User Banned (1 Week): Promoting harmful racist stereotypes
""Oh, God, another Asian girl/white boy couple," I groan, dropping my fiancé's hand.
He hates it when I do this. So do I, really. I know it's unkind and self-loathing, but every time I see another couple of our racial makeup, a little part of me sinks. We live in San Francisco, so this dip is as common as the hills. In these moments, I wish we were anything else ― that he were my gay best friend or we were startup co-founders, that he were Asian and I were white, that we were exquisitely ambiguous races, or that I could sink like my feelings into the sidewalk, be a little worm, and date whomever I want without considering social perception.
Shame is neither the wisest nor most mature part of oneself, but it still has a voice. "Stop it you guys!" my shame wants to say to these other couples. "Can't you see the more of us there are, the worse it looks?"
"It" meaning the prevalent trend of Asian women seeming to end up with white men. "It" meaning the perpetuation of Asian fetish."
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Like I'm sure many of my fellow Resetera posters, I have a bit of an inclination towards Asian women. Now I know that as a cis white male, it's a bit on the nose, what with the whole fetishising "subservient" Asian females, but I never considered it from the other side. The author comes from an area of the US that is known for its high ratio of WMAF couples, but generally both sides are educated unlike the Thais you see running around Bangkok or Cebu.
So why is there "guilt" associated with it? Have any of you experienced either the guilt or the shaming?
He hates it when I do this. So do I, really. I know it's unkind and self-loathing, but every time I see another couple of our racial makeup, a little part of me sinks. We live in San Francisco, so this dip is as common as the hills. In these moments, I wish we were anything else ― that he were my gay best friend or we were startup co-founders, that he were Asian and I were white, that we were exquisitely ambiguous races, or that I could sink like my feelings into the sidewalk, be a little worm, and date whomever I want without considering social perception.
Shame is neither the wisest nor most mature part of oneself, but it still has a voice. "Stop it you guys!" my shame wants to say to these other couples. "Can't you see the more of us there are, the worse it looks?"
"It" meaning the prevalent trend of Asian women seeming to end up with white men. "It" meaning the perpetuation of Asian fetish."
Link
Like I'm sure many of my fellow Resetera posters, I have a bit of an inclination towards Asian women. Now I know that as a cis white male, it's a bit on the nose, what with the whole fetishising "subservient" Asian females, but I never considered it from the other side. The author comes from an area of the US that is known for its high ratio of WMAF couples, but generally both sides are educated unlike the Thais you see running around Bangkok or Cebu.
So why is there "guilt" associated with it? Have any of you experienced either the guilt or the shaming?
