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SingleEra, how do you settle the bill?
- Thread starter Illenium
- Start date
Maybe, but I always meet up soon after matching. I think you always need IRL to determine chemistry so why wait?
The onus is usually on men to ask out, so it doesn't make much of a difference in the distinction of asking out in regards to who's paying.
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short answer? Safety reasons. And I usually gauge what kind of person they are. Some people tend to talk more online than in person so it also gives them a sense of comfort
Ouch, yeah, a two dollar tip is pretty embarsassing, for you as well. If the service and food was good, I usually go for a bit more than ten percent, which is normal here in the Netherlands. But that's more to do with being a decent human being than it has with the date part :p
Also, if I'm having fun and we're doing drinks I often offer to pay. Because I don't mind paying something for someone I like. Just like I sometimes pay for friends. But I'm not rich, so spending 60 to 80 bucks for an actual meal is too much for me.
No worries man, I hope it didn't come of as some sort of attack or something :) I just have my own ideas towards this, and my view on dating. It's not meant as something directed or targeted towards you. I agree that everyone does dating differently, and wants different things from it.
Telling someone to keep the change with a 2 dollar tip lmaoooo that man had no shame
Nope it's all good. Lost in all of this is the very point you brought up just now...both sides of the date can tell alot by how the check is handled. It's the number one reason I choose to pay because:
- It keeps me from spending money on women I'm not sure about before the date even happens
- It's the easiest way to see the negative side of someone that they could be hiding
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I offer because I don't want to assume they live by the same ruleset that I do. If they respond with, "I got it" I don't fight it.
Edit: Same thing if I go to pay for it all and they stop me cause they want to split it. I don't fight that either.
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I'm a woman, but I always did say we can split it, 100% of the time. If they then offered I never complained and just went with it.
Ive always offered to take care of the whole thing but if they say
"are you sure" I continue to paybecause i know they are glad on the inside but
if they say "lets split it or anything similar" I immediately take the opportunity and im very happy inside because i could not afford this whole thing lmao
"are you sure" I continue to paybecause i know they are glad on the inside but
if they say "lets split it or anything similar" I immediately take the opportunity and im very happy inside because i could not afford this whole thing lmao
Never met up for food for a first date, always asked girls out for a drink instead. I usually paid.
When those meetups went well, it usually led to food which I'd also pay for and that didn't bother me too much. We're usually talking about bar food here and not a fancy dinner. I seriously doubt anyone is going to take advantage of me to get some free nachos.
Really bars are just a great atmosphere in general for a first date since you have drinks, some food, darts, and maybe some other games. It allows for that first date to be as long or as short as you want it to be.
When those meetups went well, it usually led to food which I'd also pay for and that didn't bother me too much. We're usually talking about bar food here and not a fancy dinner. I seriously doubt anyone is going to take advantage of me to get some free nachos.
Really bars are just a great atmosphere in general for a first date since you have drinks, some food, darts, and maybe some other games. It allows for that first date to be as long or as short as you want it to be.
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this post has made me reflect a lot on my past first dates. I think of every one, I only been on one which started at a bar. But I can't even comment too much on it because we didn't meet up til 1am. We definitely talked a lot but a lot of the times, it was more difficult to hear each other because of the loud surroundings. I think i Prefer a sit down meal instead
Well I was early 30s doing the online thing mostly dating girls between 25 and 30 so 1 am would have been late as shit. Usually it'd be something between 4-7pm when bars aren't as crowded or have a live band or something.
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yeah it's definitely a spur of the moment date for that one but most people I meet up with for dates doesn't even drink š¤£
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Hm even in nyc?