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BDS

Banned
Oct 25, 2017
13,845
I wish we were even remotely on that level. This very thread shows that we aren't. Whenever there's a scrap thrown our way, legions of guys come out of the woodworks diminishing it - just like you are doing, by the way. Every single time. The actual reality is like the complete opposite of what you're stating.

It has a reason that even today, gay male characters in media are taken more seriously (and portrayed more seriously) than lesbians are. Companies do their damnest to avoid the L-word to ensure guys can pretend that no, not lesbian, actually bisexual, so men can be included in threesomes. Lesbians are probably the *least* marketable of the four letters, precisely because straight guys get so utterly bent out of shape at the idea of a woman that doesn't want to be with a guy - while especially the G of LGBT tends to pretend that awful portrayals of L are somehow proof that *any* portrayal of us is actually bad somehow. Reminds me of GoT, where we got actual gay dudes - and random sex between women to titilate guys in the literal text of the show, which somehow was considered equal representation. Yeah right. And people wondered why I dropped it immediately.

Really, even the tiniest lesbian representation gets attacked by both the usual straight dude parade *and* supposed allies in the community. And in most media, I still see more gay guys than lesbian women. What we actually have in media is "women kiss other women for brief media attention, then return being exclusively portrayed with men". Indie games are literally the exception, and even there there's only a handful more lesbian women than gay men (many of which got marketing push "dude options" into the story so the straight guys wouldn't get angry - life is strange being the most blatant example).

It is especially bad here because when you factor in other content like trailers, the pets expansion already has a more prominently gay male couple in marketing content, what with a wedding and all. That gets ignored, since it's always fun to complain about representation for lesbians in male-dominated forums, for some reason.

I wonder why. I wonder why.

Thank you, the "lesbian privilege" nonsense that permeates the LGBT community on these discussions is endlessly frustrating. Straight men are violently opposed to romantic lesbian relationships in media and in real life; they only find lesbians "hot" in a pornographic context where they can insert themselves into a threesome.

People bitching about how lesbians supposedly have it better is, frankly, offensive.
 

Kingpin Rogers

HILF
Banned
Oct 27, 2017
7,459
Surprised this is the first time for the Sims tbh, figured it would have been a lot sooner than now. Real shame the game itself is pretty bad compared to previous entries.
 

Jessie

Member
Oct 27, 2017
9,921
I think it's hilarious how people think Maxis is using a lesbian couple to attract straight men.

The game definitely appeals to straight men (Call Me Kevin's videos are super popular) but most of the Sims gamechangers are women and gay men.
 

jph139

One Winged Slayer
Member
Oct 25, 2017
14,381
EA, for all their faults, has always been head and shoulders above the competition with gender and sexuality representation, and have been for 10+ years. When I got the free copy of Sims 4 recently I was surprised and impressed by their gender options - choose your body, choose your walk, choose your identity, choose whatever combination of hair and clothing you want. It's completely free and open.

The Sims has gotta be the biggest EA franchise outside of the usual "20-something dudes" sphere, so it makes sense they'd be making the biggest strides there.
 

Aaron D.

Member
Oct 25, 2017
9,328
Yeah, Sims is probably the most inclusive game on the market and they aren't afraid to put gay men in their marketing material unlike a lot of other companies.

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Another thing I really dig is how Maxis puts PoC front and center on their box art. They're the main focal point, not sequestered to the back as some kind of side character. Also love that they treat interracial marriage as a total non-issue. Instead of being something "you can do"..."if you really have to", they just throw it up there on the box cover art, giving zero f's.

It's so gd refreshing.
 

mclem

Member
Oct 25, 2017
13,459
i'm actually surprised it wasnt early. Sims has always been about celebrating the LGBT stuff albeit usually from the corporate EA perspective

Yeah, this. Sims has always felt for me (albeit as someone who's not touched the series after the first game, so it could be borne of ignorance) as one that was inherently massively open-minded; I'm really surprised they hadn't made the step towards that being depicted on the cover previously.
 

SDBurton

Community Resettler
Member
Oct 25, 2017
9,394
I wish we were even remotely on that level. This very thread shows that we aren't. Whenever there's a scrap thrown our way, legions of guys come out of the woodworks diminishing it - just like you are doing, by the way. Every single time. The actual reality is like the complete opposite of what you're stating.

