The thread is about not defending cheating, which is a pretty solid stance.
You already have.
By definition, they are victims. Any attempt to try and find scenarios where they are not "blameless" is just victim blaming.
No I am not going to round and round argue with people who obviously believe in their own moral absolutism. That's not the way the real world works and I honestly hope none of you ever get in situation to get as harshly judged as your willing to do to others.
These insults are getting in tents. I mean intense.
Yep that selfish girl who got coerced into a child marriage at 13 needs to go back to her 55yr old husband because the circumstances of marriage are always black and white.
Divorce can destroy a person, too. Should we ban it? Should we "cancel" people who divorce? Are you from the Bible belt?
Did you read anything i said?
Thousands of minors get married every year in the US alone. Yeah let's discard all of that because there's some moral snobbery which needs to be spread across the land.
It's because the original Post covers every instance. So it's fair then for people to come up with examples. This is an international forum. Not just american.
Sure, I'm an idiot if I don't agree with you. Let's cancel people for common human flaws. Thank you for wasting my time.
Nono no.. what are you on about man? I'm a reasonable person. I have no idea why you are even attacking me. I'm pretty sure we agree. Read my posts.
You can find exceptions to everything. The statement that cheating shouldn't be defended is nothing controversial, yet the way people are tripping over themselves to poke holes through it is something to behold. I guess we can never speak in absolutes ever.
Never said it isn't a complex topic. You've just side stepped my post and made up a narrative that I'm screaming black or white.
How old are you, OP?
Why not? Are these not consensual relationships? This seems like some conservative hogwash.
Cheating is absolutely harmful, but people aren't just claiming that, they're going on to simplify why cheating happens, and how people should respond to it.
It turns out people are complex and can be multiple things at once. Not all abuse cases are the same and some even have both abusing each other in different ways.
If she fears for her life then definitely no. Thank you for providing context.
If you want nuance, you should recognize that sometimes both people are abusers. In fact, cheating in of itself can be a form of abuse. Abuse in response to abuse isn't justified either.
Sexual desire is programmed into our DNA. Cheating is not.
It was a bad post I made with no context to the situation yeah. I'll hold that L.
Perfect one and done. You want to see someone else do it properly
Do you really think that's what people are referring to when they say cheating is bad and shouldn't be defended? You think they're saying "Yeah, those minors should be getting married to old creeps!" I feel like this is on a completely different planet in terms of the subject.
I think people might have personal experience or have close friends or family that went through it and have taken it as a personal attack on them or theirs. That's how I interpret the flow of conversation.
Legally it's not child abuse. But this is just one example of people being trapped in marriage, abusive relationships, patriarchal standards and so on.
Exactly this. My your damn business. Like why do you ever care about what someone else is doing with or to their relationship?!
Nope. Cheating because you are in a bad relationship is just a bullshit excuse used to try and justify shit behavior. That's some eye for an eye bullshit yall are on. AGAIN, if you are in a bad relationship your first priority should be getting out of said relationship, NOT trying to find a better one. That's some whataboutism at its finest, "Yeah I cheated, but what they did is worse so im good." Nah, fuck that, yall are on number one bullshit, cheaters are 100% garbage people.
That's what im saying, I can forgive teenagers for shitty behavior but an adult? Nah, they are 100% pieces of shit.
