Senator Al Franken Kissed and Groped Me Without My Consent [Up: Apology; Apology Accepted]

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Oct 25, 2017
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The sexual nature matters. There are a bunch of universal sleeping jokes but he elected to use one that basically says, I bet you would love to touch these? That is what makes it exploitative. If he had done things like placed a funny and identity neutral sign on her this wouldn't be an issue and is someone could laugh about after finding out after the fact.

His joke basically throws in her face that she can be viewed as a sex object that can be taken advantage of.
Yeah, he was using the basic tools of power and objectification.
 
Oct 25, 2017
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You're assuming to know what would happen in an election in 2018, and then again in 2020, to justify whatever the hell it is you're trying to say.
Do you know anything about Minnesota politics? We swing to the right all the time. Franken won his seat by a few hundred votes the first time against the notorious piece of shut Norm Coleman. We're the ones who gave you the wonderful Michelle Bachmann and we've been swinging back right for awhile now. Don't believe he's so easily replaced.
 

JJH

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Has the whataboutism begun already? Dump him and move on. Al should know this too.
 

Reaper55

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It's not about whether or not it's sexual in nature, it's about whether or not it's exploitative in nature. and that photo is 100% exploitative. Remember, she only found out what had happened to her while she was sleeping when the photo was distributed to herself and others. He was using her unconscious body for his "goofing".
I've seen teachers put notes on sleeping student's backs or friends draws a dick on a passed out person. I agree the picture is in poor taste and is exploitative, but I don't think it is sexual in nature and shouldn't be described as groping.
 

RiPPn

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Franken should resign quickly.. this seems convenient timing in the Moore controversy, and the longer Franken holds out, the more of a pass he is giving Moore.
 
Oct 25, 2017
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Totally gross with the kissing stuff and if true, he needs to resign. The ONLY thing for me that is suspect is how she knows that he groped her while sleeping just by seeing the photo some time later. It's a degrading picture, but not a picture of him actually groping her. It feels like unnecessary embellishment, and puts a shadow on the rest of her story.
 

Briarios

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If we hear from more regarding his behavior, he needs to go. However, the strength of something like the Roy Moore allegations is the number of people involved. I'm uncomfortable with someone losing their job or being destroyed publicly on the words of one person from over a decade ago.

A little patience before the witch hunt isn't a bad thing. If there is more, it'll come out.
 
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He probably ought to resign. Show the stark contrast between the two parties for the tolerance of this behavior.
I do hope he a future in some capacity to continue to fight the cause. He's generally pretty intelligent, thoughtful, and the right side of a lot of issues.
 
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I've seen teachers put notes on sleeping student's backs or friends draws a dick on a passed out person. I agree the picture is in poor taste and is exploitative, but I don't think it is sexual in nature and shouldn't be described as groping.
Even in the context that he had recently forced a kiss on her and was noticeably angry when she rejected him?
 

Cels

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the kiss is bad, obviously franken was just using the skit as an excuse to kiss her, tongue and all. gross. then he retaliated after she refused to kiss him the way he wanted her. not a good environment to work in, and she sucked it up because she was there for the troops and didn't feel like she could fight against franken who was a big shot while she was a relative nobody.

the "grope" is bad too although the photo doesn't show him touching her. she hurts her credibility by claiming that it shows him groping her. it doesn't. maybe a better way to describe it is like a mocking sexual joke without her consent or participation because she was asleep -- which is certainly awful, but groping is on another level.
 

gogosox82

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Yes, we do need this. We always need to be skeptical when there is am absence of evidence.
Unless you have clear evidence she is lying, there is literally no reason not to believe her. And Franken did apologize for the photo so he is at least admitting the photo was in poor taste.
 

mutantmagnet

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Yes, we do need this. We always need to be skeptical when there is am absence of evidence.

There is nothing wrong with taking the stance that there's no evidence beyond he said she said but you're making things a lot worse by trying to suss out motivations without any credible evidence yourself.
 

