why does she have to stay home the rest of the week? ear infections aren't contagious
Beats me.
Just what the doctor said.
Edit: oh... apparently ear infections aren't contagious but are secondary infections to other things that are contagious...
why does she have to stay home the rest of the week? ear infections aren't contagious
Looking for recommendations for bedtime story books for a nearly four year old girl. We've got lots of stuff suitable for younger kids and all the usual Julia Donaldson (Gruffalo) and similar. I've been trying to find something a bit more like a long form story so we can do a chapter a night but everything in that style seems to be aimed at older kids. Anyone got any suggestions?
You could try this:
Each chapter is relatively confined, but together they do form a longer story. Originally Dutch, but from what I read the translation is really good.
Might be that (nearly) four is still a bit young though. Hard to say for me as I only got a 1 year old.
Nice! Hope more future and current parents come in.Hey, everyone.
This thread is this week's Community Spotlight!
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Just want to say ... Era traditionally shits on parents and children in most other non-parent-era threads. We get it as much as anybody, children are little hellians. This thread has had a couple parents who have gone through tragedy, some recently, some longer ago, and so if you come into this thread intending to shit on children and parenthood, please, just take it somewhere else. We're a supportive community who tries to give advice and support to other parents adjusting to the reality of parenthood.
... with that out of the way :)
Anyway, lately struggling with my daughter (15mos) sleeping through the night... She sleeps through the night about 3/7 days a week maybe 4/7 on average, andd those nights are great (usually 7PM to 7am or close enough to it), but she's regularly waking up at about 2am and being wired. So, we were bad when she started doing this initially maybe at ~11mos or so, we'd take her into our bed if she woke up at 4am or so, because she'd fall back asleep instantly and then sleep till 6, 7am, which was great and so easy to develop back habits. But now she's waking up at 2am, and then staying awake, like wired until ~4am. I'm a light sleeper and my wife has ot get up for work at 6am or so, so usually I'm on baby duty at night, and I'm going a little kookoo. I've tried letting her cry it out, but she'll be inconsolable for 30, 60, 90 mins... and usually I'm just like "Aw fuck it, she';ll be wired, I'll be awake, but at least she won't be screaming..."
Trying to get this down and also get nap time down. SHe's good about napping at daycare as far as I know, but napping in her crib on the weekends is a real challenge. SHe'll be tired, yknow fading fast while playing, and so I'll bring her up to her crib with the intent of a little nap, but she'll not have it./.. She'll fight it hard and stay awake for ~an hour+, enough so that it's not really nap time anymore.
Side note: anyone here taken an 18 month old away on holidays? We are going to Tokyo and Seoul in May and she'll be 18 months old then. Any tips on what to do / products to help the flight (from Melbourne Australia so ten hours each way) or things that help while travelling are appreciated.
Yeah, we've done lots of trips, both domestic and international. It's really important that she has something to suck on during takeoff and landing. At her age, her ears can't regulate the pressure differential, so you need to make sure she's swallowing when the pressure changes the most.Side note: anyone here taken an 18 month old away on holidays? We are going to Tokyo and Seoul in May and she'll be 18 months old then. Any tips on what to do / products to help the flight (from Melbourne Australia so ten hours each way) or things that help while travelling are appreciated.
This is a good point. If she's waking up wide awake in the middle of the night, she might be napping too much during the day. It might be time to cut out one of her day naps or something.How many naps does she take - 1 or 2? We transitioned my daughter to one nap at about 15 months because she didn't seem tired for the first nap, and right around that time she also started sleeping through the night more regularly. Is it possible she's sleeping too much during the day?
Also, did you do any sleep training with her? Maybe extinction in the overnight isn't best for her, but a modified version could help. Like, when she wakes up and starts to cry, go in there, console her (don't pick her up), and then leave her. Wait 10 minutes, do it again. Do that three times, and then if it fails go and get her and the training is over for the night. Try again the next day.
I've done road trips with mine, but never anything on a plane.I didn't know this thread existed!
