Not to mention people forgetting that there is a spectrum to all this , stereotypes are the lowest form of potentially phobic or "ist" actions that a person can take.
The alt-Right literally puts people in boxes so they can ignore their points of view and not feel bad about themselves soooo
Twitter is not a place to reach out, and people from the younger generation such as her are doing themselves a massive disservice by treating it as such. People are spending their entire lives on Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr and places like this where "support" is offered via a reply or a retweet, but when they actually need it they're lost because they have no idea where to turn to. If the extent of reaching out is tweeting a vague statement, they'll never get help. And if they're unwilling to reach out to actual resources and instead expect someone to read a tweet or reply and rush to their aid, this is going to keep happening. The internet is not a valid substitute for human interaction, and people need to understand that. In rare cases, yes, real-world help is offered via connections made online, but for the most part it's simply surface-level courtesy.
For a place that really loves to defend peoples' "agency", there sure are a lot of people in this thread that are really upset by someone attempting to exercise their own.
This is just disgusting. Let's use me as an example. I have no one I can reach out to in real life, should I not reach out online in an attempt to get any help? Should I just go die because its impossible to get help on the Internet? Its hilarious that you say that people die because we expect someone to help us in the slightest, and not because they won't help. Fuck off
Because those people ingrain themselves in this idea that their line of thinking is the only good and progressive way to think. That sometimes involves throwing out -phobia or bigot based on a series of tweets in which a woman with full agency of her body decided she did not want to have sex with a particular male because of personal concerns regarding her health. Why the fuck people think policing a woman's vagina is their prerogative is beyond me.
Riley Reid, Kelsey Monroe and Michelle Obama could all slap me in the face and tell me it's not a homophobic comment and I would still disagree.
I'm saying that if you think the internet is your only option, you're going to run into disappointment every time. I guarantee you you'll get better results if you call an actual help line, regardless of your low opinion of them. You'll still get a better result than you would posting on Twitter or on here. Sorry if you disagree, but a real person on the end of a line dedicated to emotional support is a better option 100% of the time than typing into the ether and hoping it reaches someone who cares.
Christ how many times does this have to be explained in this thread ? We are not "policing her vagina" ( Nice job yourself reducing her to her genitalia for no reason).
You cracked the code. People are suicidal because we refuse to get better. Seriously, go fuck yourself
Toxic ideas never hold up under scrutiny because they're predicated on flawed logic and hypocrisy. Which you seem to be railing real hard on in this thread. At some point you gotta realize that hypocrisy is people's natural states and you have to skirt around it with some solid reasoning. Your attitude is precisely the reason why toxic ideas are created. It comes from self-justified emotion than any solid or rational logic. There is little point in contributing to the state of the climate like so. Flawed biology must be recognized for what it is as it leads to all sorts of bad ideas in the human mind.
SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT ONE PERSON. LITERALLY ONE.
How tall you must feel on that pedestal of yours. Your response is not a definitive answer to the issue at hand, as much as you want to shout that it is.
I wouldn't sleep with a gay man or someone who was from the same sex as I was genetically. That goes against my sexual preference and what I believe in. If I was in the porno industry, I wouldn't sleep with other actors who had a higher chance of being infected with some type of disease either. Why is this so hard to understand? She wasn't attacking them for their sexual orientation, she was protecting herself from a higher probability of being infected.
You can repeat the same mantra til you’re blue in the face but that doesn’t make it true.
I think his point is that if you suffer from drepesion then you need profesional help, it's like all those threads asking for a medical advice, the answer will always be "go see a doctor", the same with depresion, "go see a profesional".
I don't feel like August Ames ever expressed the view that LGBT people overall have more STDs or anything of the sort. Her argument was about STD testing in the porn industry, in the context of the scene she refused to shoot. Not because the male performer had done gay scenes, so he must have a STD. Her argument was that since the testing is done differently in the straight and gay world of porn, she didn't feel secure at that time and refused to do the scene. And she brought up how producers sometimes don't disclose that info to the performers (potentially including the girl booked to replace her). Did she articulate that well? Absolutely not. Again she did do scenes with crossover performers (one of which went to bat for her on Twtter), and wasn't she a LGBT person herself?
Wow, never thought of that! I guess those of us who can't go see a professional should just give up because those of you who aren't professionals just can't be bothered!
Sex is risky.
I'm confused what's the difference between a gay man and someone who was from the same sex as you genetically? Aren't they both just men... why didn't you just say you wouldn't sleep with men?
No, not bi or gay people: bi or gay male porn stars. There's an important distinction there. She's not talking about her personal sex life, she's talking about her work.
Please find me the exact quote where I say that I believe she was homophobic.
Yep. No idea why men are like this, and it's even worse when women dogpile onto other women. It's common too :/
I think talking to someone on the internet is better than nothing, at least if that person's actually supportive. But I wouldn't put it first on your list.
She flat out said something to the effect of I don't know what they do in their personal life... so not quite accurate to say she wasn't talking about their personal life.
But they sure do got time to shit on someone.
Well yeah, that takes zero effort. If you expect anything more from society, you're just setting yourself up for a string of disappointments.
Most people can't afford professionals, that's expensive. And in my case, and I'm sure others as well, friends and family members are a large part of the problem. And being told that I should essentially give up for daring to hope that people on the Internet might help in the slightest bit is bullshit.
Talking to people on the internet can possibly make this worse for a depressed person if they're not qualified to help.
Feels like everyone out to scream 'homophobe' at a dead confused child fails to realise that she was in the sex business and it seems pretty clear she wasn't being treated fairly regards co-star.
People also forget that she was upset about he agent not disclosing this, no at the bi-performer.
We're probably all in agreement that there should be a lot more public financial support for mental health issues. I'm assuming you're in the U.S. Looking at how bad we are at health care in general, it's probably going to be a while before things change for mental health as well. You're right that you shouldn't give up whatever options are left open to you, though I think caution will always be recommended when reaching out to strangers on the internet since there's such a low investment for most people in online relationships.
I'm not bullying you. I'm replying to you in the same manner in which you replied to me; that is, insinuating I'm incompetent of understanding this situation and tossing out little passive-aggressive asides to make your point.
No there was harassment, there was criticism and harassment... we can discuss what she said without pretending there wasn't harassment... this is victim blaming and putting harassment in scare quotes is not cool.
This is someone who was just spending time with a friend of hers not a day before deciding to end it all.
But seeking help from non-professional on the internet could be even more harmful, in my expirience internet is a really nasty place, but I think you had a more positive experience, so I'm glad it help you to sort things out, but personally I wouldn't recommend it.
Then I guess I just won't talk to anyone about any of my problems ever, and just die even faster than I was planning.
Get help.
Because facts and statistics aren't homophobic and what you're doing is redefining what homophobia is.
