I can help but think of a particular lowered expectations madtv skit that always manages to crack me up after reading through this thread.
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The ‘Dating Market’ Is Getting Worse
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I mean not very often, i tend to go to concerts now and then but it is the same there i usually go to em by myself as I don't know many people who are into doing it. You don't really chat people up at concerts either since most people there are part of group of friends and the like lol.
So nah I don't really see any event I would meet anyone Tbh.
Swedes aren't really extrovert unless they're drunk, I have never been approached by a stranger in my country and talked to me outside of drunks. Americans tend to be much much extrovert and vocal in general and just maybe I would've had more luck there in general since there people make small talk and randomly approach me sometimes like someone like a T-shirt I wear or such .. never ever here tho.
Well, I can't speak for others, obviously. But I'm certainly no incel. Just a 43 year old trans woman debilitated by severe mental illness, carrying the added bonus of ~$40k worth of debt. Not what I'd call prime relationship material.
If you're 100 lbs overweight, you're unemployed, you have a couple kids, and you have no friends because you're a jerk it's very unlikely that someone who looks like a model and makes 6 figures would be interested in dating you.
Churches maintain multigenerational connections and massive networks. In fact, I know two gents who did missions trips in Utah and Japan and both found wives. A third met through mutual friends at a church gathering.
I missed the blackplanet train just in time to visit HBCUs to go to college.
There is no substitute. Like, you'll never in your life experience a better opportunity to meet someone.
In these times, social dating apps really need to have a video chat function so people can virtually date
AFAIK only Bumble has it for the time being, but i only have Bumble and Hinge right now as all the others were insufferable shit holes or buried you in microtransactions and subscriptions just to get basic functionality. Bumble is already pretty bad about it, as a guy at least.
Video chat isn't easy. And there's that inherent pressure to do so if the app supported it natively. If you're comfortable enough to video chat with someone, you should be comfortable enough to meet on another platform.
Hinge is the only app I pay for because it's not overpriced for what you get. 6 months for like $30 is a good deal
;) No way anyone would abuse that, oh no...
Have you had better results with Hinge? Before all this happened, I was looking into trying it.
True. If things weren't the way they were now and I also had the money to spare I'd likely do the premium access on there if only to make browsing etc easier. (i get a lot of likes and people in my list that aren't in my distance settings, etc.)
Yes I have best results with Hinge. Sure you have the same issues of talking with someone and out of nowhere they either stop talking to you or deleting you/their profile out of nowhere, but at least I get matches semi regularly in Hinge where on tinder/bumble/coffee meets bagel my matches were few and far inbetween
;) No way anyone would abuse that, oh no...
Have you had better results with Hinge? Before all this happened, I was looking into trying it.
If nothing else hopefully the forced quarantine lights a fire under the asses of these companies to strip away some of their rediculous pricing models.
One site I use has fucking paid courses and ebooks ON TOP Of their premium subscription. Paid for one month to start messaging someone I didn't match with yet, but I'm sure as hell not going to pay any more.
Haven't gotten any matches on Hinge yet but the Catholic filter means I'm not going to bother going back to bumble which lacked it.
One site I use has fucking paid courses and ebooks ON TOP Of their premium subscription. Paid for one month to start messaging someone I didn't match with yet, but I'm sure as hell not going to pay any more.
Haven't gotten any matches on Hinge yet but the Catholic filter means I'm not going to bother going back to bumble which lacked it.
More like it makes them double down. They know the majority of people on their services don't even get close to meeting or finding anyone on their platform and the audience will currently be even more desperate to find someone.
Can't say I have experience with dating apps, I downloaded Tinder and began to swipe... first picture that comes up is a girl from my block that I don't like so I hurriedly swiped... right. Dang... I deleted the app right there and then, now everytime she drives by in her car she stares at me.
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Did you guys match?
Next time, stand by your window with your dick out when she drives by. That's how online dating works, right?
For real, people are so bored right now. Even if only 20% come through for me it's still a higher average than I usually bat.
I'm getting the reverse effect where I feel like I'm going around in circles on Tinder right now. No one willing to entertain the idea of a date/getting towards that conversation with shelter-in-place being somewhat indefinite. App feels like validation/attention seeking more than ever atm.
Now imagine everything from the article plus being gay. That means online is still by far your best option - and yet a very bleak one. Add to that the growing body cult where people only seem willing to date people who are at least considered "athletic". It's terrible, ghosting is common and some people don't even give feedback if you happened to have a date. Also, I'm the type of guy who likes to build a relationship on a strong sense of sympathy and good conversations, but I feel this gets rarer by the day - while all those superficial profile "checklists" get increasingly inherited with the market behaviour. I had some really good dates over the years as well, but they are all far and few between.
I forgot I currently have a hinge account.
Its so miserable and useless.
Where love goes to die.
Its so miserable and useless.
Where love goes to die.