Just know if she screams "Onii-chan!" during sex, she has an unacceptable fetish and you need to get the FUCK out of there.
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So I'm talking to a Japanese girl on a dating site...
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I'll be straight up:
Don't take it seriously and end up like my friend who caught feelings and ended up depressed and alone in Japan after a girl he liked fucked him and left after a few months.
Just have fun, don't think too much about it, and please, don't fetishize.
That same friend of mine went back to the States and fucked his married Japanese tutor while her husband was passed out drunk, as if he had some drought of Japanese women.
Don't take it seriously and end up like my friend who caught feelings and ended up depressed and alone in Japan after a girl he liked fucked him and left after a few months.
Just have fun, don't think too much about it, and please, don't fetishize.
That same friend of mine went back to the States and fucked his married Japanese tutor while her husband was passed out drunk, as if he had some drought of Japanese women.
From what I've observed living in Asia the past ten years, this is what happens most of the time. Lately I've been meeting a LOT of middle-aged white dudes who are divorced from a local woman because they claim "she went crazy after we got married", which is total bullshit.
They saw the "sexy Asian woman" first and foremost without bothering to learn anything about the culture or the language, and when the communication barriers and cultural incompatibilities started to cause a deterioration in the marriage, the dudes usually end up bolting and trading up for someone younger/hotter.
I'm not saying "all white guys", just pretty much 90% of the ones I've met. And I can say that without a shred of exaggeration.
OP, just take the time to learn the language and be sensitive to the cultural differences and always, always try to appreciate where she's coming from. Don't be "that guy" who has an Asian girlfriend who he can barely communicate with on a deeper, proper level.
/cynical rant
Kind of spot on. As you mentioned, is not about discouraging OP, but making sure he's aware that, with the language barrier, it's going to take more to maintain a relationship. Not only that, but the cultural barrier as well.
Please, don't be that guy.
Ya, I'm not sure this is the best idea. I'd rather get a lawyer.
Who needs a partner when you can just masturbate looking at your gains in the mirror right
It's not, some people can keep the crazy in check until they have thier feet under the table. Those dudes rushed and dodnt sweat the women out to see if they were that type.
From what I've seen, there is this completely wrong assumption that their girlfriend/wife will learn English, quit her career and leave her family and friends to go live in America or whatever because they have this conceit that its so much better in their country. Sacrifices have to be made both ways for this kind of relationship to work.
Just go for it and figure out any potential language barriers as they come. They aren't that hard to overcome as long as you're both willing to work at it enough .
Dating sites do work in Japan but most girls aren't looking for serious relationships. Just like foreign males, Japanes women also like exotify foreigners.
Anyway, don't over think it and if you truly fall for each other the language barrier won't be a problem. Just have patience.
*Married four years to Japanese lady*
Anyway, don't over think it and if you truly fall for each other the language barrier won't be a problem. Just have patience.
*Married four years to Japanese lady*
If you live in Japan be careful she's not one of those girls that use foreign guys for free English practice. I've gotten people on Tinder like that who may be flirty but either only meet up when they need help with studying English or keep talking to you but never meet.
"I know some very basic Japanese from years of watching their variety shows"
This has to be a joke thread lolgood work
This has to be a joke thread lolgood work
*sugoiesome.
*source: me. I am a level 20 japanese language expert.
Her English is better than your Japanese and you're getting way ahead of yourself even worrying about families
Yup I have seen exactly this as well. Start learning you will be fine. Cheers.
You're talking with a person in a dating site and you're thinking about families? C'mon dude. One step at a time.
Honestly, if I ever have foreign girlfriend, language is the least of my worry. You (and the girl) can always learn. It's the culture clash that I'm scared off if one decide to pursue serious commitment. How do you deal with her family, how your family deal with foreigner yadda yadda.
Absolutely not.
You won't learn Japanese from a Japanese partner it's a common thing that people say isn't a good expectation.
I don't have any direct experience with that, but it can be done.
A good friend of mine started seeing a woman who is originally from Vietnam. Spoke very little English, but they made it work. They've been together for about 5 years now, and are living together.
Take it slow though, and just see how it goes.
A good friend of mine started seeing a woman who is originally from Vietnam. Spoke very little English, but they made it work. They've been together for about 5 years now, and are living together.
Take it slow though, and just see how it goes.
I get this is a gaming site but you don't need to post your idiotic opinion of other peoples jokes for no reason.
Dated a Korean foreign exchange student for 5-6mo. I don't know any Korean but we made it work. Cultural differences are harder than the language barrier IMO.
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