OK, that's some complete bullshit on your parents behalf, because that ain't no life for a cat.
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Get a mod to edit your title and put some more info in your OP so people don't keep swinging on you.
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What should I do to get rid of my Cat?
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OK, that's some complete bullshit on your parents behalf, because that ain't no life for a cat.
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Get a mod to edit your title and put some more info in your OP so people don't keep swinging on you.
Oh come the fuck on... this thread is a joke. lol.
No, he was piled on because y'all are ridiculously judgemental about this topic.
No... you're acting high and mighty. I'm calling you out for that nonsense. They're oto going to abandon a pet, they're asking how for advice on what to do. Don't be so dishonest.
More high and mighty nonsense. Sometimes you can't take care of your pet any more, life can get in the way and sometimes the most responsible thing is to pass it to a person who can take porper care of it.
Maybe that's why they created the thread in the first place, didn't that cross your mind? That's probably why he's asking for advice here, just shitting on him for it solves nothing
That doesn't sound like a good environment for any cat, regardless of whether or not you're around.
It may be better to try to find someone who can provide a better environment for him.
The majority here thinks that he should not abandon the cat, because its not that much work and the cat doesn't even need soo much interaction.
There is a care house near where I live and many old folks there love getting a cat or a small dog to take care, so maybe a place like that?
Someone I know had to get rid of his dogs because he lost his place and he was not allowed to have a pet in the place he was going. Luckily a couple nearby had space and they didnt mind take the dogs.
If you can find a good place for your pet you wont feel bad at all OP.
Someone I know had to get rid of his dogs because he lost his place and he was not allowed to have a pet in the place he was going. Luckily a couple nearby had space and they didnt mind take the dogs.
If you can find a good place for your pet you wont feel bad at all OP.
Just ask on social media, craigslist, nextdoor, etc.
After that you're looking at local pet rescue organizations. You might have to pay a hefty fee for a rescue organization to take it but thems the breaks. But the chance it lives is nearly 100%. SOMEONE is gonna take care of it.
That doesn't work out just take it to a shelter. You'll pay a fee there too if they even take it but not as much as a rescue organization. They might put it down or it might get adopted, but it's not your call at that point.
So basically decide how much a clear conscious costs to you and choose accordingly.
After that you're looking at local pet rescue organizations. You might have to pay a hefty fee for a rescue organization to take it but thems the breaks. But the chance it lives is nearly 100%. SOMEONE is gonna take care of it.
That doesn't work out just take it to a shelter. You'll pay a fee there too if they even take it but not as much as a rescue organization. They might put it down or it might get adopted, but it's not your call at that point.
So basically decide how much a clear conscious costs to you and choose accordingly.
as a cat owner (1) for about 9 years ...
it's really easy.
feed it. clean the litter box. let it outside for a few min. to get some vitamin D. pet it. play with it while watching TV or even sitting at your desk while posting on resetera. My cat like to cuddle up by my feet while i'm at my chair.
not that hard.
it's really easy.
feed it. clean the litter box. let it outside for a few min. to get some vitamin D. pet it. play with it while watching TV or even sitting at your desk while posting on resetera. My cat like to cuddle up by my feet while i'm at my chair.
not that hard.
If you're really determined to not have this cat anymore, your responsibility is to find a good home for it with people that will actually care for it. Ask trusted friends and family, branch out from there.
Who told you that "sorting out your shit" includes shierking your responsibility. Don't take advise from this person.
This.
Look, Kalmakoffee. I know depression is hard. And fighting depression is even harder. I do it every day, and sometimes I'm good at it and sometimes I'm really bad at it. But one of the things about fighting depression is learning that depression wants you to fail. It wants you to make choices that keep you in its realm. Doing something that you know will hurt you (and will also very likely hurt your cat) just because you need to make a split decision to "improve" things is the depression working against you.
What you should really be looking at right now is finding a path to self-sufficiency. To moving out, getting your own place away from your parents, and living on your own terms. It might not happen now, it might not happen in six months, but if you give yourself a goal to work toward and spend a little time every day working on that goal, you will make progress, and it will be a lot more beneficial for you in the long run than making a snap judgment like "I need to get rid of my cat because that's what growing up means".
Jesus, some of y'all need to take a break from this shit. Dude is literally just asking for reasonable advice. OP might be poorly worded but It's not hard to see what he's after.
If your parents want your cat locked, talk to them and explain why the cat matters to you. Saying that your parents don't allow him to leave your bedroom isn't an excuse to relieve you of your responsibility with him. Giving up on the cat isn't the answer for growing up. Hell, TALK with your parents about what you are thinking and maybe they will come out to their senses how fucked up this is, and how the logic you went through to conclude is based on your step mom not really knowing how to reach you.
His step-mom. The same step-mom that doesn't allow the cat to leave OP's bedroom, ever.
Fucks sake, you Muppets are ready to dogpile at the slightest provocation eh?
Have you tried looking into any local no-kill shelters OP?
Have you tried looking into any local no-kill shelters OP?
Temporarily give your cat away to someone you trust
Get a job
Move out
Get your cat back
You never know whether they care or not. We could discuss this, but thats not the point...
Yes it is the entire point, OP is asking for advice not for holier than thou judgemental nonsense...
You can go talk to people and discover if they'd make a good home. My mother takes in rescue animals sometimes, if you met her you'd know immediately your pet would be very well loved.
OP could, with some effort, find a place like this.
Please stop projecting.
This. All of this. That environment isn't doing your depression any favors OP.
