Is your question referring to acting around real-life strangers? If so, then no I'm not going to change how I speak in real-life around people I don't know, who have not specifically said or indicated that they object to "you guys".
If I ever meet someone in real-life who specifically mentions that objection, then I may consider changing the term, but only when speaking with that person.
I don't understand this stance. You know there are a plethora of people here who have related feeling excluded due to language. It stands to reason that these people exist in decent numbers in the "real world." Let's be
extremely generous and say only 1% of people feel excluded. So, knowing this, you have two choices when addressing a random group in the future:
1) Take a risk (however small) of hurting someone each time you choose to stay the course, and put the onus on
them to start an awkward conversation with someone they may not even know (
after the "damage is done") to let you know their feelings, or:
2) Just use a different word. Like, that's it. Zero risk, no one gets hurt, as close to
zero effort possible required. You neither risk nor lose
anything.
Literally, what is the point of choosing 1? Because it
might not hurt anyone? Because the onus is on the (already feeling marginalized) person to approach you about it, which they may never have the chance to, or feel comfortable with? Because, despite being told it's an issue by many others, they should know you don't "intend" to exclude anyone (despite knowing it might)? I just don't understand the logic here.