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women of era, how do you feel about being "cold approached"?
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Those are just the guys with money for deluxe cups. The cheap ones just spread the pain.
We have photographic evidence, check mate.Look how many men are just so eager to run into the wood chipper! Clearly all men love it! Anyone who says otherwise is clearly wrong.
Guess I know what we're going to do next time we go to the boonies.
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going from many men's responses in this thread, the world would probably benefit a lot if we men all invested in chastity belts for ourselves
He's missing out!
I mean, I'm assuming -- 2 guys said yep so that's good enough for me, heyoooo
It's either cups or silicon injections, partners like them big after all.
as someone where that's the only kind of attention received, it gets old quick
Am I the only one ITT who caught that this person was being satirical/making fun of the thing they were saying? Why did they get banned for that?
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How would I know a male dislikes it before the kick anyway?
I can always respectfully step away afterwards. I am not like the ones who keep kicking.
There was an interesting This American Life where a reporter in Australia tried to get a street harasser to realize that what was doing sucked and was creepy. The conversation had, overall, the tenor of the Patrick wallet meme:
I don't think they were banned for that, or it would say at the top of that post that they were banned for it.
It's all about respect :) I'm just fine with kicking a guy in the balls and going from there. Frankly I think I've got a lot of courage.
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given that they're not straight i'd say that makes them making fun of the male troglodytes ITT rather than being one themselves even more likely
DudeEra has more sympathy towards incels, monsters who wants women to be their sex slaves, than their fellow LadyEra.
Do some of you guys even have any idea how fucking sad this is?
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it says at the top of one of their other (joke) posts in this thread
Read through most of the topic. I'm honestly not surprised at the responses.
I don't cold approach, but I'd be lying if I said I never thought of the possibilities that can come from it. I have a good friend that lives in Santa Monica. His primary method of meeting women is through cold approach. This dude has been with some of the hottest women I've ever seen in my life. He met the majority of these women when they were out and about. No mutual friends or hobbies. He's a fairly handsome guy, but even he'll admit his looks aren't why he's so successful at it. He takes rejection gracefully, of course--and he doesn't just approach every good looking woman he sees. He's just a natural at making women feel at ease.
Thinking about what women as a collective have to deal with on a daily basis is mainly why I don't do it, though.
I don't cold approach, but I'd be lying if I said I never thought of the possibilities that can come from it. I have a good friend that lives in Santa Monica. His primary method of meeting women is through cold approach. This dude has been with some of the hottest women I've ever seen in my life. He met the majority of these women when they were out and about. No mutual friends or hobbies. He's a fairly handsome guy, but even he'll admit his looks aren't why he's so successful at it. He takes rejection gracefully, of course--and he doesn't just approach every good looking woman he sees. He's just a natural at making women feel at ease.
Thinking about what women as a collective have to deal with on a daily basis is mainly why I don't do it, though.
They don't. I just had a look at that dating thread I assume the OP was referring to and the last page is full of PUA lingo. Most men don't give a damn about women's opinions unless it helps them to get into their pants.
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Besides, maybe they secretly like it and don't want to admit it? You never can tell with these males.
Yep. They were pretending to post like them but you could tell they were doing so in a way that was making fun of a person like that. I got a sensible chuckle because interrupting a stranger in her zone at the gym just to say something like that sounds EXACTLY like something those bros would do lol.
They got banned for their post on the following page that was a continuation of the same humor. Seemed pretty obvious to me. Kinda interesting it got them banned imo.
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Whew what a convo and what a guy. I had very frustrating time with a co-worker of mine once. He's not pig enough to slap the asses of women (to my knowledge), but he does think that "compliments" belong into free speech. I tried to explain that it has nothing to do with that (duh!). Day later he did tell me that he understood now, though I'm not sure if he really did. Or if he has altered his behaviour because of it. Didn't stop the "locker room talk" between other guys and him at work, that's for sure. He has gotten a warning for his language before, don't know the details. Except that the complaint was from another worker, not a customer. If it was from a customer he would had been let go, now it was just a warning.
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I just looked at the post that was quoted. I did try clicking on the users profile page to see if their history said they were banned in the same thread but they've restricted it.
They really should appreciate that courage more. It's not easy for a girl to just walk up to a guy.
And if we stop, how would people ever find a boyfriend?
If there's one thing about the whole "dudes, tell your friends this shit ain't OK" idea that I have trouble with its that the sorts of folks who behave this way don't want to listen, and definitely don't want engage in the sort of re-evaluation of their goodness of self called for in these cases, whether or not it's a lady or a fella telling them about it. I mean, *waves hands* case in point here.
