- Oct 26, 2017
Just know if she screams "Onii-chan!" during sex, she has an unacceptable fetish and you need to get the FUCK out of there.
From what I’ve observed living in Asia the past ten years, this is what happens most of the time. Lately I’ve been meeting a LOT of middle-aged white dudes who are divorced from a local woman because they claim “she went crazy after we got married”, which is total bullshit.
Kind of spot on. As you mentioned, is not about discouraging OP, but making sure he's aware that, with the language barrier, it's going to take more to maintain a relationship. Not only that, but the cultural barrier as well.
It's not, some people can keep the crazy in check until they have thier feet under the table. Those dudes rushed and dodnt sweat the women out to see if they were that type.
From what I've seen, there is this completely wrong assumption that their girlfriend/wife will learn English, quit her career and leave her family and friends to go live in America or whatever because they have this conceit that its so much better in their country. Sacrifices have to be made both ways for this kind of relationship to work.From what I’ve observed living in Asia the past ten years, this is what happens most of the time. Lately I’ve been meeting a LOT of middle-aged white dudes who are divorced from a local woman because they claim “she went crazy after we got married”, which is total bullshit.
They saw the “sexy Asian woman” first and foremost without bothering to learn anything about the culture or the language, and when the communication barriers and cultural incompatibilities started to cause a deterioration in the marriage, the dudes usually end up bolting and trading up for someone younger/hotter.
I’m not saying “all white guys”, just pretty much 90% of the ones I’ve met. And I can say that without a shred of exaggeration.
OP, just take the time to learn the language and be sensitive to the cultural differences and always, always try to appreciate where she’s coming from. Don’t be “that guy” who has an Asian girlfriend who he can barely communicate with on a deeper, proper level.
Her English is better than your Japanese and you’re getting way ahead of yourself even worrying about familiesAnd we seem to be getting along pretty well. I know some very basic Japanese from years of watching their variety shows, so I can answer with certain phrases mixed with 80% English which she finds cute.
The problem is, her English is very basic itself. She can communicate well enough, but you can tell from her sentence structure and use of words that it's still early days for her. I'd love to meet her if it comes to it, but I'm worried about what challenges the language barrier may bring, especially when it comes to our families if it advances that far.
Does anyone on Era have any experience with this sort of thing? How well does the language exchange usually work out?
Yup I have seen exactly this as well. Start learning you will be fine. Cheers.