It has a reason that even today, gay male characters in media are taken more seriously (and portrayed more seriously) than lesbians are. Companies do their damnest to avoid the L-word to ensure guys can pretend that no, not lesbian, actually bisexual, so men can be included in threesomes. Lesbians are probably the *least* marketable of the four letters, precisely because straight guys get so utterly bent out of shape at the idea of a woman that doesn't want to be with a guy - while especially the G of LGBT tends to pretend that awful portrayals of L are somehow proof that *any* portrayal of us is actually bad somehow. Reminds me of GoT, where we got actual gay dudes - and random sex between women to titilate guys in the literal text of the show, which somehow was considered equal representation. Yeah right. And people wondered why I dropped it immediately.

Really, even the tiniest lesbian representation gets attacked by both the usual straight dude parade *and* supposed allies in the community. And in most media, I still see more gay guys than lesbian women. What we actually have in media is "women kiss other women for brief media attention, then return being exclusively portrayed with men". Indie games are literally the exception, and even there there's only a handful more lesbian women than gay men (many of which got marketing push "dude options" into the story so the straight guys wouldn't get angry - life is strange being the most blatant example).

It is especially bad here because when you factor in other content like trailers, the pets expansion already has a more prominently gay male couple in marketing content, what with a wedding and all. That gets ignored, since it's always fun to complain about representation for lesbians in male-dominated forums, for some reason.

I wonder why. I wonder why.

Amazing post.
 

Shizuka

Member
Oct 25, 2017
14,117
As a gay guy, I feel kind of grossed out by other guys not accepting that this is a good thing to our community overall.

Guys, we as gay men get represented a lot more everywhere than lesbians do, they're mostly ignored and/or pushed aside, it's not always about us.
 

McNum

One Winged Slayer
Member
Oct 26, 2017
5,195
Denmark
The power was inside me all along!
A quick tip for MCCC. When you set the chance that a Sim of the chosen group can get pregnant, that is per Sim, not overall. By default it checks the entire Adult Female age group and runs a 20% check three times per week.

I pretty much cut mine down to 2% to avoid the city getting overrun in a generation. Babies everywhere!

But tweak it however you like. That's kind of the point of it.
 
Nov 23, 2017
4,999
It's pretty crappy that people are tossing this cool nod in the trash. This is neat! Putting trans people on the cover would be sweet although we shouldn't assume that people aren't.
 

wholahay

Member
Dec 18, 2017
708
As a gay guy, I feel kind of grossed out by other guys not accepting that this is a good thing to our community overall.

Guys, we as gay men get represented a lot more everywhere than lesbians do, they're mostly ignored and/or pushed aside, it's not always about us.

But I... don't feel like that's true. Representation of gay/bi/queer men in video games is abysmal.

I mean, to be clear: representation of gay/bi/queer women in video games isn't amazing either, and the reason it's (marginally) better is rooted in misogyny and fetishization. No one is "winning" here when the prize is breadcrumbs. Ultimately The Sims 4 cover is really cool and I'm glad! And, yes, I can acknowledge it must be supremely frustrating to not feel like you can celebrate this one thing without getting sucked into the same circular conversation that pits gay men vs gay women against each other unnecessarily. Nonetheless, my perspective as a gay man is that I see myself in gaming practically never. That's frustrating too.
 

Shizuka

Member
Oct 25, 2017
14,117
But I... don't feel like that's true. Representation of gay/bi/queer men in video games is abysmal.

I mean, to be clear: representation of gay/bi/queer women in video games isn't amazing either, and the reason it's (marginally) better is rooted in misogyny and fetishization. No one is "winning" here when the prize is breadcrumbs. Ultimately The Sims 4 cover is really cool and I'm glad! And, yes, I can acknowledge it must be supremely frustrating to not feel like you can celebrate one this one thing without getting sucked into the same circular conversation that pits gay men vs gay women against each other unnecessarily. Nonetheless, my perspective as a gay man is that I see myself in gaming practically never. That's frustrating too.

