Yeah, we're unfortunately not as much of a big happy family as we should be. Combine that with the way app design sort of encourages an inpersonal approach to interacting with others and you've got a storm brewing.Dating as a POC in a world where large sectionns still have standards of beauty centered around whiteness sucks, offline or online. And occasionally you will run into people who are strait racist. Odds are , unless that person is on some "I secretly date whoever types shit " ( and even then why would you do that to your self esteem. You didn't really have a chance, I mean i'm not saying it doesn't suck or hurt, make you feel bad. I'm not even saying it shouldn't some time, a world that constantly tells you , you aren't good enough because you look the way you look is depressing and its ok to express that sentiment. I'm not as militant as JC , I don't think that approach is reasonable , and being too militant in this regard is kinda missing the systemic problem Forrest for the bootstrap trees . That said, you kind of have to deal.Its the world we live in and understanding it allows someone to navigate it.
Along with race there are people who won't date you for a myriad of reasons. Some that require self reflection and improvement if deemed beneficiary and some are....really really fucking stupid. Sometimes people dont date you because they ascertained a feeling about you with in... minutes of meeting you. Sometimes that is a flight or fight response and its valid. Sometimes , you said you like X and that turned them off.
You just gotta present a good version of yourself going forward and improve yourself, because in reality life is just a chaotic mess, and you are just navigating it. Whether it be people in the dating scene or... just navigating the problems of the day to day. And while we should be having larger discussions as to why johnny doesn't like black girls, in the meaning time loosing sleep over johnny isn't going to help much.
That's my two cents I guess. I dunno, i'm gonna go play an mmo or somethin
I would like to hear your experiences if you are willing to share them. I can only offer my perspective as a black guy. With a weird name
The racism I see in LGBTQ communities is a strange thing to observe