So anyone else "falling apart" after their 30's?


Nov 27, 2017
I threw my back out picking up my 25 pound daughter a couple days ago. Because I’m in my mid 30s, I’m still having to take pain meds and apply heat/cold to it every couple of hours. I also gave major shoulder impingement which makes it nearly impossible to do any kind of weightlifting without major stretching before and after. I have not gone the gym consistently since having our kid, and boy does my body hate me for it. I definitely want to be more active this winter.


The Fallen
Oct 27, 2017
I'm 34 and probably feel better than I ever have in my life which I credit to proper exercise and diet.

I remember being in my early 20s and having
Naps in the bathroom after lunch because I was so tired. Even like a year or two ago I used to spend my lunch hour napping because I'd be so tired by the time lunch came but now I go for a walk on my lunch break which is a great pick me up.

Only issue is a do get a bit of knee pain from time to time due to running.


May 17, 2018
The 20s were really bad, not only health wise but just in general - I would say it’s the worst time of my life, even worse than my single digit years or teen years lol

Made a lot of bad choices, some of which I am still trying to fix.

At the very least learned from my mistakes.

Had to do a lot of soul searching and had no help - parents weren’t educated and had little to no English skills (migrated from India)

No sibilings, didn’t have any friends and no other family to look out to - dark times...

Thankfully in a better place/position now
You know, your story sounds a lot like mine. Moving continents, learning new languages, having to learn from some very dark times... I’m glad we both learned from it and made it through! There’s a lot of life left for us!


Oct 27, 2017
Early 40s. I'm fatter than I used to be but not fat. Plenty of aches and pains but nothing close to debilitating. I now need multifocal glasses. I can't stay up very late without just passing out. I eat way less as I'm just not as hungry anymore. I get up very early now, and crash before 11pm most nights. No coffee after dinner time or I can't sleep.

If anything has held me together it's been clean eating (fresh foods most of the time and just paying attention to my diet) and my daughter. She somehow simultaneously ages me and keeps me young.


Oct 25, 2017
probably healthier now than i was in my 20's. one thing i do have that doesn't seem to go away is heel pain in my right foot. my gerd is coming back after going away for a couple of years so that's a bummer.


Oct 28, 2017
I'm 36. I'm still in pretty good shape. The few problems that I have are that I've gained a little bit of weight. I'm tall (6'2") and used to be very slim. I still have a decent body, but I have some belly fat that I never thought I would have. I was probably 150-160 before and now I'm about 180. This might be partially due to diet and being more sedentary because of a traumatic back injury that resulted in a slipped disc, so I tend to be less active. I'm working on changing that with some new hobbies, though. I could definitely eat better, but my fiancee tends to want to go out and with her schedule, doing things like intermittent fasting is really difficult.

I have acid reflux now, which I never had in my 20s. I also feel terrible after drinking more than maybe one beer. It's not a hungover thing, even if I don't get drunk, I feel awful. That probably isn't a bad thing, since it makes me far less likely to drink. I never drank much anyway, but now it is super rare.

Oddly, I've sort of been sleeping better. I used to have really bad insomnia and would need to take something almost every night to help me fall asleep. I fall asleep much easier now, but I wake up in the middle of the night, which I never used to do.

That's about it, aside from some grey hairs showing up in my beard now.


Feb 17, 2019
Not so much my 30's, but my health has definitely fallen off a cliff in my late 40s


Oct 25, 2017
Seriously though, for those of you that are in your mid-30's and have changed your habits... how? How'd you do it? I know I need to make some changes and I am, slowly, but it's very difficult.


Oct 26, 2017
32 and been more active than I've ever been in my life.
Was already doing the gym and snowboarding.

Now mountain biking and it's fucking great. Wish I did all this when I was younger.
Only genuine issues I've had was some slight hair receding and just less times in general for fun due to responsibilities.


Attempted to circumvent ban with alt account
Oct 25, 2017
Longwood, FL
Late 30s here

I’ve recommitted to exercising regularly and eating good 6 days per week to avoid some of this stuff.

I’m hoping that by 40yo, I’ll be in “Maintain Mode” for my weight. There’s no way I’ll ever reach the peak I was at while at FSU...or when I got married


Oct 25, 2017
32 here, and I honestly don’t feel much of a difference compared to 22. Working out every single day is something I think helps immensely.
It does, keeps testosterone levels up which does start to decrease in your 30s. Sleep is important too to control hormones that make it difficult to lose weight, increase estrogen and promote hair loss.

Sleep, gym, positive thinking is key for better health as you age.


Oct 25, 2017
I'm 35 and i've never felt better. I'm in excellent shape, i look younger now than 5 years ago and my mental health is great as well. It's crazy how acquiring healthy habits can do to your self-esteem.
T002 Tyrant

T002 Tyrant

Nov 8, 2018
OP, are you me???? The part about going to the doctor frequently and that hiatal hernia/GERD speak to me because I had that same exact issue and tried many times to find out what I had. It got to the point where I gave up because they could never find anything. Weird.
Eventually I found a doctor that thought they better send me to a specialist. Most doctors just said "change your diet" but I explained to this doctor that having a lump in my throat, bringing up gunge and having constant acid reflux was extremely odd and should be investigated to find the root cause, the specialist sent me for an endoscopy and they gave me the option to roofies or to be fully conscious, I opted for the fully conscious route and I had one of the worst experiences of my life, so kinda wish I'd been roofied now.

