One of my friends proposed we get married for the benefits

Deleted member 12790 · Dec 4, 2019

We're both currently single, he lives across the country but we were roommates in college.

I'm very honestly struggling with a reason to say no? Is this a thing people do? Is there any reason why we honestly shouldn't?

John Rabbit · Dec 4, 2019

The benefits of....what exactly? Taxes?

TheJackdog · Dec 4, 2019

why do you need a reason to not want to marry someone?

thats the reason.

and what are the benefits? just tax? it....really does NOT seem worth it.

The negatives will outweigh tenfold if you divorce

EssBeeVee · Dec 4, 2019

sexy benefits?

Einchy · Dec 4, 2019

John Rabbit said:
The benefits of....what exactly? Taxes?

Sex.

tommyv2 · Dec 4, 2019

Go for it. It's not a bad idea, and your marriage will likely be more successful than the average one.

Mesoian · Dec 4, 2019

Like...tax and health insurance benefits?

Are the two of you already in a situation where you'd be able to benefit from either of that? Because you're not gonna get any of the emotional or mental benefits of a long lasting relationship in a sham marriage.

Deleted member 12790 · Dec 4, 2019

John Rabbit said:
The benefits of....what exactly? Taxes?

Ya, for him, it'd be for tax purposes. For me, the main benefit would be I'd be able to get on his admittedly awesome insurance plan as his spouse.

mrmoose · Dec 4, 2019

Einchy said:
Sex.

He's talking marriage, right? What does sex have to do with it?

nsilvias · Dec 4, 2019

you messed up by making this thread op. they gon catch you now for fraud

John Dunbar · Dec 4, 2019

just having that as a story is probably worth it. do it.

capitalCORN · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
Ya, for him, it'd be for tax purposes. For me, the main benefit would be I'd be able to get on his admittedly awesome insurance plan as his spouse.

Spouse? So polygamy?

Deleted member 12790 · Dec 4, 2019

nsilvias said:
you messed up by making this thread op. they gon catch you now for fraud

We'd actually be married, not pretend married, though. Is it fraud if it's a loveless marriage?

Replicant · Dec 4, 2019

Sounds like a terrible idea. Two, it's technically illegal.

Mesoian · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
Ya, for him, it'd be for tax purposes. For me, the main benefit would be I'd be able to get on his admittedly awesome insurance plan as his spouse.

Mmm.

Well, I won't say no. Just sign a prenup.

androvsky · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
Ya, for him, it'd be for tax purposes. For me, the main benefit would be I'd be able to get on his admittedly awesome insurance plan as his spouse.

Are you prepared to lose stuff in a divorce in case one of you find someone else to marry?

John Rabbit · Dec 4, 2019

Einchy said:
Sex.

But they're getting married.

TheJackdog · Dec 4, 2019

Mesoian said:
Mmm.

Well, I won't say no. Just sign a prenup.

sign fucking ten.

this is gonna be a MESS if it goes south.divorce lawyers will love to hear you or him entered into a marriage for just tax reasons. imagine if only one of you had proof the other did it for that reason

also, maybe youre completely over dating, but if you go through with it, its gonna be an uphill battle.

not many people i know who are looking for someone are looking for someone who is currently married but just for the benefits.

Torpedo Vegas · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
Ya, for him, it'd be for tax purposes. For me, the main benefit would be I'd be able to get on his admittedly awesome insurance plan as his spouse.

Don't sell yourself short. Make sure you get a goat or a cow out of this arrangement too.

Einchy · Dec 4, 2019

mrmoose said:
He's talking marriage, right? What does sex have to do with it?

Don't wanna go to H E double hockey sticks.

Randomly Generated · Dec 4, 2019

I feel like this is probably a crime, so I'll suggest no.

Kinggroin · Dec 4, 2019

What about love?

Deleted member 12790 · Dec 4, 2019

Mesoian said:
Like...tax and health insurance benefits?

Are the two of you already in a situation where you'd be able to benefit from either of that? Because you're not gonna get any of the emotional or mental benefits of a long lasting relationship in a sham marriage.

We're not looking for emotional or mental benefits, purely fincancial. We're not in love, we're not even gay. It'd be quite literally a "friends with benefits" thing.

King Alamat · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
We'd actually be married, not pretend married, though. Is it fraud if it's a loveless marriage?

