Yeah. Sure. I also feel that it's not really any of my business to condemn a woman on the other side of the world for that.
Jared on the other hand preyed on and manipulated vulnerable people. He made a community that I am (very broadly) a part of less safe. I feel like it is a lot more important to focus on that aspect of it.
youre absolutely right, and too many people (myself included, tbf) focused a little overmuch in the infidelity at first. the fact is, he shoule be castigated and held accountable for his abuse and sexual/emotional manipulation of minors, first, foremost, and only, full stop.
having said that, anyone with eyes in their head can see Holly's part - however small - in that and hold her accountable. the fact that some of the minor victims came forward to Holly and a few other trusted people with information and receipts about Jared's solicitation, only for Holly to turn around and feed that information to Jared without consent, is intrinsically linked to that aspect of this situation.
and as an aside, on the concept of emotional manipulation, something that seems lost in the torrent of all this is that Heidi has named Holly as the aggressor in the affair. its clear to me - however "Conspiracy Theorist" it seems - that if the above (Holly being an emotional lead/aggressor in the affair) is True, then it stands to reason that both she and Jared were actively working privately to perpetuate a narrative painting Heidi in a poor light - the idea that she was emotionally and mentally abusive to Jared, for one - (based on revelations of the way he discussed his marriage with confidants over the months) creating a foundation for what would be the endgame of their future relationship. that is just as emotionally manipulative as anything Jared did on his own to his other victims.