There was scaring and a beginning of a hiatus hernia, I also paid online for a DNA test to find out my food sensitivities (the one's I'm genetically likely to have) and that helped when taking those foods out of my diet and then reintroducing them one by one and noting the symptoms. Best £45 I spent. Obviously done off medication and after the healing period for the stomach (8 weeks) but avoiding those foods has helped so much. I used to feel horrible and bloated and sick after a few slices of pizza, but can eat an entire large vegan cheese and gluten free crust without trouble!


Oct 26, 2017
38 and no impairments so far. I eat very balanced, exercise two times a week, have a challenging job and live a generally very happy and wholesome live though.


Oct 30, 2017
I'm 36 and just lurching from one medical problem to another. Work is hard on my body and I don't do myself any favours, drinking regularly and eating poorly for about a decade now.


Oct 25, 2017
Holy hell, yep. 35 now. Noticed deterioration start at 28. Physical existence hurts if you focus on it. Haha.

It really kicked my ass into gear two years ago though. Got a trainer, got much stronger fast. Probably in the best shape of my life right now. But damn, those random aches and pains. Just sleep the wrong way one night and you might be screwed for half the day. Hahahha


Nov 1, 2019
Had been 30 for only a couple of months suffered a spontaneous lung collapse my first time in the hospital ever needing actual surgery to put tubes in to reinflate my lung.

Then my leg started to shake and turned out I had an infection in my achilles which touch the nerve making my entire leg vibrate, back problems etc etc.


Oct 28, 2017
I'm 32 and I feel better nowadays than in my 20s. I was never into sports during my teenage years but started running in my 20s, although somehow I could never get used to it. I often was wasted for the entire day by the end of a week, with my calves aching and my body in general feeling numb.

I started going to the gym in the last two years and I've overall felt much better - even at running. I've never eaten much though (but I do like soft drinks, so it's not like I have a great diet).


Oct 25, 2017
I am 42 and generally feel great when I am not playing basketball.

I think you just have to spend more time taking care of your body as you get older. You can't eat shit all the time. You have to exercise and stretch more as you get older. And you should stop playing contact sports like basketball (I feel like an old ass man after a few hours of full court, your joints suck after 40).


Nov 1, 2017
Weird how this hits everyone at different ages, but 41 was my peak performance year, in terms of looks, weight, health, etc. 42 has been my worst so far of course 😆 Not invincible anymore and starting to see that swing downward in everything. Started gaining weight, hair loss, whiter hair, random health issues, less endurance, etc. Some stuff can be managed through healthier lifestyle changes, some of it just takes some acceptance.
Until I can get an Altered Carbon style swap over to another body, I’m just kind of stuck in this one lol.


Oct 27, 2017
Hemorrhoids, and I have to sleep with my neck a little elevated otherwise I get back aches. Other than that, I'm pretty good. Hair line strong as fuck. Energy is decent. A new coworker was blown away when she learned I was 34, because I look 10 years younger according to her - I'm sure my teenaged looking facial hair game contributes to that. I'm super out of shape, but I could be in shape if i wanted to. Beer is too good.


Oct 28, 2017
Basically work out 4-5 times a week since I was 20, so health hasn’t been an issue. I can work on my sleep though. That is horrible.


Oct 30, 2017
Mid 30s, I have plantar fasciitis on one foot and more recently my elbow has started hurting out of nowhere, the doctor says it's golfer's elbow.


Oct 28, 2017
My late 30's have been a fucking nightmare of health issues. It feels never ending.


Oct 27, 2017
I'm 37 and have been lucky so far. I mostly feel "normal". My shoulder hurts because it's double jointed and allows way too much motion in the socket, but that comes and goes. Also for the past few years, I've become randomly lactose intolerant. Like, one week I'm fine chugging a glass of chocolate milk, the next week I'm a gas plant if I dared to put a slice of cheese in my sandwich. It's weird.

I must say that my job is mostly computer based, so it's not like I have to lift heavy shit all day. Also, I didn't play sports in highschool so I never fucked anything up.

Neo C.

Nov 9, 2017
I was fine in my 30s until now, but I start having small constant pain in my joints. It's stupid and I hope stem cells therapy can get to the point of widespread use.

I shouldn't complain too much though, compared to other people I'm in a pretty good shape.

