sometimes it's the parents' fault the kiddos aren't getting great sleep, and there is a wide variety of causes for that
'sleep training' is essentially getting out of their way
sometimes it's the parents' fault the kiddos aren't getting great sleep, and there is a wide variety of causes for that
'sleep training' is essentially getting out of their way
Sleep training is essentially ignoring their needs and communication until they realize you're not coming / it's useless.
People in this very thread talk about ignoring screams for an hour.No, it is not this. If this is how you're trying to sleep train you're doing it wrong.
People in this very thread talk about ignoring screams for an hour.
A lot of people outside this thread advocate even harsher.
Babies literally cannot regulate their own emotions. That requires a more developed neocortex.
Yes, I do use them. What do you mean by sprayer?
I think he's fine for a 2 year old boy. He's probably just the silent type.Story folks been quite a while since I posted here ha.
Just wanted yer view on it to hopefully calm down my wife
My kid recently turned 2. He's got about 30 words or so but uses them sparingly enough. He has a good understanding of words so if for example I say go get your book he'll know to get whatever book has his fancy that particular week.
He also engages with other kids and adults when around them..
Like the development nurse (Irish requirement to see them at various stages of their life) said he's perfectly fine and she's no worries. I don't have any particular concerns myself I know each kid is different and he'll speak when he wants to probably. But my wife is freaking out a bit so naturally that worries me ha
So basically tldr any of you experienced non talkers of 2 years plus yet ha
We never actually do "sleep training", but my son is already able to sleep from 7-8 PM to 5 AM in the morning. He's been like that since 4 month old.
Yeah, he does breastfeed once or twice in the night, but he's half asleep while doing that and able to immediately go back to sleep after he's done.Christ that's heavenly. Does he breastfeed? Thats seems to be a pretty big key to sleep. Breastfed babies wake up a lot more, especially prior to any sort of night weening.
Ours went off the rails terrible right at 4 months. Prior to that his sleep was pretty manageable.
Ours went off the rails terrible right at 4 months. Prior to that his sleep was pretty manageable.
11 months later and ours still wakes up every hour and a half to two and a half hours. Sometimes he'll hit a three hour stretch and it'll be quite nice.Same for my daughter. Theres a major sleep regression at 4 months, caused by sleep becoming more consolidated. She went from waking up twice in the overnight (and falling right back asleep after bottle/boob) to waking up screaming every hour and unable to fall asleep when in the crib. We did a modified version of sleep training and she was sleeping in 7hr stretches in like 4 days.
Sleep training is a divisive subject. To say someone is "wrong" or "not wrong" in how we're all trying to get our kids to sleep, IMO, isn't helpful. What works for some parents/children may not work for others.
So basically tldr any of you experienced non talkers of 2 years plus yet ha
Our 19 month old daughter kept pointing at a dog toy that was teetering on the brink of falling into the basement and nervously repeating the dogs name. I told her that I'd go move it after I was done making some food. She then got up from reading to her Elmo, walked over and moved it back onto the carpet, then turned to me and signed, "you're welcome" as she went back to reading. Got flexed on and called lazy by a toddler lmao.
In the hospital now waiting for baby number three to arrive. My oldest just turned three and the other is about to turn 2 this month.
In the hospital now waiting for baby number three to arrive. My oldest just turned three and the other is about to turn 2 this month.
We've had a full week of my 6 month old twins sleeping through the night now. They go down just after 7, get a feed at 1030, and generally sleep through to the morning. Feels like a miracle.
You made it! How are they doing when one wakes up in the middle of the night? Generally our girl can sleep through our boys loudest but not the opposite.
Teething is your next challenge! We've got 5 teeth total and the latest top tooth on the girl was brutal. She woke up multiple times a night in full on tears which then woke the boy up. Wasn't a good holiday break of sleep haha.
Also, we did the midnight feeding for a while and my advice is to slowly ween them off of it. Do less and less each night until you cut it out entirely. Our doctor assured us they don't need it, they'll make up for it in the morning, and it's just setting up for problems later. It seemed scary to rock the boat once they started sleeping but I'm glad we did it.
They're pretty good at sleeping through each other crying, though they barely cry at all during the night. Sometimes they wake, have a little chat with themselves, and just go back asleep again. The number of interventions we've had to make have been absolutely minimal which is amazing.
We've 4 teeth already, 2 each at the bottom. Calpol (is Calpol a thing in the US?) saw us through. They get massive big red cheeks when a tooth is coming so we have a warning, it's pretty funny.
And we're actually off the midnight feed since I posted that. They're pretty well established on solid food (i.e. mush) so that helps a lot. They've been off that feed for 2 nights now and all good. Last night we put them in their cots at 7pm and didn't hear a peep from them until we went to get them at 7am. It definitely felt scary cutting it out but we did as you said, went from a full breastfeed to a few oz in a bottle to nothing over a few nights.
Hi everyone,
I just discovered this thread. I am a father of almost 3-year-old and we'll soon (in a month or so) are having our second baby. And I can tell you, I thought that it will be easier, but I am almost as nervous as during the first time. I guess I would like to hear from someone that it is manageable but I also don't want getting a false hope, lol. I think that I can just say that there are people with 2 or more children and they did not went insane (fingers crossed ;))
Anyway, just wanted to say hello as I am slowly going through the thread.