Hell, the only reason my parents got married was to fast track my mom's citizenship.

doublechocochip · Dec 4, 2019

Get a rock solid prenup before you do it.

AlmostMilk · Dec 4, 2019

JaseC64 · Dec 4, 2019

This can go wrong on so many ways if you are miserable.

Buckle · Dec 4, 2019

What if he actually secretly has a thing for you?

AstronaughtE · Dec 4, 2019

I knew a couple that did that. They had a nasty split then both remarried.

Deleted member 12790 · Dec 4, 2019

androvsky said:
Are you prepared to lose stuff in a divorce in case one of you find someone else to marry?

Just asked, he'd be down with a prenup.

jenya · Dec 4, 2019

Just say yes

tsampikos · Dec 4, 2019

Don't commit fraud.

boontobias · Dec 4, 2019

Do you

Want to

Bang him?

Ramala · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
Ya, for him, it'd be for tax purposes. For me, the main benefit would be I'd be able to get on his admittedly awesome insurance plan as his spouse.

I mean, this actually sounds like a great reason to get married. Not sure if it's legal. I don't know what the romantic or emotional qualifications are for legal marriage.

Indy in the Fridge · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
We'd actually be married, not pretend married, though. Is it fraud if it's a loveless marriage?

It worked for Trump's wife.

Dahbomb · Dec 4, 2019

Honestly surprised more people don't do this more often. Especially for health insurance and tax reasons.

The only thing I would look out for is what would happen when you guys want to "divorce" or have a different spouse.

mrmoose · Dec 4, 2019

Einchy said:
Don't wanna go to H E double hockey sticks.

If you're that religious, I'd think a sham marriage would also violate the wedding vows.

NealMcCauley · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
We'd actually be married, not pretend married, though. Is it fraud if it's a loveless marriage?

If multiple romantic comedies taught me anything it's a delicate gray area that eventually blossoms into true love and impassioned pleas for mercy in front of a judge.

Deleted member 12790 · Dec 4, 2019

Buckle said:
What if he actually secretly has a thing for you?

I'd be comfortable with that, he's been one of my best friends for over 10 years now. Flattered, honestly, he's a pretty good looking guy and an all around stand up person.

Kirblar · Dec 4, 2019

Is he in the military or something and trying to get a spouse as a beneficiary or something?

Because the tax benefits alone do not make this worth it.

CoolestSpot · Dec 4, 2019

He's gonna steal your sega collection bro

doof_warrior · Dec 4, 2019

BringBackSonics · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
We're both currently single, he lives across the country but we were roommates in college.

I'm very honestly struggling with a reason to say no? Is this a thing people do? Is there any reason why we honestly shouldn't?

There are no real benefits, unless you can claim each other with Health Insurance spousal coverage? There is a big time tax break for Insurance coverage between Domestic Partners and Married Spouses.

Hiphopopotamus · Dec 4, 2019

PRE💥NUP💥

Deleted member 721 · Dec 4, 2019

idk about the laws of your place but check if one registered domestic partnership wouldnt be better and would give the same benefits, to end a domestic partnership could be easier and cheaper depending where you live

Not Spaceghost · Dec 4, 2019

Yeah why not I guess.
Just look up the costs and process if you guys need to end it for any reason.

AegonSnake · Dec 4, 2019

Krejlooc said:
We're both currently single, he lives across the country but we were roommates in college.

I'm very honestly struggling with a reason to say no? Is this a thing people do? Is there any reason why we honestly shouldn't?

its fraud. you wanna go to jail????

Mesoian · Dec 4, 2019

Dahbomb said:
Honestly surprised more people don't do this more often. Especially for health insurance and tax reasons.

The only thing I would look out for is what would happen when you guys want to "divorce" or have a different spouse.

I think we're gonna see a lot more of this going forward as well paying jobs get tougher to get and privatized benefits get fucked up in the efforts to make them public. People aren't trying to let bills go by or fall into ultra bankruptcy because you got sick.

tommyv2 · Dec 4, 2019

You'll never have sex, which is the approximate amount of sex every other married couple is having.

mutantmagnet · Dec 4, 2019

capitalCORN said:
Spouse? So polygamy?

That's an arrest-able offense in the United States. The mormons have a bunch of schemes to hide their illegal activity.

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