If you have to give it up, this is the best way. You wouldn't even have to "disown" it in this situation, you could still visit it regularly.
It did not deserve the ridiculous responses ITT, at all.
It's pretty gross.
I completely agree. Your cat has a low quality of life living arrangement, but you should assume some responsibility in ensuring the cat you've taken in has a good life. You need to talk to your parents. It sounds terribly neglecting of them to just force you to keep your cat in your room. That's not how anyone should live. At the end of the day, when you have a cat, it's not about being an adult that should push you to ensuring your cat has a good life. Your cat is a sentient and live pet. It has feelings, and can develop disorders. You may make it impossible to relocate your cat by not ensuring it has a good living arrangement. I feel the cat has suffered bad enough fates so far. We need to do what we can for what life we can affect. No pets deserve this.
Abandoning your responsibility as a pet owner is the opposite of "growing up."
Face that fact, take care of your pet, and actually grow up. Cats are extremely low maintenance, anyway.
Face that fact, take care of your pet, and actually grow up. Cats are extremely low maintenance, anyway.
Some of us are trying to give advice. That advice might not be the advice the OP wants, but it's advice all the same. He clearly cares about this animal or he wouldn't have asked for advice in the first place.
His motivation for "growing up" came from his stepmother who gave him shit for putting off work due to depression and insinuating life can't be happy.
There's a big red flag he's basing his actions off of. This isn't a situation of economics and time, but a hasty attempt at "being a grown up", whatever this auspicious phrase means. OP literally believes this means "fun can't exist for me anymore", and I'm not even kidding about that.
Who are you talking about? I'm talking about the judgemental people shitting on OP for no reason.
Because getting rid of the cat is irresponsible. You chose to take care of it. It's your responsibility until it dies.
So the only responsible thing is to find another house for it that will take care of it and show it love. If you can't do that, then too fucking bad... It's your cat.
Hmm, keeping a cat locked up in one room all the time is actually a pretty bad living arrangement. I disagree with your idea that disowning the cat is part of your growing up process, but having learned about the cat's living arrangements, I do have to agree that it's not the greatest.
Can you not convince your parents at all to let the cat walk around the house?
Also, I'm a bit worried about you, OP. In your earlier thread you mentioned suicidal thoughts multiple times, and now you're coming up with this randomly brash decision about your cat. Are you talking to anybody irl about this situation that occurred with your stepmother?
"Don't give up the cat it's a shitty thing to do" is advice. Just not what he wants. You can't always get want you want.
There seems to be a pretty good reason people are shitting on him.
No it's not... not by default.
sometimes a person cannot give the care needed any more, many legitimate reasons for this. It doesn't make a person a monster, or even irresponsible, as long as they make sure to find a caring home which can be done.
No, that's not advice at all. It#s judgemental nonsense.
Ridiculous responses being the ones that point out how incongruous "growing up" and "shirking responsibilities" are from one another?
Agree, OP, shit takes time. I'm 30 and it took me a long time to save up and finally start a career and to be able to self learn and kick my own self in the ass. You'll find that its two steps forward one step back continuously and unending. Sometimes its two steps back.
Getting rid of the cat is one of those things that you will look back and cringe hard, its something that will strike at the core of your ability to respect yourself. You're doing it from a place of self loathing and while striking at yourself can bring a perverse pleasure (I know), the pain catches up once the anger subsides.
As a cat owner, and someone that cares about animal welfare, I get extremely upset when people say "oh, I have to grow up, so I'm trying to disown my cat". If OP had taken the time to explain the situation, they'd have gotten better and more accurate responses. The way things were posted, everyone has been completely in the right for attacking OP. Up until more information was presented, it wasn't badly worded. It was just terrible actions. Given more context, people start to realize that things aren't the way they seemed first, but that's not the responsibilities of everyone posting in this thread. That's the responsibility of OP.
If I make a thread and say "how can I kill my cat? It needs to die, so I was just wondering how I should do it", I would expect people to treat me like a horrible person. If the context was actually that my cat was so ill that I deemed euthanasia, and I was wondering what methods vets used, it would be my issue that I didn't explain that. That's what's going on here.
Nope. Because sometimes passing a pet to another home IS the responsible thing to do.
Oh my...
So if he said he had to give up his 2 year old daughter you response would be.
"sometimes a person cannot give the care needed any more, many legitimate reasons for this."
But not in this case, even given all the information in this thread. OP is suggesting too radical changes, and is not tackling the issue that his parents are forcing his cat to have an extremely low quality of life. The right thing to do is to making sure the cat has better living arrangements. That's the first step in this case. Not just giving it up.
LOL.
"If he made a thread asking how to kill his cat"
"What if he said he had to give up his kid"
Wow...
Cats aren't humans. They don't need to go outside to get fucking Vitamin D. Unless by Vitamin D you mean Death by car or animal.
Is this a joke? OP rescued the cat. He could've let it die but he didn't and now he has a chance to find it a good, loving home. Please stop.
The right thing to do here, as OP no longer wants the pet, is to find a new home for it.
Y'all could have all given them advice on how to do this instead of piling on them with the judgements.
shame people are being so judgmental, a pet isnt for everyone and you're asking for help on the best way how to pass it on. You live at home with your parents with their rules and they dont want it out of your room. What's so wrong with passing it on for a better home than you can currently provide at this point in your life.
see if friends or like a local facebook person will take it.
What the fuck? I take time to explain why it's totally understandable that people are upset with OP. You seem dead set on defending OP, but you're just disregarding my post like this?
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