Powerful post. Thank you.I struggle with depression for some time now. Seeing people here and on twitter passing judgement if she was or wasn't homophobic makes me sick. I can't relate with her profession, but I can empathize with her as an human being. It's a shame to realize that at least in the court of the internet, people sometimes fail to realize that. I'm the first to call out people that do vile acts, that abuse people sexually and emotionally. The way I see it, even after this girl, THIS 23 YEAR OLD KID, passing some people here and on social media still haven't understand one important thing:
All these people that work in porn are victims. All of them. The legislation in the US is incredibly sketchy. Please, people. Learn to empathize. I don't think any of us here can truly grasp the life that these people lead. If you can't grasp that, maybe you should understand that passing judgement if she was homophobic or not is flat out and incredibly wrong. It was wrong when she was alive, it's wrong now that she isn't. People that work in the porn industry probably have a better understanding of how this works among them. It's not fair with someone that works in the porn industry - either her or literally any other person - to have to go through the social media scrutiny of things that we clearly don't have a grasp on as well as they do. It seems to me that what she did by posting on twitter that her would-be partner on that scene worked in bi-male scenes was done in good faith. I don't see homophobia there at all. What I see is one hell lot of fast and incessant judgement of the internet court from someone that literally just killed herself because of this very thing. Can we as a society, at least for one moment, to step back and think where all went wrong? The rules of "our" world unfortunately don't apply to people that work in the porn has the dice loaded against them. They pass each other information because it's a messed up industry. Can we at least stop and think that one person took her life because she felt misunderstood? "Oh but her words were homophobic". Were they? If she didn't intended to, what is to gain proving that she was? If she didn't intended so hard that was enough to trigger her depression and she ending up taking her own life, what do you all will win proving that you are right? What do you win? She is already dead. She disagreed that was homophobic. She felt misunderstood. Can you relate to that? Can you empathize with that feeling? Because I can.
Please, fam. I hold this place to the highest regards. I know how cliche it sounds, but literally any person that crosses our path is facing a personal battle that we can't possibly imagine. Take a step back and think. One girl, ONE KID, lost her life because she felt misunderstood. Was it worth it? Is it worth it to keep dancing along the line victim blaming? Because I don't think it is. Let's reserve our rightful anger to the cases that are actually deserved. Someone innocent died feeling misunderstood. And this goes beyond her depression. Let's at least give her that. Let's give her understanding. Let's give her forgiveness. Let's give her empathy.
Rest in peace, kid.
RIP August.
