I want to talk about something, not to defend at all, as this behavior is entirely indefensible. But, what it feels like to be rejected.
I can't speak for anyone other than myself, but it depends on stages too, like if you've done something to show who you are to them, like shared your interests, etc. It can feel like everything you like everything about you, is now shot, is now rejected. I suspect lots of lonely men are rejected to only go back to the few things they have only to suddenly hate what they like that drives them to live, to cope, rejection can feel like total rejection, as a person, as an individual, especially when you have less, or are poor,or have little social life where you can be allowed to express who you are.men are taught to hide their emotions, and this leads to very little sense of validity, unfortunately,men are taught often that their most personal feelings can only be understood by a woman, so too often they keep the things that matter most to them secret, and then shove it on a girl, and feel totally crushed when their secrets are exposed as really lacking value, as they can then feel.
A big problem is lack of exposure, lack of exercising certain feelings, going back to toxic masculinity. There is no justification for this awful behavior, but sometimes rejection can make you almost suicidal, and unfortunately that feeling is sometimes turned to anger, after all, it's also not a good luck for men to be sad, as far as attracting women. A lot of this stuff is ingrained in us from a very young age to where it influences us subconsciously. The patriarchy is so deeply ingrained in our society we can't even begin to recognize how some things we've always done play into it, see Beauvoir and her constant "overthinking".
