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Will be bumping into my ex at a wedding - what's the move, Era?

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BluePigGanon

BluePigGanon

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Oct 27, 2017
892
Lemme bottom line it for you:

- Was seeing a woman seriously for about 5 years.

- Broke up about 4 years ago. Has been zero contact since, this will be the first encounter.

- She dumped me. One of the main reasons she gave: "I want to be with someone who shares my love of EDM." Reasons like that and it being sorta out of the blue caused me to take it poorly. It was a tough recovery, I felt low for a long while.

- Feel better now, and better off, and with someone new. She will be my plus 1 at the wedding. She has been briefed. That all being said: still a bit of a chip on my shoulder.

- My understanding is the ex will be bringing her new BF as well. I really don't care.

Okay now that I've laid it out: how do you comport yourself? Anyone been in a similar situation? MY inclination is the "polite stranger" tone: be nice/grownup, greet if you find yourself in the same space, but basically minimize and avoid contact. No need to make conversation or introduce new GF, and if I can get away with zero contact all evening hey I'll take it.

Thoughts?
 

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Oct 27, 2017
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I would pretend I didn't see her even if I did but if you have to speak, keep it short and keep it moving. Don't want your current girl to have any reason to be upset.
 

JDSN

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Oct 27, 2017
5,129
With five years you don't even have to do the obligatory "No hard feelings" gretting. She should be a faceless feeling at this point.
 

Deleted member 13328

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Oct 27, 2017
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If you see her, just say hi or give her the white people signal that you don't want to talk.

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Yams

Yams

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Oct 25, 2017
10,843
Try to smash while her BF gets drunk so you can have a great story to tell years later
 
Smurf

Smurf

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Oct 25, 2017
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just say hi when you see her, get the pleasantries out of the way and you won't have to think about it for the rest of the day/night
 
thefit

thefit

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Oct 25, 2017
6,243
She's already in your head, whatever you do it's gonna be a rough night for you. Anyway you can not got?
 
Hassel

Hassel

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Oct 25, 2017
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Be cordial.
It's a person you spent a large part of your life with. Say hello, wish her well. Let her know you are doing well. Enjoy your evening and don't let this overwhelm you.
 
zerocalories

zerocalories

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Oct 28, 2017
3,232
California
you gotta yeet your feelings into a trash can
wear rave bracelets, bonus points for wearing last years coachella bracelets
get blitz and just ignore her all night until you find her alone
go up and try to talk to her and then throw up on her shoes
uber home
 
Verelios

Verelios

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Oct 26, 2017
14,877
You don't have to be friendly, just be polite. It's been four years, say hello if you see her and you're good.
 

ISOM

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Nov 6, 2017
2,684
She's the one who broke up with you so you don't have to acknowledge her or go out of the way to acknowledge her. Don't force yourself to be nice just to be nice. With that said you don't have to be an asshole if she is making small talk or something.
 
Borgnine

Borgnine

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Oct 25, 2017
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Keep your shirt unbuttoned half way down to show off your full chest tat of Armin Van Buuren's face.
 
CoolestSpot

CoolestSpot

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Oct 25, 2017
17,325
Sounds like you well adjusted and both better off, you don't even have to interact.

But if you have to do a rap duet with your GF
 
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BluePigGanon

BluePigGanon

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Oct 27, 2017
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Era I had reservations posting this but these answers are showing me it was the right decision lol
 
JayBee

JayBee

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Dec 6, 2018
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Hmm. I would personally try to avoid her. Try my best not to be in the same environment or at least far enough where I don't have to see her. Hope that's possible
 
sooperkool

sooperkool

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Oct 25, 2017
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Whole lot of bad advice in here. Say hello, tell her she looks nice and it was nice to see her again and move along. You know act like a polite adult.
 

Deleted member 3040

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Sorry for for asking, but I'm confused: why is she your plus one?

Edit. my reading comprehension is terrible
 
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BluePigGanon

BluePigGanon

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Oct 27, 2017
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Oh and an unrelated P.S.

The day after the breakup I called up one of my best friends to fill him in. When I got to the EDM reason he immediately started laughing.

"OH MY GOD GOOD RIDDANCE!" he wailed.

Felt good.
 
CoolestSpot

CoolestSpot

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Oct 25, 2017
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Halfway through ceremony have a bunch of hired dancers from craigslist come in while you lift boombox and gyrate in place to this
 
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