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  1. FUME5

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    I think the cat is already among the pigeons.
     
  2. Talk with your parents about the cat first off. I don’t think it’s my place to lecture someone going through serious depression about no longer being able to care for their pet, but I do think the cat deserves to be able to leave a small room, and I think it’s at least worth trying to discuss with them

    If you do feel giving the cat to another home is your best option, really just take some time and think about it first, but if necessary first contact anyone you know who may be able to take them in temporarily or permenantly, then use social media, or give them to a non-kill shelter if absolutely necessary

    I’m sorry you’re going through this OP
     
  3. bane833

    bane833
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    Grow a pair and tell your stepmom to fuck off. She sounds like a horrible person.
     
  4. Apharmd

    Apharmd
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    Take him to the Humane Society and let them either find him a home or not. I had to do that with two of my wife's cats. One was urinating on her daughter's possessions out of jealousy and became very spiteful towards her (2 years old). The other was a sweet cat, but my wife found out that her daughter was deathly allergic to cats. People get very worked up over cats here but you have to do what's best for you. Humans come first. Always.
     
  5. Clay

    Clay
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    Absolutely. I’m always blown away at reactions like the ones in this thread. I love my cat, but revolving your life around an animal is ludicrous.
     
  6. Well, that's not funny.
    At all.
     
  7. PaJeppy

    PaJeppy
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    Yea, find a way to get rid of it. Hope it gets a good home.

    Being locked in a room all the time is a bullshit life for a cat.
     
  8. LookAtMeGo

    LookAtMeGo
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    I just asked my cat what she thinks of this situation and she just stared at me for a second and casually walked over to her food bowl. I'm begining to think she doesnt understand me when I talk to her. Either that or she just doesn't care.
     
  9. Betelgeuse

    Betelgeuse
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    I really cannot fathom the logic behind your folks' belief that it's reasonable or humane to keep a cat locked up in your room 24/7. It's not reasonable or humane. Besides which, what parent allows their child to take in a cat but expect it to be confined to their room all the time? Letting the cat roam is an implicit part of the deal. Why would anyone care otherwise? Cats are chill.

    If they're not going to budge on this absurd position, I would suggest you do rehome your cat. I think that's the biggest issue beyond your personal inclination to get rid of it.
     
  10. Kendrid

    Kendrid
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    I volunteer at a no kill shelter. If that is your last hope find one. The cat will find a new home and be loved.

    Good luck.
     
  11. Static

    Static
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    I don't know what the right choices are here, OP. You do seem to be in a difficult situation. I hope that you manage to figure something out that provides your cat the home it deserves and yourself a bit more stability, independence, and happiness.
     
  12. TaterTots

    TaterTots
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    It is hard if you are unfamiliar with the OP.
     
  13. jb1234

    jb1234
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    Why not both?
     
  14. TheBeardedOne

    TheBeardedOne
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    Poor kitty
     
  15. Kalmakoffee

    Kalmakoffee
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    How about you go fuck yourself.
     
  16. Krauser Kat

    Krauser Kat
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    THEN DONT ADOPT AN ANIMAL. Adopting an animal is like being blood brother, they are family, i would do anything for them.

    This situation i would stick with the kitty and support each other and make it work.
     
  17. LookAtMeGo

    LookAtMeGo
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    Are you calling my cat stupid AND mean?
     
  18. Hydrus

    Hydrus
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    Put it out on social media and see if a family member or friend would adopt. Try local FB groups. My town has a fb group just for pet adoption and re-homing.
     
  19. Kalmakoffee

    Kalmakoffee
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    Please, if you have some wonderful insight on how I can make my life much easier since you know me so well, you're free to share.
     
  20. jb1234

    jb1234
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    Well, if we work under the assumption she has no idea what you’re saying, she couldn’t possibly be either. :p
     
  21. motherless

    motherless
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    My cat is part of my family. I wouldn’t get rid of him. I hope you find a loving home to your cat.
     
  22. EvilChameleon

    EvilChameleon
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    The interesting thing about this, now that it is on a loop, is that Jack Black clearly doesn't get the doll over the railing, and even if he does, it certainly didn't go that high.
     
  23. NoRéN

    NoRéN
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    Growing up normally doesn’t involve giving up on responsibilities.

    So, you’re the friend that other poster made cry?
     
  24. Mest08

    Mest08
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    Honestly OP, dont listen to these people. You did right by the cat by saving it off the street and trying to provide for it. Your heart was in the right place. There are many people, including the ones putting you down, that wouldn't even have done that much. Unfortunately your home life isn't a good fit for the cat. I'd hit up craigslist. There are people out there who want a cat that's neutered, spayed, up to date on shots, etc. You can even meet the people first.

    A few years ago I was in a tough spot and had to rehome a dog due to getting laid off, filing bankruptcy and having to move into an apartment. I put my dog on craigslist. I found a family with little kids that came and looked at her. They fell in love. I didn't ask for a rehoming fee like other people. I just wanted to find the dog a good home and I did. If you take your time, you'll be able to find your cat a good home, too.