The Mad Mango

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He didn't flatly deny any of the accusations. If the accusations are grossly inaccurate, why didn't he give his version of what happened? Some of you are defending Franken more than he defended himself. At some point the accused needs to do at least the bare minimum of rebuttal, or else it looks like a tacit admission of guilt.
 

Carfo

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For the inappropriate joke of the photo, yes?
he apologized for the photo citing it as a joke in poor taste, and said he didn't recall the kiss in the same way ms tweeden did and apologized for how he made her feel. this is going to be a case of he-said-she-said, and given the climate of sexual allegations lately, he won't get a lot of credit here. most will believe the woman, as I do
 
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Welp, I disagree. Why must Democrats shoot themselves in the foot to maintain a sense of moral and ideological purity that our opponents, literal fascists committed to fundamentally reshaping this country into an ethnostate, don't hold themselves to. If Franken were a teacher and he did this to a co-worker, it's grounds for some kind of reprimand, if not termination. Sure, I'll give you that. But he's a Senator in the only viable opposition party, a damn popular one, and someone heavily rumored to be among the leading prospects to take on the fascist-in-chief in 2020's general election. I'm not being dismissive of the alleged victim. I just think we need some perspective.
 

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As someone who enthusiastically voted Al Franken in the past, I have a broken heart. I thought he was better than that, but it’s taught me (again) that you never truly know your heroes.

I hope he resigns immediately. Not only is it the right thing to do, but would demonstrate Dems are a party of standards and accountability vs the party of Trump, [pick a FOX News guy], Moore, or [pick a right wing church sex controversy].
 
Oct 25, 2017
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He probably ought to resign. Show the stark contrast between the two parties for the tolerance of this behavior.
I do hope he a future in some capacity to continue to fight the cause. He's generally pretty intelligent, thoughtful, and the right side of a lot of issues.
There needs to be an investigation. Tossing people out on hearsay is a terrible precedent to set. Only should go if he admits it's true.
 

lmcfigs

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This is really good. Additionally, I believe I’ve figured out WHY this happens so much with men.

Many of us are taught by society we aren’t men if we don’t have sex, or have sex with tons of women etc.

This starts a chain of events where we aren’t honest with our intentions with women. To just keep things casual etc.

Then we are taught we need to convince women to have sex with us or be intimate with us. So instead of asking to kiss, to dance, to anything with women because people say it’s “lame” we test women and try things( go in for a kiss, a hand hold or even more extreme things).

Then we mix alcohol or other drugs which may cause us to be in different mental states where we could be black out drunk(we could have consented but don’t remember it) or even worse where someone is incapacitated and we don’t realize that consent should always be a sober experience and can be taken away at any time.

We have a lot we all need to look at and how we contribute and how we can open for better and cleaner interactions with one another.

I say all this as I was accused of being inappropriate with someone and it hurts me a lot because I thought I understood consent etc but I now realize some of my mistakes which include just never dealing with anyone when they have been drinking because they forget memories of events, stay away from high risk situations when it comes to being around people which includes any drinking etc.

It can easily happen to us all and we all need to take a deep look at how we view eachother and most importantly be honest, respect people’s space and ask permission at every corner until you and that someone have a full understanding of eachother.
Well something definitely is wrong where AFAIK, all of the recent accused have been men and none have been women.
We still have gay men like Kevin Spacey and others who are also guilty of similar inappropriate situations with other men. It's not clear how being socialized into viewing women as sex objects led them to their behavior.
 

clearacell

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There's the context of the picture.. which according to the accuser, was taken AFTER THE KISS. Which means it's a vindictive move to humiliate her.

Even if it's not.. taking a picture of a sleeping women with your hands over her breasts.. when is that ever funny? When is that ever ok (for someone to do that you don't know/trust)?
Yeah if thats the context then it makes it worse than the picture and act itself. Franken cannot have a holier than thou attitude from a seat of power that requires a holier than thou life, so he needs to step down or make up for this in the most public fashion, as in having a public conversation with Tweeden herself or something.
 