That's the thing, one thing is one thing, the other is a different thing. We can be happy for their representation and hope for our representation will get better, but also in this particular case, it's clearly not being portrayed to appease to the average straight male gamer.

I don't see myself in gaming, but I also won't complain about it and diminish when other people are starting to get some space in this niche. At least where I live, gay men are so much more accepted than lesbians or bisexuals that I do not mind that, in a game cover or a few particular games, women are finally being represented. We'll eventually get there, but not if we diminish each other's advances.
 

sweetmini

Member
Jun 12, 2019
3,921
I am happy whenever under-represented flavors of love get a little place in the spotlight.
I don't play the Sims, i know i would be an addict to that kind of playloop ;)

I don't think i have seen a satisfying lesbian representation in games, the few that might have had gotten there ended up in death... thank you writers.
but this is another matter.

So ! i am with you OP, let's celebrate !
 

Deleted member 9746

User requested account closure
Banned
Oct 26, 2017
5,406
That's the thing, one thing is one thing, the other is a different thing. We can be happy for their representation and hope for our representation will get better, but also in this particular case, it's clearly not being portrayed to appease to the average straight male gamer.

I don't see myself in gaming, but I also won't complain about it and diminish when other people are starting to get some space in this niche. At least where I live, gay men are so much more accepted than lesbians or bisexuals that I do not mind that, in a game cover or a few particular games, women are finally being represented. We'll eventually get there, but not if we diminish each other's advances.
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Spyware

Member
Oct 26, 2017
2,455
Sweden
Felt like it might be good to update this thread with some more great Sims inclusiveness.

The "main character" of the Realm of Magic promotional stuff (including box art) is non-binary and/or trans, depending on how you want to see them/him.

A dev has said "I would definitely think Morgyn would identify as nonbinary or gender fluid." to a simmer (source) but there isn't an actual in-game official bio for Morgyn or open confirmation on Twitter or anything, so you are basically free to make up your own mind about them/him based on the info we do have, which is this:

Morgyn has been set as "male" (meaning he/him pronouns in the game*) with the "masculine" frame but cannot make other sims pregnant or become pregnant, can't use the toilet standing up and uses both female-coded and male-coded clothing.

*Do note that we don't have they/them as an option (yet?) so pronouns are still only binary. (Might partly be a translation problem?)

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Oct 26, 2017
9,859
EA is pro inclusivity compared to a lot of publishers but smh, the most progressive forum on the internet (this place) hates the publisher with a big passion.

Yes sure, MTX are bad and everything, but what they do for women and LGBTQ+ people is remarkable and they don't get enough credit for that.
 

Jessie

Member
Oct 27, 2017
9,921
These are Morgyn's preset outfits. They're definitely designed to be gender nonconforming.

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Efejota

Member
Mar 13, 2018
3,750
Y'know, I just realized...

Shouldn't Sims have names that are also in Simlish? I've been giving mine normal names since the first game and I haven't thought about this until now.
Uh, you could see it this way: The interface presents you with these names you input, but they refer to eachother with their simlish names that you don't have access to. The same way you think you're buying them a cupboard, not a skrujenbaja.
 

Kyuuji

The Favonius Fox
Member
Nov 8, 2017
32,229
Felt like it might be good to update this thread with some more great Sims inclusiveness.

The "main character" of the Realm of Magic promotional stuff (including box art) is non-binary and/or trans, depending on how you want to see them/him.

A dev has said "I would definitely think Morgyn would identify as nonbinary or gender fluid." to a simmer (source) but there isn't an actual in-game official bio for Morgyn or open confirmation on Twitter or anything, so you are basically free to make up your own mind about them/him based on the info we do have, which is this:

Morgyn has been set as "male" (meaning he/him pronouns in the game*) with the "masculine" frame but cannot make other sims pregnant or become pregnant, can't use the toilet standing up and uses both female-coded and male-coded clothing.

*Do note that we don't have they/them as an option (yet?) so pronouns are still only binary. (Might partly be a translation problem?)

K1twBnZ.jpg




These are Morgyn's preset outfits. They're definitely designed to be gender nonconforming.

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Oh this is neat. Somehow missed the original post so this is a delicious double-layer of good.