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Queer-Era, do you share/borrow clothes or other gendered products wtih your partner?

PersonAndStuff

PersonAndStuff

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Oct 27, 2017
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ATTENTION EVERYONE: A STRAIGHT HAS A QUESTION

The product that inspired this thread was actually deodorant. Although I'm pretty sure the distinction between female and male branded deodorant is fairly minimal.
I'd imagine clothes are a bigger deal. Although too much borrowing seems like it would inspire tension when your favorite shirt is in the hamper or stained.
 
ProstatePuncher

ProstatePuncher

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Oct 28, 2017
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There's zero difference between smells of deodorant and perfumes between sexes, in my opinion. People just assume "flowers" is feminine, but what do you class as masculine? Musky shit? I just don't see a problem with a man smelling flowery because that's how that kind of stuff smells in general to me.
 
Teriyaki Blues

Teriyaki Blues

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Oct 28, 2017
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Yes, my I'm pansexual and my spouse is genderfluid, we're of similar sizes and can share clothes in addition to hygiene and cosmetic products.
 

Min

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Oct 25, 2017
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Also a straight guy, but my queer friends are always digging through each others' laundry baskets looking for clean clothes.
 
bazzi

bazzi

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Dec 19, 2017
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My bf is bigger than me so I steal their clothes and shit all the time duh. Oversized clothes are comfy lol
 
kirbyfan407

kirbyfan407

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If I have a partner who is similar in size, I think I would on occasion. For some reason, I've sort of romanticized wearing and using the other person's stuff.
 
Daphne

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Oct 27, 2017
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Yes, if we are similar sizes, of course. It would seem silly not to, although, there is still your stuff and their stuff and you're simply borrowing. There's still that maintenance of identity which feels important, in my experience.
 

Min

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Daphne said:
Yes, if we are similar sizes, of course. It would seem silly not to, although, there is still your stuff and their stuff and you're simply borrowing. There's still that maintenance of identity which feels important, in my experience.
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That's an interesting dynamic that I definitely could see causing some light tension. Thanks for sharing the perspective!
 
lake

lake

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Oct 27, 2017
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when relevant sizewise, yeah. your wardrobe kind of doubling can be a nice bonus
 
higuma

higuma

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May 17, 2019
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I'm 6'3 with a lanky frame and my partner is 5'0 with a sturdy frame. We share T-shirts and jackets depending on how we want stuff to fit, and we use the exact same deodorant.
 

eosos

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Dec 21, 2017
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Some stuff maybe, but we're diff sizes and I like fitted clothes so not really.
 
TheMan

TheMan

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Oct 25, 2017
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i'm a dude and i've worn my wife deo in a pinch. Even if I cared about the scent, I don't think it's strong enough to be noticeable unless you stick your nose in my pits and take a big whiff anyway.
 

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Clothes, no. Like, maybe some socks in a pinch.

Products, we use most of the same stuff. Everything we have is coconut scent if a coconut scent is available.
 
Delphine

Delphine

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I (female) share antiperspirant with my partner (male). Initially it was mine, that he adopted because it has a gender-neutral smell: no flowery scent, but also no excessive shitty musk-y scent like the likes of Axe or whatever. We both use the same, and we like it. We also share shower gel (again, very gender-neutral scent) and shampoo (gender-neutral as well).
We even share some skincare products to be honest, we both have our skincare routines and some products we both use.

PS: btw I'm bi, so queer still, even though in hetero-passing relationship.
 
Kazooie

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Jul 17, 2019
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Why specifically queer? I am straight and we regularly use each other's clothes or hygiene products if it is any way more comfortable or necessary.
 
Servbot24

Servbot24

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Oct 25, 2017
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I would not want my deoderant in someone else's armpit. That's just a step away from sharing a toothbrush.

I am just speculating since I'm straight, bbut I would think I would want to have my own clothes. I like maintaining my own identity when I'm in a relationship.
 
Meows

Meows

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Oct 28, 2017
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My boyfriend and I wear the same size, so anything goes! Wouldn't share my deodorant though.
 

BAD

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I find the wording of the title really confusing

so I'll just explain that me (male) and my boyfriend are both big guys over 6'2"and we share shower products and borrow each other's clothes.
 

Deleted member 59339

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Does the deodorant thing weird people out?

It's making contact with the freshly-washed armpit of someone you have an intimate relationship with, not a stranger who just rolled around in pig shit and then ran a marathon.
 
orlock

orlock

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my partner and i (queer male and queer female) share clothes a lot. well, i guess i should say that she "borrows" my clothes a bunch, but not so much the other way around. i do often use some of their of hair care products or toothpaste. theyve used some of my deodorant but i havent used any of theirs, mostly because i dont like the scent. other than that, we're happy to interchangeably use anything we've got.
 
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