So, I've been randomly approached by women like...twice in my life. I didn't know anything about them, they'd never met me. Once was at a Hardee's in the middle of the night after I was leaving a club. Once was while I was on my way to sit down with some friends in my union after class. Both times I was gobsmacked. Not really flattered because (yeah I'll be superficial) I wasn't really attracted to them, but more importantly I wasn't in the state of mind for romantic overtures of any sort. Yes, even after just leaving a club--it was 2AM, I just wanted to eat some greasy food and go to sleep. When you're suddenly forced to deal with a situation like that, it makes you approach things weird--how do you avoid offending this person, how can you make this conversation end without it being as awkward as possible. In both cases, I just quickly mumbled, "I have a girlfriend" and tried to go back to what I was doing.
Now. Picture all that, then add in that women have to worry about the possibility of a dude being a rapist, a murderer, or at the very least a garden variety dick who won't just take the L. AND that it's not happening twice across like...four years like with me (lmao) but like at least once a day, minimum. You're lucky a handful of women in this thread have been fine with the cold approach at all, ffs.