back from time to time and ask yourself why you're playing something, move on if you don't have a decent answer
- only move to the next thing when you're done aka don't build a backlog
- listen to a gaming podcast to "keep up", if you don't want to lose that part of gaming
The reason I'm not advising to play different types of games is that if you'd enjoyed them more, you'd already be playing them. So I would rather sit on a game I like for weeks than do something I'm not actually all that crazy about.
The backlog thing is about feeling pressure to play or even guilt for not playing something. You don't want that in your life, it ruins the hobby. Saves you money, too.
I'm also playing Apex right now and having a great time. I might do Sekiro next, who knows.
My tips would be:
- don't play more than one or two games simultaneously
- step back from time to time and ask yourself why you're playing something, move on if you don't have a decent answer
- only move to the next thing when you're done aka don't build a backlog
- listen to a gaming podcast to "keep up", if you don't want to lose that part of gaming
The reason I'm not advising to play different types of games is that if you'd enjoyed them more, you'd already be playing them. So I would rather sit on a game I like for weeks than do something I'm not actually all that crazy about.
The backlog thing is about feeling pressure to play or even guilt for not playing something. You don't want that in your life, it ruins the hobby. Saves you money, too.
I'm also playing Apex right now and having a great time. I might do Sekiro next, who knows.
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I don't think this is game-related in any way.
I see this in anyone who works long hours, not just gamers, but anyone who values their free time or has any kind of hobby.
It has nothing to do with games, it's just not a healthy lifestyle imo. Stress buildup, lack of free time to relax, lack of time to chill with your family etc.
I see this in anyone who works long hours, not just gamers, but anyone who values their free time or has any kind of hobby.
It has nothing to do with games, it's just not a healthy lifestyle imo. Stress buildup, lack of free time to relax, lack of time to chill with your family etc.
I'm 49 and still love gaming, been playing all my life. I take long breaks sometimes and binge on TV shows, there are sooooooo many 10/10 TV shows that can suck up hundreds of hours and are well worth the investment - Breaking Bad, The Wire, Rome, Deadwood, Mad Men, Spartacus, Black Sails, Sopranos, The Good Place, Parks and Rec, Star Trek TNG/DS9, Battlestar Galactica, etc, etc. Once you sink a few months into just watching great shows you will be jonesing to play an amazing single player game like Spider Man or God of War to get that deep narrative immersion in an interactive medium.
Switching genres definitely helps a lot. I still play daily games of Black Ops 4 and WW2, but I'll also switch to single player games and once I find one I love I finish it. I do like multiplayer, battle royale games but I find them to be a bit like busy work, you get them done and they are fun but they don't hit the emotional highs and resonance of something like a Witcher 3 or Nier Automata. I'd burn out of gaming if all I played were MP games.
I am really enjoying Division 2 now, mostly solo, the "grind" of constantly upgrading loot scratches some weird itch.
Switching genres definitely helps a lot. I still play daily games of Black Ops 4 and WW2, but I'll also switch to single player games and once I find one I love I finish it. I do like multiplayer, battle royale games but I find them to be a bit like busy work, you get them done and they are fun but they don't hit the emotional highs and resonance of something like a Witcher 3 or Nier Automata. I'd burn out of gaming if all I played were MP games.
I am really enjoying Division 2 now, mostly solo, the "grind" of constantly upgrading loot scratches some weird itch.
Honest advice from an old fart: Gauge your priorities.
Don't listen to anyone telling you how many hours you should "play" a day, or how many hours you should "work" a day, and even less how many hours you should "take care of your wife and kids" a day.
Do you enjoy video games? If you don't ask yourself why? Is it a byproduct of lacking "free time"? Is it simply some lack of interest on your current games? Is it possible that's it's simply your taste is evolving over time?
Do you enjoy your work? Could you accommodate for less work hours to have more "free time"? If not, why? Social obligations and peer pressure? Is it because you simply need the wages?
I don't have the answer to your problem, and trust me I doubt anyone around here do. Just try to ask yourself the "good questions". I just listed some obvious examples. There are many other relevant questions to be asked. And answered as honestly as possible. As always, try to think outside the box. It's easier said than done, I know. But still, give it some thought.
He has standard working hours as most people do, id assume if he's getting home at 6:30, he's done with work earlier than that.
Lol!
Have a break for a month OP. I've been playing since '87 and a break a few times per year helps a lot.
Here's your problem OP, you're playing rubbish.
Sekiro just came out. Try that.
Its just you are tired after work or just in lazy mode and don't want to put an effort to do anything. Of course its comfy to passively watch other playing games, its like watching TV.
You're busy and tired. It's okay to take a break from games or just play certain kinds of games. Gaming isn't a job and you don't have to do it a certain way.
I was in a similar boat a little while back, so I decided to stop playing Blizzard games, and stop playing a game if it wasn't fun. Things definitely improved.
