I find the implication that I am somehow a bigot because I don't want to have sex with someone possessing a penis to be both incredible and hilarious.
Do post-op transwomen not exist?
I find the implication that I am somehow a bigot because I don't want to have sex with someone possessing a penis to be both incredible and hilarious.
No, I won't date trans, fats, ugly people. What's the peoblem?
Humans have sex with the sewage system. How fucked it is that?
Humans have sex with the sewage system. How fucked it is that?
No, I won't date trans, fats, ugly people. What's the peoblem?
The study really should have taken that into consideration. I don't think it's fair to call out people in this thread for not directly addressing post-op individuals when the study in the OP didn't bother either.
The study really should have taken that into consideration. I don't think it's fair to call out people in this thread for not directly addressing post-op individuals when the study in the OP didn't bother either.
mhmm.
let me preface that I'm a straight male. I've jumped into the online dating scene recently and seen a couple of cute trans women that I wanted to reach out to. Something that I don't ever see in their profiles is whether or not they are post op or pre op.. and yeah, dating a human with a penis isn't really in the books for me.
if they don't mention it, is there a way to bring this up without coming off as a creep? I feel like I only have 2 options.. 1) Assume it's pre op and pass on the potential date or 2) Strike up conversation and eventually get down to the question.
anyone have any advice/experience with this kind of situation? Additionally, if you're a trans person is there a reason that you would leave that information out? I feel like I might be missing out on potential mates because I'm too afraid to ask the question. :c
I'm suggesting that maybe people should look at that fucking absurd percentage and actually stop for a moment to consider that you don't get that high of a number without immense amounts of prejudice and ignorance, instead of once agaín co-opting a trans thread and turning it into a thread about themselves as cis straight men, and how offended they are when confronted by the fact that they don't really think trans women are women.
But that was the study.It's totally fair to call out people making broad assumptions about an entire demographic.
Yeah, the study should have specified that. I'm certain that the average person doesn't think about people who are post-op with hormone therapy and all of that stuff
That doesn't explain the situation of what happens when a person in a relationship can't have kids.
If the entire relationship was precipitated on having kids, and apparently everyone in this thread is hung up on their DNA being splattered around, then logically they would have serious hangups down the road if one party had difficulty in fertility.
The study really should have taken that into consideration. I don't think it's fair to call out people in this thread for not directly addressing post-op individuals when the study in the OP didn't bother either.
mhmm.
let me preface that I'm a straight male. I've jumped into the online dating scene recently and seen a couple of cute trans women that I wanted to reach out to. Something that I don't ever see in their profiles is whether or not they are post op or pre op.. and yeah, dating a human with a penis isn't really in the books for me.
if they don't mention it, is there a way to bring this up without coming off as a creep? I feel like I only have 2 options.. 1) Assume it's pre op and pass on the potential date or 2) Strike up conversation and eventually get down to the question.
anyone have any advice/experience with this kind of situation? Additionally, if you're a trans person is there a reason that you would leave that information out? I feel like I might be missing out on potential mates because I'm too afraid to ask the question. :c
It's a natural by-product of being raised in an environment that equates biological sex markers with gender. People's preferences are so intertwined with bullshit because are taught that only men have penises.
At the end of the day that is how you feel and nobody can force you to change. But it's worth recognising that it's more complicated than an innate dislike of dicks.
I find the implication that I am somehow a bigot because I don't want to have sex with someone possessing a penis to be both incredible and hilarious.
I wouldn't equate sexual preference to social acceptance. I have absolutely nothing against transpeople; I want them to have every major freedom & right a person can have. However, for my own personal sexual preference, I wouldn't want to date someone who was.
At a certain point, an individual's persons sexual preference is theirs to do with as they please while also not being labelled a transphobe or what-have-you.
The "I want kids" argument is always bullshit because CIS women can easily not be able to have kids for multitude of reasons, so do you just dump them the moment fertility is out the window?