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Welp, I disagree. Why must Democrats shoot themselves in the foot to maintain a sense of moral and ideological purity that our opponents, literal fascists committed to fundamentally reshaping this country into an ethnostate, don't hold themselves to. If Franken were a teacher and he did this to a co-worker, it's grounds for some kind of reprimand, if not termination. Sure, I'll give you that. But he's a Senator in the only viable opposition party, a damn popular one, and someone heavily rumored to be among the leading prospects to take on the fascist-in-chief in 2020's general election. I'm not being dismissive of the alleged victim. I just think we need some perspective.
I'm not saying he should immediately be kicked out, but it's not a nothingbuger. He's obviously at fault, the only question is the severity of his actions.
 

mutantmagnet

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I've seen teachers put notes on sleeping student's backs or friends draws a dick on a passed out person. I agree the picture is in poor taste and is exploitative, but I don't think it is sexual in nature and shouldn't be described as groping.

It was sexual in nature. He was highlighting the idea of groping her breasts.
 

Addie

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Nobody is defending what he did. But this is a nothingburger, an unfortunate indiscretion that is obviously not so damning as to warrant the suspicious calls for him to step down.
It's not a nothing burger; it's damning; and I don't know if it's enough for him to step down.

In an ideal world, he wouldn't have done it. In a less ideal world, he'd say, "I did something terrible and inappropriate. I didn't actively intend to marginalize and objectify Ms. Tweeden, but effect matters. I had a position of power over her, and I misinterpreted her hesitant willingness to go along with my actions as consent. That wasn't true consent. In my career as a comedian, I've probably done similar things. In fact, when I say I don't recall, it's true: this is how I acted, but it's not how I act anymore. I'm older, wiser, and will listen. I will dedicate myself to holding my fellow men accountable."

Or something like that. I don't know. It's obviously not Moore or Trump or Weiner level, but it's not nothing.
 
Oct 27, 2017
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It's good for there to actually be an investigation. Whatever the outcome, it would be great to finally set the precedent that serious accusations merit an actual investigation and are not just brushed off.
 

entremet

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he apologized for the photo citing it as a joke in poor taste, and said he didn't recall the kiss in the same way ms tweeden did and apologized for how he made her feel. this is going to be a case of he-said-she-said, and given the climate of sexual allegations lately, he won't get a lot of credit here. most will believe the woman, as I do
Having healthy skepticism isn’t a terrible thing given GOP tactics, though.

Should be investigated and calls to resign are premature.
 

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This puts the WhiteHouse between a rock and a hard place come Press Briefing time. If they condemn Franken then they must condemn Moore.. If they condemn either they are opening the door to being called hypocrites by the media and Dems due to not addressing Trumps own accusations.
 

DonShula

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The right is going to have a field day with this. It’s going to replace the Moore coverage. The best case scenario as of right now is that Franken resigns today. He’s actively hurting the cause for as long as this continues.
 

tlhm94

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*sigh* Something is starting to seem off with this characterization by her and the alleged Military Escorts account.

If this some how turns out to be a political hit job to distract from the Moore stuff, it will hurt real victims coming out more than the politicians they are trying to hurt..
I mean, there is a third option ya know. Maybe she truly did feel violated and angry at him pestering her to do the rehearsal and sticking his tongue in her mouth. And maybe the recent stories really did encourage her to finally feel the empowerment necessary to come forward without fear. Maybe over the years her mental framing of how things played out shifted to become less credible than the details seem to suggest. We need not assume that in the event she is mischaracterizing the events that she therefore must have a political agenda.
 

pigeon

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If we hear from more regarding his behavior, he needs to go. However, the strength of something like the Roy Moore allegations is the number of people involved. I'm uncomfortable with someone losing their job or being destroyed publicly on the words of one person from over a decade ago.

A little patience before the witch hunt isn't a bad thing. If there is more, it'll come out.
There's literally a photo already. What do you people want?

Welp, I disagree. Why must Democrats shoot themselves in the foot to maintain a sense of moral and ideological purity that our opponents, literal fascists committed to fundamentally reshaping this country into an ethnostate, don't hold themselves to.
Because as important as it is to resist white supremacy, we should not compromise with misogynists and sexual assaulters in order to do it, nor should it be necessary.
 
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