It's pretty rare that a community patch is required to make a game playable. In most cases, it just makes the game better. The original Dark Soul and Nier: Automata, for example, are perfectly playable on PC without community patches. The problem is that they're almost exactly the same as the console versions, hence the community patches to add more PC-centric features. Same goes for Bethesda's RPGs. All of them are buggy on all platforms but on PC, community patches fix most of the bugs. All the other issues you mentioned are overblown. You can easily get away with installing new drivers once a month. Hell, depending on what you play, you could get away with doing it once or twice a year. And the 30 FPS input lag for Horizon 3 was the result of V-Sync. V-Sync inherently causes input lag (in both PC and console games). If you want to completely avoid both tearing and input lag, you need a high refresh G-Sync monitor. Then you'll never need to worry about either ever again.
I think the real issue is that some people just can't handle choice. If they have the choice to tweak their settings, upgrade their hardware, update drivers, etc, they feel like they have to do it even if they really don't. That's where the "simplicity" of consoles appeals to them. It simply removes all choice so even if a game has issues, there's nothing you can do about it. That's why they consider 30 FPS acceptable on consoles but not on PC, where you can easily attain much higher framerates.