Did you give up on insisting that wanting to procreate (but only 2 or 3 times!) is in our biological makeup? It being a preference isn't really relevant to your original point.Except you're making the assumption that this is about conveniently handwaving away behaviour when it's not. People have preferences, and hell, we're already seeing comments from people ITT that said they broke up with their SOs or wouldn't date trans people because of fertility concerns and/or lack of sexual attraction. Are we gonna say that their logic behind dating is BS even though they have the right and freedom to their sexuality?
Not surprising. Not only is there an issue with sexual compatibility, but dating a trans person is just difficult. I dated a trans woman for a year, and she was an awesome person but that relationship was stressful due to the baggage she had to carry from the abuse she experienced in her life. There was a night I had to physically restrain her from killing herself. There's no way I could ever enter a relationship like that again. Obviously not all trans people are in that position, but I understand it's a hurdle when many people are just looking for something carefree.
I piss out of my penis and I stick it in a hole that also pisses. Or I stick it in a hole that shits. Or I stick it in a hole that spits.
I piss out of my penis and I stick it in a hole that also pisses. Or I stick it in a hole that shits. Or I stick it in a hole that spits.
But I want to change this mindset, and that's where the difference is. I'm aware that this way of thinking is absolutely 100% fucking wrong, and doesn't align with my personal beliefs that everyone should be afforded equal rights. Truth be told, I don't know how, and that's perhaps the scariest part of all for me.It's a natural by-product of being raised in an environment that equates biological sex markers with gender. People's preferences are so intertwined with bullshit because are taught that only men have penises.
At the end of the day that is how you feel and nobody can force you to change. But it's worth recognising that it's more complicated than an innate dislike of dicks.
Difference between knowing someone can't have children from day 1 versus you both finding out years later. Someone might decide their partner is more important than potential children by that point.
Not that anybody needs a reason to not date someone.
I piss out of my penis and I stick it in a hole that also pisses. Or I stick it in a hole that shits. Or I stick it in a hole that spits.
For me personally, dating a trans woman doesn't fit my self-image or idea of attraction.
I would totally date a trans woman, but unless she's has surgery there won't be any hanky-panky because I am simply not into penises, except for a very abusive relationship with my own.
I remember a thread on GAF from like 10-11 years ago where people considered it acceptable to beat up a trans person if you had sex with them and they only disclosed that they were trans after the fact. I think we've made progress since then (I doubt many would consider that socially acceptable now) but we've still got quite a long way to go.
I'm suggesting that maybe people should look at that fucking absurd percentage and actually stop for a moment to consider that you don't get that high of a number without immense amounts of prejudice and ignorance, instead of once agaín co-opting a trans thread and turning it into a thread about themselves as cis straight men, and how offended they are when confronted by the fact that they don't really think trans women are women.
A cis woman finding out she cant have kids is vastly different than a trans woman not being able to have kids. My best friend and his wife recently found out she cant have kids and its been a huge emotional blow to both of them, shes suffered the most and his been her pillar of support though out the who process. Adoption is now on the table for them. Unless you have that mindset you are not going to consider it until you are put in that situation.
Their reasoning seems to be bigoted.Do you think it's fair when folks respond to posts suggesting every person who decides not to have a relationship with or have sex with a trans person is a bigot?
I piss out of my penis and I stick it in a hole that also pisses. Or I stick it in a hole that shits. Or I stick it in a hole that spits.
I mean, we still get fat shaming on the regularI remember a thread on GAF from like 10-11 years ago where people considered it acceptable to beat up a trans person if you had sex with them and they only disclosed that they were trans after the fact. I think we've made progress since then (I doubt many would consider that socially acceptable now) but we've still got quite a long way to go.
You're not attracted to "women" or else you'd be attracted to literally any woman in the world. You are attracted specifically to aesthetically and sexually pleasing traits that would be associated with female bodies. If you are not attracted to a trans woman because of her body/appearance, whether pre or post op, that's only logical. If however you found a trans woman who was so convincing in her post op appearance that you could never know the difference and suddenly lost attraction once you found out she once had a penis, then it would be a sign of internal prejudice.
That's how I see it anyway.