The philosophy behind engaging with bigots as a means to influence and shape their worldviews is not mutually exclusive with defending the rights of minorities and those persecuted by bigotry, nor those persecuted from defending themselves and their wellbeing from bigotry. It's not binary, it's not this-or-that, and the onus of responsibility and action and method of engagement is complicated and multifaceted like all things human.
Studies have shown time and time again that addressing many of the root causes that lead to bigoted worldviews (and easy indoctrination into bigotry) almost assuredly requires the erosion of classism and divisiveness. Education and discourse, particularly exposure to groups that would otherwise be persecuted, is essential in shaping a person's worldview and understanding of culture. Until the root causes that lead people down these paths, in all their nuances and phases, is addressed head-on it'll never, ever, forever go away. As long as social classism and its imbalances drive people see division, or a necessity for division, and a value in targetting minority groups as the cause of problems, we're going to have bigotry in all its repugnant, volatile forms.
It's a hard conversation to have and it's a hard problem to address because it's emotionally vacant or without risk. And it doesn't alleviate those who are victims or potential victims of the persecutions perpetrated by bigotry. Hence why, and I'll repeat this until people actually fucking understand it, what the studies suggest also does not rob people of the necessity to protect themselves and their own freedoms. This is precisely what makes it challenging, and where that conversation on the onus of social responsibility gets heated.
But no matter how persecuted you might feel or actually be, no matter how vulnerable your identity is in whatever society you're a part of, and no matter how wholly, totally valid you are in feeling both persecuted and vulnerable because you actually are, the methodology of confronting all bigotry with screaming and violence will not get rid of it. It won't. It doesn't. There's no evidence in all of human history of this ever working, ever. In any form. You can straight up kill the people perpetuating it and the ideological poison can still fester, and the paths that lead people towards bigotry be just as set in stone as they ever were.
And none of what I'm saying, and I really must repeat this point again and again, is to dismiss direct action against bigotry particularly from those who are persecuted. I'm a white straight male in a Western developed country, so I sure as shit don't have much to worry about in the scope of bigoted persecution. But if we want to, as a society and as a people, rip out bigotry from the roots and really make long lasting changes to people, society, what we believe and how we get there, the struggle, unfortunately, is going to involve a lot of direct, complicated, emotionally challenging conversations and confrontations.
But again, it's not all mutually exclusive. There are also methods that can be implemented to additionally help with the immediate influx of bigoted ideologies. Deplatforming is one of them, something of which the media is fucking abhorrent at, choosing to give bigoted perspectives a seemingly valid perspective to argue instead of outright challenging them. This more aggressive approach, closing off pathways that allow radicalisation and bigotry to fester, are also absolutely important (and can be applied to a lot of branches of predatory indoctrination, like the military preying on poorer communities). But in the long run actually combating bigotry is going to require a lot more work, too.