If that what makes you sleep soundly at night, then fine? *shrug*
If that what makes you sleep soundly at night, then fine? *shrug*
Explain to me how you can simultaneously understand, after all the information presented (over months, as the statement says), how somehow could have felt like they were raped and also claim that said rape did not occur.The obvious inference from that statement is that he FEELS she did consent. Regardless of your opinions of the case, it's written very quite unambiguously
I don't think most of us give a shit if something us "un-American". Prosecutors are corrupt fucks too.Sure but I think it's Un-American to call someone who wasn't convicted (and in this case, didn't even stand trial) guilty. If the case was strong enough to convict, they could have proceeded without the accuser as many prosecutors do. As some are saying in this thread, you can't have it both ways.
I sleep just fine, you know how? By not making shit up about other peopleIf that what makes you sleep soundly at night, then fine? *shrug*
Gee, I wonder why someone being accused of rape would feel like they didnt rape someone 🤔 he admitted he didnt have consent but felt he had,which means his feelings are worth exactly nothing.The obvious inference from that statement is that he FEELS she did consent. Regardless of your opinions of the case, it's written very quite unambiguously
I don't get this either. The same people who say how uncivilized the death penalty is (rightfully so) basically come in her and say his life was worthless and is not worth mourning. I don't think you can have it both ways. Either you think he deserves to die, or you don't, stop trying to walk the line.
If you're getting that from his statement quoted above, I disagree.
Ok, well people can make mistakes and be flawed and become better people afterwards.If you're getting that from his statement quoted above, I disagree.
How can you acknowledge that you understand how a woman claimed she was raped and also deny raping herIf you're getting that from his statement quoted above, I disagree.
Whatever reasoning that gets presented should be a real doozy.How can you acknowledge that you understand how a woman claimed she was raped and also deny raping her
I don't know why you're replying to me with this, I've never said it's OK to send death threats to people. That's ridiculous.Ok, well people can make mistakes and be flawed and become better people afterwards.
We don't need to send deaththreats to people who want to talk about this. Kobe ain't Jesus.
I don't get this either. The same people who say how uncivilized the death penalty is (rightfully so) basically come in her and say his life was worthless and is not worth mourning. I don't think you can have it both ways. Either you think he deserves to die, or you don't, stop trying to walk the line.
LolI sleep just fine, you know how? By not making shit up about other people
There's a word for that, it's called rapeYou can't say that this was not his only rape and then add "in my opinion". Don't make shit up and stick to facts. Yes, he did admit to a non consensual encounter. No, you have no evidence it happened more than once.
Yes, he admitted to rape. I was just referring to his statement.
We should call it what it is, there were no quotes from the statement itself in your post I quoted, which is why I brought it upYes, he admitted to rape. I was just referring to his statement.
You're overthinking this, we're on the same page. He admitted to rape. Again, I was just referring to this "Although I truly believe this encounter between us was consensual, I recognize now that she did not and does not view this incident the same way I did."We should call it what it is, there were no quotes from the statement itself in your post I quoted, which is why I brought it up
You're overthinking this, we're on the same page. He admitted to rape. Again, I was just referring to this "Although I truly believe this encounter between us was consensual, I recognize now that she did not and does not view this incident the same way I did."
That's really not a workable standard in reality. In a courtroom the presumption of innocence and requiring the prosecution to prove their case beyond a reasonable doubt are essential. They're essential because of what is at stake in a trial and what a criminal defendant is up against: there's a real possibility that a defendant will be deprived of their freedom and put in prison by a massive state run apparatus (the police and prosecution).I don't read that statement which his lawyers surely wrote as any kind of admission. It's really interesting to see people claim it as such. I just fundamentally disagree with people being judged guilty when they weren't convicted or even went to trial.
I'm just saying, calling it a non consensual encounter outside of quotes feels like sugar coating the actual act, even if that wasn't your intent.You're overthinking this, we're on the same page. He admitted to rape. Again, I was just referring to this "Although I truly believe this encounter between us was consensual, I recognize now that she did not and does not view this incident the same way I did."