Little girl is now playing hide and seek with me around corners. When she finds me or I chase her the smiles, laughter, and excitement are just so pure. There is just nothing better than that in the world. She will laugh at me then run around a corner and peek her head out until I chase her. Just the best, just melts me inside.
Good luck!Watching this thread! Wife is pregnant with 3 months right now. Our first child.
My son is still 6 month old. Even so, every time he smiles at me, it's the happiest moment of my life. And he smiles (and laugh) a lot already.Little girl is now playing hide and seek with me around corners. When she finds me or I chase her the smiles, laughter, and excitement are just so pure. There is just nothing better than that in the world. She will laugh at me then run around a corner and peek her head out until I chase her. Just the best, just melts me inside.
Just had a thought.
If you've got a sink big enough to wash your infant in it, and the baby poops in the sink, do you use the garbage disposal or scoop it out?
Asking because my toddler is now all about that tub pooping life. And at our old house our sink was too small so we always used the tub with a plastic mini tub. But with our current house our sink is one of those nice big soap stone like sinks and if we had another kid we'd use that.
I guess newborns don't have solid poop usually.
Hmmm.
If you've got a sink big enough to wash your infant in it, and the baby poops in the sink, do you use the garbage disposal or scoop it out?
Pretty sure you want to minimize shit particles in the air. Maybe you don't, I guess, but I wouldn't blend it.
With my 9 month old it's all about juggling. She loses it when the balls fall everywhere. Totally agreed that there's nothing better. I live to entertain her.Little girl is now playing hide and seek with me around corners. When she finds me or I chase her the smiles, laughter, and excitement are just so pure. There is just nothing better than that in the world. She will laugh at me then run around a corner and peek her head out until I chase her. Just the best, just melts me inside.
I don't really have an answer for you whereas someone else might, but my daughter used to be pretty inconsistent, too. We were never sure if it was teething, a mood thing, a stomach thing, her appetite being random, or what. Is your son eating on the same schedule each day? If he rejects one meal does he normally eat the next? Does he reject regardless of what you're feeding him?My 6 months old son has started eating, mostly homemade pure (rice, meat, veggies) and sometimes instant food. However, his appetite seems pretty random. Sometimes he'd eat the whole cup in one sitting, but some other time he completely rejects it just after one spoon. We don't use any spice and/or salt in the food, the taste mostly comes from homemade chicken broth.
Get used to it. Haha. My daughter will eat an adult portion of something one day, and then the next time won't even touch it. Some nights she is a bottomless pit, and the next she will eat barely anything, and won't be worse for the wear. Keep trying, especially early in life as those first couple of years are when their food preferences form. We'll give our daughter a food 9 or 10 times before we assume she actually doesn't like something.My 6 months old son has started eating, mostly homemade pure (rice, meat, veggies) and sometimes instant food. However, his appetite seems pretty random. Sometimes he'd eat the whole cup in one sitting, but some other time he completely rejects it just after one spoon. We don't use any spice and/or salt in the food, the taste mostly comes from homemade chicken broth.
I don't really have an answer for you whereas someone else might, but my daughter used to be pretty inconsistent, too. We were never sure if it was teething, a mood thing, a stomach thing, her appetite being random, or what. Is your son eating on the same schedule each day? If he rejects one meal does he normally eat the next? Does he reject regardless of what you're feeding him?
I wonder if offering a bit more variety might help, too, if each meal is the same purée. Worth trying, at least.
Yeah, we regularly give our soon a meal about 3-4 times in a day. 2 of them are the big meals, rice puree and proteins. The other 2 are fruits. Speaking of fruits, he really likes them and mostly eat the whole portion each time. But we know that fruits alone are not enough, as he also needs iron, fat, and carbs.Get used to it. Haha. My daughter will eat an adult portion of something one day, and then the next time won't even touch it. Some nights she is a bottomless pit, and the next she will eat barely anything, and won't be worse for the wear. Keep trying, especially early in life as those first couple of years are when their food preferences form. We'll give our daughter a food 9 or 10 times before we assume she actually doesn't like something.
Yeah, we regularly give our soon a meal about 3-4 times in a day. 2 of them are the big meals, rice puree and proteins. The other 2 are fruits. Speaking of fruits, he really likes them and mostly eat the whole portion each time. But we know that fruits alone are not enough, as he also needs iron, fat, and carbs.
Thanks for the suggestions, we'll keep trying haha.
My 6 months old son has started eating, mostly homemade pure (rice, meat, veggies) and sometimes instant food. However, his appetite seems pretty random. Sometimes he'd eat the whole cup in one sitting, but some other time he completely rejects it just after one spoon. We don't use any spice and/or salt in the food, the taste mostly comes from homemade chicken broth.
This is so fucking true.A general rule for toddlers is the amount of time you take preparing their meal is directly inverse to the amount that they'll eat. I made a terrific homemade ma & cheese w/ pulled pork ~3 weeks ago, something that she would normally *love* for a Sunday family dinner .......... and her reaction was like I was trying to make her eat uncooked horse meat after just finishing Red Dead Redemption 2.
Mine does that sometimes too. He'll ask for one food and then change his mind by the time I've crossed the kitchen and gotten it for him.Kiddo excitedly asked for a scrambled egg for breakfast then when it was done wanted something else. "Listen, you little shit..." (I did not say this).