The #MeToo movement is not an example of society not having an issue with rape culture, it is the exemplification of just how much of an issue our society has with rape culture that all of these victims felt that they couldn't speak up when these horrific actions happened to them and instead had to go through social media to even be heard.
If we look at this from an American point of view, where largely the #MeToo movement surrounding Hollywood exists, we can look towards the court systems and the reasons why women don't come forward to better understand this as well.
And from that same source, as to the reasons why victims don't come forward :
Of the sexual violence crimes reported to police from 2005-2010, the survivor reporting gave the following reasons for doing so:5
- 28% to protect the household or victim from further crimes by the offender
- 25% to stop the incident or prevent recurrence or escalation
- 21% to improve police surveillance or they believed they had a duty to do so
- 17% to catch/punish/prevent offender from reoffending
- 6% gave a different answer, or declined to cite one reason
- 3% did so to get help or recover loss
Of the sexual violence crimes not reported to police from 2005-2010, the victim gave the following reasons for not reporting:5
- 20% feared retaliation
- 13% believed the police would not do anything to help
- 13% believed it was a personal matter
- 8% reported to a different official
- 8% believed it was not important enough to report
- 7% did not want to get the perpetrator in trouble
- 2% believed the police could not do anything to help
- 30% gave another reason, or did not cite one reason
Source:
https://www.rainn.org/statistics/criminal-justice-system
When looking at these statistics, the two highest reasons for not reporting at all was because victims feared retaliation or that the police wouldn't do anything to help. While these were from 2005 - 2010 from before the #MeToo movement, these are the underlying feelings that led to an issue as sensitive as personal as that to be forced out into the public.
If you look at the actual process of what happens when you try to report a crime like this, there are quite a few examples of police officers not testing rape kits for DNA evidence while throwing them out just to make more space while these crimes were still within the statute of limitations. In the event that you manage to make it to a trial and recount the trauma that you've gone through, there are times where judges will let the accused off the hook because they've suffered enough by going through the trial while prosecutors look for any possible reason to paint you as unreliable, whether it's by saying you sleep with your boyfriend which proves you're sexually active, so you must have consented or loads of other nonsense reasons like that, that happen every single day in the court system.
The court system is not 1:1 with how everyone feels about the situation and how much support they'll show, but it is a strong representation of the realities of how our society views and treats victims of sexual assault. As an example of that retaliation, I've heard stories of people who don't want to come forward because they know that their friends and family will ostracize them or blame them for trying to ruin someone's life for daring to speak up about what happened. That's a reality for a lot of people, where they have to weigh whether it's worth it to go through an entire system that will force you to relive your trauma, where there is little chance of any possible justice being served, while enduring the harassment and scorn of those closest to them.
Beyond just family and friends, you can see how people really feel about this when you look just beyond the surface of these women coming forward through the #MeToo movement. There are countless articles talking about how #MeToo has gone too far, or you can look at the Kavanaugh case where Dr. Ford gave a testimony about what she had endured, and the people on the highest court system in the country would not even investigate it because they cared about the man more than the people that he's hurt. Months after that entire hearing happened, Dr. Ford still receives death threats for speaking up.
The #MeToo movement is a great thing to have happened, but it's also really sad that it had to come to that point for people to even begin to question what kind of attitudes we have towards sexual assault victims. It's an incredibly long road ahead to even make sure that highly prolific cases like those will see lasting justice, so please don't look at that movement and assume that we've solved the issue and that everything is 100% okay now. Our society has a lot of deep rooted problems when it comes to sexual assault, and the reality is that those aren't going to go away that quickly. We have to acknowledge that it still exists and continuously fight to make things better.