Croc Man

Oct 27, 2017
35 here,

I have a torn labrum in my hip and was feeling like shit earlier in my 30s. I've found yoga is phenomenal for giving me back some of the flexibility and cutting out those aches and pains. I regularly weightlift (3-4 times a week) and play soccer 2-3 times a week. Feeling better now than I did five years ago

You can reverse that shit feeling, it just takes a little effort on your part
I started yoga as soon as those aches, pains and old man movement noises started and they soon disapeared.
There's a quote you're only as young as your spine is flexible that resonates with me.
Oct 25, 2017
Brooklyn, NY
I used to spit up blood randomly along with having asthma issues and severe allergic reactions to so much to the point I wanted to kill myself multiple times to end that suffering. All of this from ages 8 until 22. 27 now and I'm thankfully past all of that now and have no issues besides getting 6 hours or less of sleep outside of weekends.
Oct 25, 2017
I noticed a couple things people think cause bad health. Caffeine... is actually fine in moderation. People can easily handle 3 cups of coffee a day. I do not want to say there is no concerns here cause it can be misused or affect your sleep, but the downsides are typically temporary and somewhat harmless. At least you do not have to cut them out of your life. Coffee/tea also have very real positives, outside of caffeine which can also be considered a positive.

Also some talk about red meats and like I get it... we have been basically brainwashed to avoid red meat. Not gonna go deep on this but red meat is fine. The way meat is cooked has a bigger impact than what meat tbh. The links to cancer are from burned meat say in a grill. Slow cooked meat and meat in general is not only a healthy nutrient dense food, it has tons of bioavailable whole proteins which is very important for health and longevity.

The biggest positive health moves I have seen and believe are the cutting processed sugars and carbs. Especially soda. Adding some cardio (does not have to be a lot, like 30 mins a week for cardio is sufficient unless you like it then by all means do more). Calorie control and mindful eating in general, as opposed to intuitive eating which is affected by a lot of factors including lack of sleep, stress, and mood swings.

One thing I have not noticed mentioned enough is proper sleep. Apparently women can get by on 6 hours but men need 7 hours, of quality sleep. If you are waking up at night, you may need more.


Nov 5, 2017
I've been pretty fit up until 39, but I've hit some sort of metabolic cliff. I can't really keep the weight off with exercise alone anymore. I've put on a stone in the last year and it's not muscle. Part of that I think is the disrupted sleep with a newborn but it's frustrating. I've also started to get shin splints often when running.

Switch Back 9

Oct 27, 2017
No joke I completely threw my neck out a few weeks ago during a yawn/stretch. Like so bad I couldn't turn my head for 4-5 days.


Oct 25, 2017
Turned 30 this year and I am a bit scared about the things you tell here in the thread. So far feeling good, just today I started a new sports class. No pain so far.


Oct 25, 2017
Everything was fine until late 30s. Now everything is "oh here's thing that you must suffer or deal with daily for the rest of your life" stuff. Small things that pile up.


Oct 25, 2017
a parallel universe
I'm in better shape than I was in my 20's but I went bald and grey as soon as I hit 30. Anxiety came out of nowhere and I had to make a lot of life changes to avoid completely falling apart. 35 to 40 looks like it will be a lot better than 30 to 35. But I had to do quite the 180 for that to happen.


Oct 25, 2017
I’m the healthiest I’ve been since I was a teenager. Losing my hair but whatever.

Mental state is a completely different thing, though.


Oct 27, 2017
I’m halfway through 30, and am in probably the best shape I’ve been since I was an athlete - around 18/19 years old.

Like you, I felt my body start to slow down dramatically between 26–28, and took that as my wake up call to actually take care of myself. I now:

- take my diet seriously
- take my sleep seriously
- take my mental health seriously
- take myself and my needs seriously
- make a point to exercise regularly

The good news is that if I can do it, anyone can. (Of course with the caveat that I make decent money and have awesome health insurance, which goes a long way in the US)

I’m also not some walking miracle - I still need to lose weight and handle a couple longstanding health problems. But the main difference is how I’ve prioritized doing something about it.

So get started on hitting the gym/kitchen :)


Oct 28, 2017
34. I have some injuries right now from training a bit to much. But otherwise in the best shape I have ever been.


Oct 25, 2017
It’s your lifestyle choices catching up to you.

Personally I started fasting, lifting weights and don’t drink as much anymore and never felt better. I’m also in the best shape of my life at 33.


Oct 27, 2017
47 here. No pains or problems. Some already mentioned, but diet is the main contributed to health, IMO.


Oct 27, 2017
United Kingdom
38 and fitter, stronger and healthier than I've ever been. Started the gym 3 years ago and I now keep an eye on what I eat.

In my 20s I would regularly do drugs, drink excessively, eat fast food daily and go to work with very little sleep.


Oct 28, 2017

I’m down one major and some minor OEM parts.

My power plant had a major error code.

Fuel filter is weird now. Some additives cause knocking that never used to be there.

Suspension has been a bit rough due to being sport tuned in my younger years. Might be time to switch to air ride.

Weight savings have improved, which has reduced overall wear and tear. Torque response and handling have been better than they have in years, might need a roll cage though.


Oct 27, 2017
29 and my body has already gone to shit. Throat problems (always had problems even as a child due to second hand smoke). Back problems, hearing problem in my left ear. Kids left toys o the stairs which I ended up slipping on and now my ankle is all screwed up.

On the plus side at least I still have a full head of hair.