Serious Thread: How/When did you learn that Sex was a natural, every day feeling?

[Deleted member 13015]

Quick story from myself: I have OCD and grew up in a religious home. Masturbation and porn was a big no, and my OCD would make me feel guilty for having sexual thoughts/feelings. This was all in my teens/early 20s. I'm 27 and I'm still trying to overcome this everyday, although I think I'm doing okay.

Question for you: How and when did you see sex as a natural, every day feeling? I remember alot of people being so open about sexual topics in school, while I was so uncomfortable and quiet about it (because of OCD and my house's religion). Do teens usually learn these feelings to be natural at a young age during puberty?

One more question: My psychologist, bless her, told me that no matter how much we mature about the topic of sexuality, we'll always feel a bit discomfort or just a tad of nervousness when talking about the topic. Is this true for you? (Just a slight discomfort, nothing major like anxiety).

I just want to learn to accept that I get horny every day and that it is a natural feeling, just like hunger and wanting to go to sleep.

Thank you for understanding, ERA.

 

[CloudWolf]

Depends on what you mean. If you mean just talking about sex in general, that came somewhere in high school after we got over the hilarity of my teacher saying 'penis'.

However, I don't go around discussing my sex life in detail with people. That's a bit awkward.

 

[joe1138]

Depends on what you mean. If you mean just talking about sex in general, that came somewhere in high school after we got over the hilarity of my teacher saying 'penis'.

However, I don't go around discussing my sex life in detail with people. That's a bit awkward.

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Yeah, I think I've gotten over my hang ups in recent years (I'm now in my 30's). I'm not very forthcoming when talking about my personal life to strangers or randos but with very close friends and women with whom there's mutual interest and attraction, I'm fairly open to talking freely.

I grew up in a similarly conservative household, OP, so I can understand where you're coming from. I think it's something you get used to as the topic comes up with people your comfortable talking with and vice versa.

The older we get, the less we care what others may think and the more shared experiences we all have.

 

[Deleted member 4614]

I feel like it's a spectrum. Thinking about food is natural and healthy. Thinking about it all the time? Not so much. On the opposite end, it's pretty unhealthy to hate yourself for eating it.

You can't let your life be dominated by sex, or suppressing sexual feelings. Use your prefrontal cortex!