Sound like a regular adult life...
My day starts at 5.45 am. After showering and so on I take the dog for a walk and my working day starts at about 7.15 am. I'm home at about 4.45 pm then I'm taking the dog for a walk again. After that I'm going to cook, eat and spent some time with my girlfriend, from 8.15 pm until about 9.45 pm I'm going to the gym three to four times a week. When I get home I prepare some food for the next day, spent some time with the dog and at 11 pm I'm going to sleep. If I'm lucky I got 30 minutes to 1 hour on a regular day for video games.
My day starts at 5.45 am. After showering and so on I take the dog for a walk and my working day starts at about 7.15 am. I'm home at about 4.45 pm then I'm taking the dog for a walk again. After that I'm going to cook, eat and spent some time with my girlfriend, from 8.15 pm until about 9.45 pm I'm going to the gym three to four times a week. When I get home I prepare some food for the next day, spent some time with the dog and at 11 pm I'm going to sleep. If I'm lucky I got 30 minutes to 1 hour on a regular day for video games.
This happened to me. I'm 28 I work 4 10 hour shifts. I also have a 3 year old. I stopped playing games for a few months and came back. I used to play every game that caught my interest. I stopped playing as many games and just focused on the ones that really interested me. I'm having just as much fun as I did before.
I heard that Apparently the one of biggest regrets of people when they are on their death beds when asked was
I worked too hard
https://www.businessinsider.com/5-things-people-regret-on-their-deathbed-2013-12?r=US&IR=T
I worked too hard
https://www.businessinsider.com/5-things-people-regret-on-their-deathbed-2013-12?r=US&IR=T
Take a breather OP. Gaming was my main hobby for all of my teenage/young adulthood, but around 24-25 it started taking a backseat. I still enjoy it, but I'm playing probably 4-5 hours a week now and find Nintendo (which has always been my favorite) tends to hold my attention the most.
OP says they get home at 6:30 though - so that isn't working hours, just working + travel time. Seems not bad to me
As others notes, it's just normal for it to ebb and flow as you get older, busier and have more responsibilities. Gaming requires attention, focus and effort while providing few (if any) tangible rewards. Thus it's easy to not feel like it after a day of work and prefer just watching TV/movies/sports on the couch. Or to do something like work out or work on home improvement projects or what not that have more tangible rewards.
The simplest advice I can give as a 40 year old that's dealt with gaming fatigue for years is to follow this one simple rule: Only play a game when you truly want to play it.
That means not forcing your self to play out of boredom on days you don't feel like playing (even if it's a game you've been enjoying), not caring about hype and just playing the games you are truly excited about regardless of buzz, review scores, forum hype etc., and not feeling obligated to finish games you buy if you aren't feeling them.
I enjoy gaming much more since doing that, along with disconnecting a fair bit from the online gaming community--just this site left and I'm very choosy about what threads I click on and which I post in and avoid all arguments now.
The simplest advice I can give as a 40 year old that's dealt with gaming fatigue for years is to follow this one simple rule: Only play a game when you truly want to play it.
That means not forcing your self to play out of boredom on days you don't feel like playing (even if it's a game you've been enjoying), not caring about hype and just playing the games you are truly excited about regardless of buzz, review scores, forum hype etc., and not feeling obligated to finish games you buy if you aren't feeling them.
I enjoy gaming much more since doing that, along with disconnecting a fair bit from the online gaming community--just this site left and I'm very choosy about what threads I click on and which I post in and avoid all arguments now.
It got really crazy for me when I got married and got a new job
The switch was the savior. I could play during any short period of time imaginable, I would take my care to maintenance, and play while waiting. My wife hugging the tv, and me playing, even at work - yep at work during lunch break.
I would also say, take your time, its okay if you can only do 1-2 hours a day. Maybe play shorter story driven games on your consoles, gamepass is great for this, or sony's exclusives.
For longer games, I can make them happen easier on switch. That is why i have 150 hours there on xeno 2, and only like 10 in persona 5
The switch was the savior. I could play during any short period of time imaginable, I would take my care to maintenance, and play while waiting. My wife hugging the tv, and me playing, even at work - yep at work during lunch break.
I would also say, take your time, its okay if you can only do 1-2 hours a day. Maybe play shorter story driven games on your consoles, gamepass is great for this, or sony's exclusives.
For longer games, I can make them happen easier on switch. That is why i have 150 hours there on xeno 2, and only like 10 in persona 5
This resonates so closely with me. I only choose and play games I'm REALLY interested in. Also I'm rarely able to play new games as they come out as I'm still giving my attention to what I'd already set my sights on. I then may play these newer games 6-18 months after they come out and a real benefit is there are plenty of reviews, bugs fixed, potentially Switch ported, often cheaper etc.