I'll try to keep this short.
I redownloaded Tinder on a hunch the other day. Matched with a woman and starting chatting with her. We exchanged numbers and continued chats via text. It was fun, except this woman expected attention 24/7. If her text goes unanswered for two minutes (literally, sometimes even less), she starts going nuts and asking if I'm ignoring her. If I don't text her for a couple hours (e.g. because god forbid I'm reading my current book or playing some game), she sends a text along the lines of, "You're ignoring me. Are you chatting with another girl?"
This happened more times than I care to mention, all over the past 72 hours (we started chatting Wedesday).
The final straw hit today when my cousins were over in my house and we were watching a movie together. She texted, again, saying that I was ignoring her. I explained that I had guests over and was spending time with them. She responded by calling me a liar and told me not to text her again because I was "playing games" with her. Accusations out of nowhere, completely and utterly out of the blue.
The problem is, this woman isn't 14 or 20. She's 35--several years older than me, in fact.
I am still blown away that people can get so insecure about themselves. I wish there was more to it, but that's literally all there is to it. That's exactly how it all went down. I was called a liar, a cheater, and blocked because I dared to spend time with family and friends and pursue my hobbies.
This is going to take me a while to process. I'd heard all about being insecure and clingy, but this was another level entirely. I uninstalled Tinder and don't think I will be reinstalling any time soon. That was a mistake not to be repeated.
I redownloaded Tinder on a hunch the other day. Matched with a woman and starting chatting with her. We exchanged numbers and continued chats via text. It was fun, except this woman expected attention 24/7. If her text goes unanswered for two minutes (literally, sometimes even less), she starts going nuts and asking if I'm ignoring her. If I don't text her for a couple hours (e.g. because god forbid I'm reading my current book or playing some game), she sends a text along the lines of, "You're ignoring me. Are you chatting with another girl?"
This happened more times than I care to mention, all over the past 72 hours (we started chatting Wedesday).
The final straw hit today when my cousins were over in my house and we were watching a movie together. She texted, again, saying that I was ignoring her. I explained that I had guests over and was spending time with them. She responded by calling me a liar and told me not to text her again because I was "playing games" with her. Accusations out of nowhere, completely and utterly out of the blue.
The problem is, this woman isn't 14 or 20. She's 35--several years older than me, in fact.
I am still blown away that people can get so insecure about themselves. I wish there was more to it, but that's literally all there is to it. That's exactly how it all went down. I was called a liar, a cheater, and blocked because I dared to spend time with family and friends and pursue my hobbies.
This is going to take me a while to process. I'd heard all about being insecure and clingy, but this was another level entirely. I uninstalled Tinder and don't think I will be reinstalling any time soon. That was a mistake not to be repeated.
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