At what point do you simply give up on them?
When they're consciously a threat to others (in the sense of being a manipulative predator), the only reasonable thing to do it separate yourself from them, and warn others away from them. They can choose to change and grow from there, and forgiveness comes
after, depending on the individual. It's specifically
not someone's job to enable and insulate
ongoing wrongdoing, whether it's a personal relationship or a publc figure. Specifically, this
isn't "giving up on someone," but ironically that corruption of good intentions is one of the pressure points we
know Holowka leveraged against those around him.
It needs to be repeated the many opportunities Holowka had to change, and made the conscious choice not to, while also cruelly using the idea of his mental health to manipulate other victims. This was not someone who relented, regreted, or even simply stopped his abuse of others. This is not the person you artificially humanize as an intellectual exercise because it makes you feel better.
