Dating & sex in America is, like everything else in capitalism, a transaction in a marketplace of consumers.
That is to say, everyone wants the best with the lowest cost or effort on their own part. Which is why online dating has taken off. Women specifically get to set the market and its standards. The problem is, since Tinder takes all the effort out of getting to know a person on a deeper level, it's basically a game to see who can make the best impression on the first glance - your looks. And if you're not what's considered ideal according to the standards of the marketplace, you're gonna be swiped left.
What this has led to, along with real world capitalism in America, is the middle being squeezed out, and the bottom being even more squeezed than they already were. A lot of average men, in terms of looks, are gonna be passed on for better looking options. A lot of this comes down to mentality. Most straight dudes are going to go after any relatively attractive looking woman. This leads to women being picky because they're getting flooded with options begging to be picked. And this leads to the marketplace being slanted towards the good looking, and creates a feedback loop.
It should be said that not all of these guys that are getting squeezed out are doing anything particularly wrong. It's popular to shit on men right now, but it's folly to assume that there's a character issue when the number of men not having sex is that high. That's the one problem I have with this statistic. It doesn't really do a good enough job of highlighting demographic breakdowns , like race or sexual orientation. For instance, I'd imagine that for the majority of the Tinder userbase, there aren't a whole lot of Black or Asian men getting swiped right on. Especially if you're like me, and you happen to live in a metropolitan area that has significantly more White women than anyone else. There's also the issue of mental health, and that is a real obstacle when it comes to dating and interacting with people in general.
However, even with all those nuances, there are problematic behaviors that have been systematically engrained into the heads of a lot of men. That's why, at the end of the day, we should be pursuing education as the solution to this problem. We should be more informative about the way men should properly approach women, what is "shooting your shot" vs what is harassment, and more social coaching in general. And for those with mental health issues, counseling could help alleviate the anxiety felt by some when interacting with others.
But instead of doing really any of that, most people will settle on the typical capitalist response: it's your fault. Which is exactly what most of this thread has done. And it sucks because, as another user pointed out, violent incel communities take advantage of that.