He did though. I don't read "nonconsensual sex" and think well atleast he didn't rape her.We should call it what it is, there were no quotes from the statement itself in your post I quoted, which is why I brought it up
I did agree that it's rape, several times on this page. What's your point again?This is literally a thread where people are trying to downplay the admitted rape. Don't try to downplay it by turning it into "a non-consensual encounter". It's much more straight-forward and correct to say he admitted to rape, and the only real reason to obsfucate it like that is to make it seem more complicated than it really is.
Alright understood, apologies.I'm just saying, calling it a non-consensual encounter outside of quotes feels like sugar coating the actual act, even if that wasn't your intent.
"Non consensual sex" is sugar coating the actual act of rape. That's my point, which I stated above.He did though. I don't read "nonconsensual sex" and think well atleast he didn't rape her.
Didn't you just say that you didn't feel Kobe admitted to rape, when he himself said "I now understand how she feels that she did not consent to this encounter"?He did though. I don't read "nonconsensual sex" and think well atleast he didn't rape her.
It's not sugar coating anything. It's the literal definition."Non consensual sex" is sugar coating the actual act of rape. That's my point, which I stated above.
I did agree that it's rape, several times on this page. What's your point again?
Alright understood, apologies.
I'm talking about the term nonconsensual sex. Not in context of his statement.Didn't you just say that you didn't feel Kobe admitted to rape, when he himself said "I now understand how she feels that she did not consent to this encounter"?
You think using "non consensual sex" is not sugar coating the word rape? Lol OK, this is a load of shit.
Alright, understood. I'll edit my initial post.My point is exactly the same as Surfinn. When you wrote that, you could have just written that he admitted to rape. Instead, you chose to phrase it as "a non-consensual encounter". Why, exactly, was that phrase selected? Maybe you're not even consciously trying to downplay it, but that language most definitely downplays and/or suggests that the situation is complicated in a way that "he admitted to rape" does not.
Yup.You think using "non consensual sex" is not sugar coating the word rape? Lol OK, this is a load of shit.
Yeah that's what I'm saying.You think using "non consensual sex" is not sugar coating the word rape? Lol OK, this is a load of shit.
Would you be okay with all rapists having the same consequences as Kobe?What Kobe did was unfortunate. At the time, things looked pretty clear and he did mostly cop to it. Outside of being in jail, he didn't exactly get away with it. He has a permanent stain on his legacy and he did suffer a civil penalty. It seems some think that wasn't enough. Like jail is always the magic bullet here.
At the same time, I look at it like this. He did suffer some consequences. It was 17 years ago. And since then, I am not aware of any other incidents involving him. By all accounts, he grew up and learned from it and over those years greatly contributed to his community and sport. He's done a shitton more than so many others who have been accused or convicted. That shows me he greatly improved himself as a person and worked to do much more good than harm in general. If he continued to show himself as a shithead, then sure I would easily see jumping all over him. A one-time offender is different that a serial abuser, IMO.
So given all of that I can see why so many are like - can this wait? People running shouting rapist before the body was even cold. Like we all know the controversy. You yelling rapist isn't going to do anything other than piss off people grieving a shocking event.
Go ask rape survivors if they feel the same way. This is pure ignorance
I have zero problems with the rape being brought up and it being a topic we're talking about now or any other time...
I mean last night and reading through this topic I really feel horrible and like an asshole for paying tribute to Kobe and being as upset as I was.
I don't know, always been a Lakers fan and I loved Kobe's game...the rape will always be there though and I'll never try to bury or dismiss it.
I just feel like a real dumbass.
Fuck off to those who made death threats towards that reporter, they should be arrested and charged.
I don't anybody in this thread is taking the stance that it's morally wrong to be upset at his death, especially because of the nature of the death and those who also died in the chopper. But there's definitely a conversation to be had that the constant worship he is getting relates to rape culture and how victims will see their rapists be praised and how damaging that is.
Celebrating his death is wrong, I think. A frank discussion of his legacy isn't. Again, I grew up with Kobe's career, so it definitely hits home, but it's also important to talk about the bad with the good.
No. It depends. Would I have been upset if Kobe went to trial, was convicted, and went to jail for some time? No.Would you be okay with all rapists having the same consequences as Kobe?
Why? What about if it was some random joe instead but the exact same thing happened?No. It depends. Would I have been upset if Kobe went to trial, was convicted, and went to jail for some time? No.