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Is stopping in front of a booth, staring dead into a child's eyes for 5 seconds, not saying a word and then walking away considered "enagaging". Because at that point saying no thanks isn't that much more effort.
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Please be polite to Girl Scouts during cookie selling season
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Is stopping in front of a booth, staring dead into a child's eyes for 5 seconds, not saying a word and then walking away considered "enagaging". Because at that point saying no thanks isn't that much more effort.
I just drink sparkling water. Lemonades are to sweet for me. (There is just one kind i drink, and that is for special occasions at home.)
No, the Lemonades are a type of cookie. Lemon shortbread basically.
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They're a cookie, not a drink in this case.
We stopped selling Savannah Smiles this year and started selling these. They're incredible addicting.
No its not considered engaging IMO, because it happens reflexively, unlike verbal communication. I often look at people who talk to me from the side (usually trying to sell something) because it takes me a sec to realize what they want. Lost in thought and such.
So I can absolutely see the scenario where I (in theory) look at someone trying to sell me stuff and keep walking once I decide I'm not interested.
Admittedly only been in a remotely similar situation when kids tried to "sell" magazines to me at uni though, which was just a front for aggressive begging. Honestly can't say if I would've taken the second to answer your kids in that hypothetical, 100% used to not answering people selling stuff, but then again they are small kids doing something (I guess) non-suspect, so idk
I would never deny your social anxiety or expect you to buy something. The only expected interaction would be a fake smile and a no thanks to an 8-year old.
What's remarkable is that many will claim not that they are too unconfortable to do so, but that there should be no expectation whatsoever to respond with even the slightest courtesy.
O-o
Why did you go to homeless people here?
Yeah you first buddy
I mean, if you got extremely anxious in situations like you're describing and someone said "I GuEsS yOUr AnXiETy Is AcTiNG uP", how would you take it?
Just seems to be perpetuating an issue that is much larger than the one you created a thread about. Maybe just something to keep in mind when using dismissive memery when talking about mental issues.
I dont make eye contact, so OPs exact situation doesnt apply to me. I'd rather buy the cookies in the store.
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What is the more likely scenario?
1. All 20 people that did the behavior In a 3 hour span described in the OP that did this at our booth tonight all suffer from clinically diagnosed social anxiety
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2. Were rude
Ok no.... rude ceases to have any meaning if simply walking by without making eye contact is now rude.
Why does it matter to you so much if its clinically diagnosed? Is it not real unless you have insurance and a doctor? Also comes off as dismissive. Those who have it undiagnosed will still suffer and experience the same physical manifestations, right?
Also, the two arent mutually exclusive, as you're proving. So I'm not sure why you think it's one or the other. I wouldnt be surprised if you encountered 20 people with social anxiety or 20 rude people, or maybe 20 rude people with social anxiety. I'm sure I often come across as rude. It's part of what gives me anxiety and leads me to prefer set transactional situations. I wouldnt walk into a girl scout cookie store and do it, and if I knew where they were in advance I could choose a store they werent at. But neither of those are the case. So when it happens I try to walk wide and avoid eye contact.
None of that really matters towards justifying the dismissive language you used.
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Love to talk about rudeness while grossly mocking how some people talk about their mental health.
nope. cant recall buying anything other than a chocolate cookie.
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Thats perfectly fine! The girls will always be appreciative of that.
I agree that people should be nice to girl scouts and acknowledge them, but some posts here are acting like they're gonna get scarred for life if they have a rude customer which is ????
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I'm exhausted at this point...can't reach the poll button...
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I hear some people complain sometimes that Girl Scouts having the girls sell cookies is wrong. It's a weird take in my mind because I feel like it's giving them some entrepreneurial experience which isn't a terrible thing. I don't think it should be forced but if the girls are cool with doing it and can have fun with it more power to them. It helps that I also love me some samoas.
admittedly I'm also the person that thinks things like financial planning, and money management should be a required class to graduate high school.
admittedly I'm also the person that thinks things like financial planning, and money management should be a required class to graduate high school.
Keebler has several similar versions of the girl scout cookies. They aren't exact, but they're pretty close:
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Keebler has several similar versions of the girl scout cookies. They aren't exact, but they're pretty close:
In my daughters troop last week they did a blind taste test with these to see if they could discern the difference between the "real" version and the knock offs.
I can tell the difference, but they're close enough that they hit the spot during the off season as a good substitute. How did your daughter's troop do?
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They all got them right because the texture is different. Lorna Doone feels very different than Trefoils for example.
I wouldn't have the heart to be that cold myself, but who knows, maybe they're having a bad day and the silence is actually their method of self restraint from doing something actual rude. Stop being such a Karen and try to dictate others behaviour.
It's called power staring and you must do it to establish dominance and not lose in any negotiation. It's like you've never heard jack donahey's seminar.
Or one of your girls is telepathic, is trying out her fledgling powers, and in her inexperience hasn't quite grasped mind control yet. Her subjects become confused and muddled which is why they stare. For someone who claims to be THE Xmen fanatic on resetera kind of a huge oversight on your part. Embarrassing!
But seriously, people's brains are rotted from smartphones and they don't want to be bothered to be polite in real life. Or there's just a ton of assholes in the bay area.
i usually walk past them fast without looking and pretending i didn't hear or looking at my phone
don't bother me and try to sell me shit i don't want or need by guilting me into it with little kids. and in a lot of cases a "no thank you" leads to the comment of "ITS FOR CHARITY" from the booth as youre walking away trying to embarrass the person into buying, as in a "how could you turn us down!!!!!"... now thats "rude" and frankly sleazy of you
don't bother me and try to sell me shit i don't want or need by guilting me into it with little kids. and in a lot of cases a "no thank you" leads to the comment of "ITS FOR CHARITY" from the booth as youre walking away trying to embarrass the person into buying, as in a "how could you turn us down!!!!!"... now thats "rude" and frankly sleazy of you
Not available in every place. And produced in the same factory as the other stuff I assume which means for many people it makes no differences in terms of allergies.
Just seems like a lot of forejudged hostility toward a group of children raising money for activities and charity.
I know it wasn't your intention to come off like an asshole, but considering this whole thread is about judging people from a single PoV as to what constitutes as rude this post sure is shitty.
Be like me and be polite and mutter "sorrynothankyouimonadietihavetogobye" and feel guilty the whole drive home from the grocery store.
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