Yeah, I've definitely heard that verse quoted by my family a lot. I can't even talk to them about it. They won't even listen, at all. In fact they openly mock the idea that anyone wouldn't spank. If they ever see some kid acting out - or worse, something like a school shooting - you can bet on someone saying "guess who wasn't spanked!" or something similar.
I've read the OP.
Who is "us?" I'm black, my whole family is black, and I personally think it's a little fucked to post things like this that generalize a person's life as if it's representative of the entire race.
I've been around parents who celebrate that shit. Kid's see their parents celebrate it and just expect it. A group of friends I knew in middle school use to brag about "The worst ass whooping of a lifetime". We just expected beating like it was allowance. Now that I'm connected to the internet and seeing people get arrested for leaving familiar scars on their kids just gave me a different perspective on things.
It's not a news article, it's an informal post on a forum about OP's own experiences with their own family. Could the title be better? Sure, but it's pretty obvious from the actual post what they are talking about.
It may be poorly named but that doesn't invalidate OP's experience nor the phenomenon they are describing which is supported by a lot of research.
It is but I would say between ethnic African-Americans, Africans, and Carribeans we're overall conservative in the US. I do love the shift in some attitudes w/our and the younger generations.
You can drive drunk and get home okay, but that doesn't make it a good idea.
Popping a child on the behind every once in a while when they do something really bad is not the same thing as randomly walking around punching children in the face.
I went into this thread thinking that OP was simply generalizing based on his personal experience, his family, his friends maybe.
Oh, no argument there. I went into this thread expecting a super racist rant that gets nuked within minutes, from the title. It should absolutely be changed.
Now imagine the shit your great grandparents did to your grandparents.
Then make the damn title better. Shit sounds so damn stereotypical. It ain't my fault. I didn't make the thread but it's in the public now. And I have my
Then update the title. It's an "informal post" about a VERY sensitive issue. Obviously not to you, but to a lot of people like myself, 100% frustrating. Don't marginalize the idea that "WHY DO WE (read: BLACK PEOPLE) BEAT OUR CHILDREN AND BRAG ABOUT IT?" is a bad take.
Oh that wouldn't surprise me in the slightest. I've seen a few articles talking about it, for sure, but not the data. As I recall, sexual abuse is pretty common as well.
Still abuse. Still based on the idea that physical violence will teach anything positive. Hint: it wont.
You popping employees on their behind? What's this weird "it's not exactly the same" stuff supposed to achieve? Do you physically punish an employee is walking all over you and doesn't respect your authority? Would you, if it were legal?
yea because this is ALL what happens in majority of the time with physical child discipline.
In this thread, you'll have to be more specific than that.
I think it depends on the age. I wouldn't discipline a 7 year old in the same way I would a 15 year old. I wouldn't classify using a belt on an older kid as abuse, so long as there's a justifiable reason, and it's something that they been warned against previously, and the parent isn't going overboard. But that's just me, and I believe based on these types of threads in the past I'll be in the minority.
Gonna get yourself banned, dude.
I love how some people here intentionally try to paint people with different opinions from theirs as monsters. No one's advocating for child abuse, but I think you're being a little unrealistic and naive if think every child will respond to simply being spoken to or receiving some type of alternative punishment.
