This is really good. Additionally, I believe I’ve figured out WHY this happens so much with men.
Many of us are taught by society we aren’t men if we don’t have sex, or have sex with tons of women etc.
This starts a chain of events where we aren’t honest with our intentions with women. To just keep things casual etc.
Then we are taught we need to convince women to have sex with us or be intimate with us. So instead of asking to kiss, to dance, to anything with women because people say it’s “lame” we test women and try things( go in for a kiss, a hand hold or even more extreme things).
Then we mix alcohol or other drugs which may cause us to be in different mental states where we could be black out drunk(we could have consented but don’t remember it) or even worse where someone is incapacitated and we don’t realize that consent should always be a sober experience and can be taken away at any time.
We have a lot we all need to look at and how we contribute and how we can open for better and cleaner interactions with one another.
I say all this as I was accused of being inappropriate with someone and it hurts me a lot because I thought I understood consent etc but I now realize some of my mistakes which include just never dealing with anyone when they have been drinking because they forget memories of events, stay away from high risk situations when it comes to being around people which includes any drinking etc.
It can easily happen to us all and we all need to take a deep look at how we view eachother and most importantly be honest, respect people’s space and ask permission at every corner until you and that someone have a full understanding of eachother.