Are you really going to fucking compare a word born from hate and used as a way to demean a group of people to boys?
I wonder if you've ever been called a nigger by someone. It hurts. It's humiliating and makes you feel like shit. The word is meant to do that but boys is not.
Yeah, maybe OP is offended by "boys" but I'm sure boys doesn't have the hate associated like nigger.
100% this. I can certainly understand and sympathize with OP in the sense that being called "boy" makes them feel uncomfortable due to personal struggles with gender identity. However, that and the N word are on completely different levels, and should not require the same level of treatment.
It's difficult for those of us with multiple friends in various stages of transition to keep track of which items offend which people. Everyone is going to have their preferences for how they want to be addressed, and seriously it feels like sometimes I need a spreadsheet to figure this out. I have a friend that I've known as male for 30 years that now fully identify as female. Sometimes I'll still still say things like "what's up, bro" when she calls, because old habits do die hard. I am putting in the effort, but slip-ups do happen and should be expected. No one "accidentally" calls someone the N word, though, not even PewDiePie.
"Guys" has pretty much been gender-neutral for decades now, but people still post about it offending them. "Boys" I could understand a little more, if the other players know they are playing in mixed company, but again not everyone's gonna know, especially if all they hear on the mic is male sounding voices.
I think the best way I can put it is to understand that no one, except maybe the Jackass that posted at the start of the thread, is using "guys" or "boys" in a hatefull manner, and to not let it bother you so much. Some things are going to be hard to change society-wide, especially when playing with random people online that know nothing of your personal life outside of whatever round you got popped into via matchmaking. This is in no way intended to diminish the struggles you face, and I think we're all in agreement that we're here as a community to support you and game with you anytime!