I have a ten month old daughter. We are sleep deprived but otherwise doing well I feel.
echoing the post above- era really has a problem with childfree style views. I guess it comes with the territory of being a big gaming / anime forum so you have a lot of people who have grown up enjoying that and now have kids- but a lot of stereotypical people who simply refuse to grow up and accept others are having children now.
it does feel frustrating just being told "oh if you have a kid you can't do x anymore" and then not realise the irony of how that sounds so horrible.
in any case it's hitting summer here in Australia and our little one turns 1 in December. I have some time off so I can't wait for my wife and I to be able to take her to the park more often :)
Side note: anyone here taken an 18 month old away on holidays? We are going to Tokyo and Seoul in May and she'll be 18 months old then. Any tips on what to do / products to help the flight (from Melbourne Australia so ten hours each way) or things that help while travelling are appreciated.
I've got a one year old so personally we haven't hit that issue, but no town around here or that I can see on the entire state list goes past 8. Most stop at 7 but a few do stop at 8.Parents, how long do you keep your kids out for trick or treating? I always thought 8pm was a good cut off, but I've seen others say 9pm?
We didn't go trick or treating today. Luckily we went in my hometown on Sunday when it was ~55 degrees and beautiful. Today was like 35 and snowy.
My son is 14 months old so he's obviously not eating much of his candy either which is great for me. He was mostly held by my wife but did walk to one or two for candy, kind of (he dropped his own in one bucket). We stayed in the wagon a bit while his cousins got candy. He had a blast just searching through his bucket and going around in the wagon.
Oh, and here was his costume:
His name is Arthur so we dressed him as King Arthur/Wart from Disney's the Sword in the Stone. I dressed as Merlin and my wife was Mad Madam Mim.
So here's something: my youngest son was colouring in his Paw Patrol colouring book today and said AJ (who has brown skin colour for the 3 people in this thread unfamiliar with PP) was chocolate colour and he needed the chocolate crayon.
Completely innocent, obviously, but do I address it? He's just turned 3, so I'm torn between saying that that's not what we say and then getting into a potentially bigger conversation about how people are different that he won't be ready for, or just to not draw attention to it and make it a big thing?
At the time I said "you mean brown?" but he was adamant it was chocolate. So I didn't push it any further.
So here's something: my youngest son was colouring in his Paw Patrol colouring book today and said AJ (who has brown skin colour for the 3 people in this thread unfamiliar with PP) was chocolate colour and he needed the chocolate crayon.
Completely innocent, obviously, but do I address it? He's just turned 3, so I'm torn between saying that that's not what we say and then getting into a potentially bigger conversation about how people are different that he won't be ready for, or just to not draw attention to it and make it a big thing?
At the time I said "you mean brown?" but he was adamant it was chocolate. So I didn't push it any further.
Wait. AJ is from Blaze, right? The only major brown character in Paw Patrol is Mayor Goodway, IIRC.
Also, I wouldn't worry too much about it at three, unless he's actually calling a person "chocolate" and not just making an observation about color.
Ha, this is great. I bribed my fifteen year old to have szechuan pepper paste on her tofu tonight. Not even that spicy, just that crazy numbing delight. "Why do people do this to themselves?"Our 18 month old has become addicted to spicy brown mustard of all things. Now she whines when she runs out of the blob on her plate and has to eat her remaining vegetables without something to dip them in. Seems strange to me but I'm glad she's branching out food wise.
Uh oh
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Just want to say ... Era traditionally shits on parents and children in most other non-parent-era threads. We get it as much as anybody, children are little hellians. This thread has had a couple parents who have gone through tragedy, some recently, some longer ago, and so if you come into this thread intending to shit on children and parenthood, please, just take it somewhere else. We're a supportive community who tries to give advice and support to other parents adjusting to the reality of parenthood.
... with that out of the way :)
Anyway, lately struggling with my daughter (15mos) sleeping through the night... She sleeps through the night about 3/7 days a week maybe 4/7 on average, andd those nights are great (usually 7PM to 7am or close enough to it), but she's regularly waking up at about 2am and being wired. So, we were bad when she started doing this initially maybe at ~11mos or so, we'd take her into our bed if she woke up at 4am or so, because she'd fall back asleep instantly and then sleep till 6, 7am, which was great and so easy to develop back habits. But now she's waking up at 2am, and then staying awake, like wired until ~4am. I'm a light sleeper and my wife has ot get up for work at 6am or so, so usually I'm on baby duty at night, and I'm going a little kookoo. I've tried letting her cry it out, but she'll be inconsolable for 30, 60, 90 mins... and usually I'm just like "Aw fuck it, she';ll be wired, I'll be awake, but at least she won't be screaming..."
