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excelsiorlef

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Alicia Hobson’s 11-year-old daughter, Azlyn, was counting down the days until the Valentine’s Day dance at her Utah middle school.

“She was so excited she could barely sleep,” Hobson told TODAY Parents, noting that the sixth grader picked out her outfit a week ahead of time.


"It was supposed to be the best day ever," Hobson, 37, said.

But it wasn't.

That afternoon, when Azlyn got home, she had an "emotional explosion" in the kitchen, while recounting how a boy who makes her uncomfortable had asked her to dance.

“She politely said, ‘No thank you,’” Hobson revealed. The problem? At Rich Middle School in Laketown, Utah, it's against the rules to say "no," and principal Kip Motta allegedly intervened when he heard Azlyn decline the invitation at the dance.

“He said something like, ‘No, no. You kids go out and dance,’” Hobson revealed. “He basically shooed Azlyn and the boy off onto the dance floor.”


Azlyn told her mother she “hated every minute” and was “so relieved” when the song finally ended.

Motta and Rich School District Superintendent Dale Lamborn did not immediately respond to emails seeking comment. But Motta stood by the school’s policy in a letter to Hobson.

“We do ask all students to dance. It is the nice thing to do and this will continue to be our policy,” Motta wrote on Feb. 15. “There have been similar situations in the past where some students have felt uncomfortable with others, and, as stated prior, the issues were discreetly handled. This allowed all students to feel welcome, comfortable, safe, and included.”

Motta added that Hobson always has the option to check Azlyn out of school during dances, which are held in the daytime.
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Maybe the school just shouldnt do dances for 11 year olds during the school day.

Or is 11 the right age to make the unpopular kids very very aware of that fact in a public and embarrassing way? Ya gotta assume the impetus was to keep kids from being crushed having everyone say no. Dumb "solution" though, that's for sure.
 
Kcannon

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Next time say "negative" or "never".

Or maybe run away or ignore the person.

I dunno. There has to be a loophole.
 
takriel

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They are only preparing these girls for the inevitable future, we should thank them!

/s
 
Bigwombat

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That's a weird and inappropriate policy. I get the spirit behind it but that should never be enforced. Totally tone deaf written policy
 
Musubi

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Great instead of teaching boys about consent they are just teaching them that they can have whatever they want if they just take it. Great lesson your teaching them. 🤮🤮
 
dennett316

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I sort of get what they think they're trying to do - ensure a kid doesn't get humiliated by having people reject them - but it's completely unworkable and open to cause even more humiliation. A bully asks their victim to dance and the victim can't say no? Come on now school board/principal/whoever made this call, think this shit through, it's so open to abuse. Disregarding one person's in favour of another is just ridiculous, especially when it comes to things like dancing, effectively forcing them into contact with someone they don't want to be around. That's fucked up.
 
Lebron

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Yeahhh, this policy isn't going to last for them now that it's getting reported on.

Idiots
 
Hyun Sai

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How in the hell the morons didn't see how fucked up this is and how bad this would look ?
 
Lord Fagan

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I remember school dances, A. had parental chaperones in addition to faculty/admin, and B. didn't actually start until middle school.

I feel both old and like I went to public school on a different planet.

11?

Fucking seriously?
 
Kyrios

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Complete lack of consent is what every developing young boy needs in today's society /s
 
rude

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Now if a boy asked another boy to dance, they would've shut that down with the quickness
 
Mirage

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This kind of thing sets a terrible precedent for consent. Kids should absolutely be able to say no to something like that.
 
CDX

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sangreal said:
We have been through this before

Kids at one Utah Elementary must say yes if another kid asks to dance

http://www.thenewstribune.com/news/nation-world/national/article199747849.html#fmp An elementary school policy aimed at promoting tolerance at a Valentine’s Day dance has a Utah mother upset over the “bad message” she says it’s sending to students. Natalie Richard thought her daughter was...
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I thought this was a bump of the old thread. Is that school STILL doing this?

Kanesville Elementary dance in West Haven, Utah
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excelsiorlef said:
At Rich Middle School in Laketown, Utah
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wait... MULTIPLE SCHOOLS IN UTAH have this same stupid school dance policy?
 
MIMIC

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sangreal said:
We have been through this before

Kids at one Utah Elementary must say yes if another kid asks to dance

http://www.thenewstribune.com/news/nation-world/national/article199747849.html#fmp An elementary school policy aimed at promoting tolerance at a Valentine’s Day dance has a Utah mother upset over the “bad message” she says it’s sending to students. Natalie Richard thought her daughter was...
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Yeah, I thought this sounded familiar....
 
JLP101

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Its amazing how wrong school policy can get when teaching children life lessons.
 
Wackamole

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sangreal said:
We have been through this before

Kids at one Utah Elementary must say yes if another kid asks to dance

http://www.thenewstribune.com/news/nation-world/national/article199747849.html#fmp An elementary school policy aimed at promoting tolerance at a Valentine’s Day dance has a Utah mother upset over the “bad message” she says it’s sending to students. Natalie Richard thought her daughter was...
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I was just thinking that i've heard this before.
 
MagicDrone

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What's wrong with them to force kids to do stuff? My 11 year old self would have started screaming in a similar situation... This is so wrong...
 
WhySoDevious

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Probably from the same adults that think that a grown man asking children sexual questions behind closed doors is okay.
 
Dan Thunder

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I'm assuming this obviously applies if the roles are reversed but in this day and age what a stupid message to send to boys. You should get what you ask for and if a girl turns you down get a big white guy to force her to do what you want no matter how uncomfortable it makes her feel.
 
SageShinigami

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I see what they're doing here, but...no. No, it's dumb. Because see, when you get out into the real world you're going to get rejected. A lot. So you might as well get used to it young.
 

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So some cyber bully or asshole harasser can make anyone dance and the teacher will side with them if they don’t know what’s happening amongst the kids
 
fontguy

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“It is the nice thing to do.”

I don’t know what exactly it is about this that pisses me off so much, but it pisses me off so much.
 
grand

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What is it with Utah Schools making little girls dance against their will:

Kids at one Utah Elementary must say yes if another kid asks to dance

http://www.thenewstribune.com/news/nation-world/national/article199747849.html#fmp An elementary school policy aimed at promoting tolerance at a Valentine’s Day dance has a Utah mother upset over the “bad message” she says it’s sending to students. Natalie Richard thought her daughter was...
www.resetera.com www.resetera.com
 
DPT120

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sangreal said:
We have been through this before

Kids at one Utah Elementary must say yes if another kid asks to dance

http://www.thenewstribune.com/news/nation-world/national/article199747849.html#fmp An elementary school policy aimed at promoting tolerance at a Valentine’s Day dance has a Utah mother upset over the “bad message” she says it’s sending to students. Natalie Richard thought her daughter was...
www.resetera.com www.resetera.com

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I thought the headline seemed familiar.
 
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