    If you're new to craigslist, make sure you research on how to avoid dangerous situations. Most times there are no problems, but always smart to err on the side of caution.
     
  25. Kalmakoffee

    Kalmakoffee
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    What? No.
     
  26. Mest08

    Mest08
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    It's almost like the OP isnt you. Interesting.
     
  27. LookAtMeGo

    LookAtMeGo
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    [​IMG]
     
  28. Ultima_5

    Ultima_5
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    Yeah ones responsible for a living thing

    He’s right. You posted a bunch of threads today. Instead of doing that you could’ve cared for an animal that you adopted to take care of.
     
  29. TheZodiacAge

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    One thing i don't like is how the title is worded.
    "Getting RID" sounds like you don't give a crap at all about the cat and that its future means jackshit to you.

    If you actually like the cat you FIND it a new HOME where it has space and love or at least a roof over its head in a no-kill shelter.
    If you can't continue to have the responsibility for another living being than at least make sure it has a future.

    But dont word it like you want to throw it just away.

    Maybe thats just me though.
    My Cats are Family Members and worth to me more than any Human that isn't related or a close friend to me.
    I would never "get rid" of my mother or so because that would mean throwing her away.
     
  30. Kalmakoffee

    Kalmakoffee
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    The last two years I spent raising this cat apparently doesn't matter. And the fact I'm trying to find a home better for him is also not responsible huh? Get your head out of your ass
     
  31. cubanb

    cubanb
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    getting rid=trash
     
  32. Mest08

    Mest08
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    Some people have different priorities. He could have easily thrown the cat in the street and never posted. Instead he asks for help and gets shit on.

    Dont you have a cat? You're posting. Why aren't you caring for your animal?
     
  33. Kalmakoffee

    Kalmakoffee
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    I posted those threads on my work break you fucking snob. Can't really take care of the cat when I'm 25 miles away, huh?
     
  34. Kangi

    Kangi
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    Look up a local no kill shelter. Contact someone there and talk to them, or just look at the information about surrendering. Then take your cat there.

    A lot of cats wind up on the streets every day. Regardless of any opinions I or anyone else may have about your capabilities as an owner, you're doing the right thing in trying to figure out a good route to take instead of throwing your hands in the air and your cat out a car door.
     
  35. Meffer

    Meffer
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    Jesus, people are really showing their ugly side here.
     
  36. Ultima_5

    Ultima_5
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    Do you hear me saying I️ can’t handle taking care of my pets on here? I️ got my shit together.
     
  37. Man, and I say this sincerely, maybe take a break from ERA and Internet in general, until you sort whatever it is you're in right now, OP. It seems unhealthy if the kind of engagement you're soliciting from the Internet provoke these kinds of reactions from you.
     
  38. chezzymann

    chezzymann
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    I don't get this thread. The crux of the issue is clearly that the cat has to stay in OPs room all day thanks to his parents. Thats not good for the cat. And if he cant change it, its probably healthy for the cat to find a new owner. But yeah give it to someone you trust, not a shelter cause it'll get euthanized
     
  39. Evan

    Evan
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    Growing up is dealing with decisions you’ve made in the past. Getting rid of a cat isn’t growing up, it’s the exact opposite.

    Try and find a home for him, that’s the only thing you can do. If he is sent to the shelter he’s as good as dead.
     
  40. Why? He’s 100% right.

    It seems like you’re not asking for advice but validation, and when you don’t get it you flip out at people. You don’t want ERA to tell you what to do, you want an echo chamber of people sympathizing with you.

    Keeping your cat locked up in a tiny room for its entire life is borderline abusive, especially if it lived outside previously. Though I suppose if it needs you (as in specifically you as a person) to avoid anxiety, separation could possibly traumatize it, at least for a while...
     
  41. Kalmakoffee

    Kalmakoffee
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    I asked for advice for how to give my cat a better life, much of the advice I've taken to heart and am contemplating. The only time I flip out on people is when they start getting an ego and start acting like complete asshats, like yourself.
     
  42. I’m not being an asshole, I’m trying to be real with you. I’m telling you how you appear from your entirely posting history.
     
  43. Kalmakoffee

    Kalmakoffee
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    Thanks, I completely made that decision all by myself with no influence from outside forces. Why didn't I think about that before?
     
  44. cubanb

    cubanb
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    Get a clue. I know you said you would delete your account, but the sooner the better. You are not seeking a true opinion on this thread. You just want us to validate you giving up your cat like it's a stick of gum and insulting people who don't agree with your methods. I hope you find the cat a good home, i hope you grow up, and i hope you never have a pet again.
     
  45. jb1234

    jb1234
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    I agree with this. Take a break, OP.
     
  46. Hecht

    Hecht
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    All right, it looks like we cannot seem to have a level-headed discussion here. OP - Good luck, hope you can find a home for your cat.
     
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