Trying to get this down and also get nap time down. SHe's good about napping at daycare as far as I know, but napping in her crib on the weekends is a real challenge. SHe'll be tired, yknow fading fast while playing, and so I'll bring her up to her crib with the intent of a little nap, but she'll not have it./.. She'll fight it hard and stay awake for ~an hour+, enough so that it's not really nap time anymore.
The Bad Kitty books are good transitioning to chapter books. They are 'comic' style but have a decent number of words and they do have chapters. Some of the humor may be over her head but she should still find plenty to amuse her. The Captain underpants books are also good, if a little crass, and with some big words.Looking for recommendations for bedtime story books for a nearly four year old girl. We've got lots of stuff suitable for younger kids and all the usual Julia Donaldson (Gruffalo) and similar. I've been trying to find something a bit more like a long form story so we can do a chapter a night but everything in that style seems to be aimed at older kids. Anyone got any suggestions?
I would say - when she's awake at 2am - is she hungry? Because something might be waking her up. You could think about filling her tummy up more before or even during the night to try and break the habit of waking then. Kids usually wake at that age because a wet nappy bothers them or more likely because they are hungry. We found milk would help ours settle at that age and then would sleep in. Which also helps get them off the naps.
i wouldn't go back to feeding her overnight, there's no reason for her to be hungry at night
Sometimes my wife and I think a third would be nice, but man I know all your pains with lack of sleeping and I struggle to see ourselves going through all that again now they're both sleeping through. Ours were shiiiiiiiiiit.
We're not sure about having a second because of that. Like, adding another shitty sleeper would legit destroy us, but I'm not sure how I feel about waiting until this dude can sleep to do it all again. Add to that in a few years my wife will be even older past fertility age and so it'll be a bit harder and maybe more dangerous. She's 37 now, and was already injured pretty badly the first time.
How many naps does she take - 1 or 2? We transitioned my daughter to one nap at about 15 months because she didn't seem tired for the first nap, and right around that time she also started sleeping through the night more regularly. Is it possible she's sleeping too much during the day?
Also, did you do any sleep training with her? Maybe extinction in the overnight isn't best for her, but a modified version could help. Like, when she wakes up and starts to cry, go in there, console her (don't pick her up), and then leave her. Wait 10 minutes, do it again. Do that three times, and then if it fails go and get her and the training is over for the night. Try again the next day.
Sounds just like us...only difference being my wife is 39....
We go back and forth every week. Go for it? Happy with just one? Go for 2? Stick with one?
At this point I feel like we're both about 75% in the camp of this will be our only one. We're at least not seriously having much of a conversation outside of some jokes here and there yet. Kind of focusing on him.
But yeah not sure when that starts to really change. Maybe the conversation heats up when he gets closer to 2 years old.
I always kinda wanted two, but goddamn this is pretty rough, and I see nothing but horror stories from parents groups about having their second. I guess my parents got fucking lucky in that I was a pretty good kid when my sister arrived.
Personally I'd probably be fine with adopting, though I feel like my wife hesitates on that front.
I have a hard time imagining much worse. Ours was so fucking colicky the first few months. Like obviously very worth it, but doing that with a toddler sounds like a fucking horror story. We were stuck in the house and basically pacing back and forth for so long because like 75% of his awake time was hysterical crying.If it makes you feel any better our second was so much worse!
On a serious note, you'd have to be incredibly disciplined people to adopt a child after having a biological first. I know I wouldn't be able to treat them equally, no matter how hard I tried.
So here's something: my youngest son was colouring in his Paw Patrol colouring book today and said AJ (who has brown skin colour for the 3 people in this thread unfamiliar with PP) was chocolate colour and he needed the chocolate crayon.
Completely innocent, obviously, but do I address it? He's just turned 3, so I'm torn between saying that that's not what we say and then getting into a potentially bigger conversation about how people are different that he won't be ready for, or just to not draw attention to it and make it a big thing?
At the time I said "you mean brown?" but he was adamant it was chocolate. So I didn't push it any further.