Many languages, including English (English to a lesser extent than other languages like Spanish), use masculine variants of words to refer to a group of males, or many mixed groups. This is generally considered grammatically correct. The opposite is not considered correct.
So, plural terms like guys or boys can correctly refer to a group of just male people, a mixed group that includes males, or in the case of an unknown group. You would be incorrect to use those terms to refer to a group that includes no males, though.
I do grasp how this could bother some people, but in order for this to truly change, you'd have to change what is considered grammatically correct for many languages throughout the world. Suggesting people are being cruel by using their language as currently designed seems misguided.
If you really want to expend massive amounts of energy and time to try to change the accepted grammatical structure of the world's languages.... well good luck, and I wish you well. Otherwise, you may be better off working on not allowing other people's choice of words to have such a serious impact.
So, plural terms like guys or boys can correctly refer to a group of just male people, a mixed group that includes males, or in the case of an unknown group. You would be incorrect to use those terms to refer to a group that includes no males, though.
I do grasp how this could bother some people, but in order for this to truly change, you'd have to change what is considered grammatically correct for many languages throughout the world. Suggesting people are being cruel by using their language as currently designed seems misguided.
If you really want to expend massive amounts of energy and time to try to change the accepted grammatical structure of the world's languages.... well good luck, and I wish you well. Otherwise, you may be better off working on not allowing other people's choice of words to have such a serious impact.