I almost crapped myself the first time I kicked a guy in the balls. I don't think he really understood how big a deal that was for me :/
Funny you mention it, that's how I met my husband. Walked up to him at Target and kicked him in the balls. Happy days ever since :')
The biggest irony of this topic is that all of the advice about how to talk to women, how to meet women, and how to impress women, comes from men giving advice to other men. All these recommendations come from guys who think they are knowledgeable about women because they've had sex with them. Men trust these recommendations from other men more than they trust recommendations from actual women.
So when women say "I don't like this," some men don't know how to respond other than attempting to vacuum-seal the point of view. You must be an exception, they say. You don't speak for all women, they say. They become defensive of learned norms because they cannot conceive an alternative. They have never had to. If told to change the way they approach women for dates, they don't know what to change it to, because men have been giving each other advice on how to do this for generations.
The tragedy here is that for all the intention some men have to learn how to talk to women, listening to them apparently is not a priority.
Dating Age? There's one dude posting PUA stuff and everyone else has been yelling at him for a few pages, let's not misrepresent
Not only that, but the loudest male voices giving advice (PUA) make it a central tenet to not listen to what a woman says. So that "I don't like this" is actually "show me your value" or something.
I know right it's fool proof I even saved costs as I dyed my wedding dress black for mourning.Look how many men are just so eager to run into the wood chipper! Clearly all men love it! Anyone who says otherwise is clearly wrong.
Apparently it's cheaper than treating a woman with basic human dignity...
Yeah I was thinking this too, also when I saw that "doctor nerd love" guy's blog. As he is indeed a guy, I thought it's bit weird that man is giving tips to other men about what women like and expect. As the blog was clearly ment for men only. I feel the advice then often if not always also comes from an angle of how to impress other men while approaching women. How to seem manly to other men or some shit. How to be a "player" if you will. Feels like it's more about how men expect men to act. Though I really didn't dive into the articles, so maybe I'm wrong about this. Just something it got me thinking.
Doctor Nerd Love is certainly not the worst romantic advice ever but I think it's pretty weak tea overall and in general I would rather push people away from it. Then again I freebase queer feminist shit in my spare time and I think that it would give most people going in cold a heart attack. Gotta start with small doses
I met my husband when I kicked him in the balls at the train station. He still wasn't that interested, so I followed him as he limped home and then kicked him again. We've been together for 20 years next year. Just persevere girls, some guys just don't know they really want to be kicked in the balls right away!
Cold Approaching, as in:
- no prior meeting
- no introduction (usually from a mutual friend)
- no affiliation (work, hobby, etc.)
- no existing situation for meeting random people (mixer, potluck, speed dating (does this still exist?), etc.)
- they have said nothing to you, shared a furtive glance multiple times, or some other extremely obvious outward expression of attraction (this is very rare unless you are a movie star or incredibly good looking)
- starting a conversation with the explicit intention of picking them up
Has a near zero chance of leaving any kind of impression other than outing you as a creepy bastard. It's a heartbeat away from cat-calling.
Regardless of what you think, most [fill-in gender\sex\expression combination you are attracted to here] are just trying to get through their day. Ya know, a human being. Like you.
Having said all of that, I'm not suggesting that you never talk to a person of the [fill-in gender\sex\expression combination you are attracted to here] in any situation. By all means, if you know someone that you are attracted to in one of the reversed situations defined above, say "hey", "how ya been?", "crazy party right?", "man [authority figure] is such as asshole, right", etc. Strike up a conversation. Build a rapport, and ask them out if it's not an inappropriate situation (position of power, event where you really shouldn't be picking someone up, etc.).
It's not that hard, really.
- no prior meeting
- no introduction (usually from a mutual friend)
- no affiliation (work, hobby, etc.)
- no existing situation for meeting random people (mixer, potluck, speed dating (does this still exist?), etc.)
- they have said nothing to you, shared a furtive glance multiple times, or some other extremely obvious outward expression of attraction (this is very rare unless you are a movie star or incredibly good looking)
- starting a conversation with the explicit intention of picking them up
Has a near zero chance of leaving any kind of impression other than outing you as a creepy bastard. It's a heartbeat away from cat-calling.
Regardless of what you think, most [fill-in gender\sex\expression combination you are attracted to here] are just trying to get through their day. Ya know, a human being. Like you.
Having said all of that, I'm not suggesting that you never talk to a person of the [fill-in gender\sex\expression combination you are attracted to here] in any situation. By all means, if you know someone that you are attracted to in one of the reversed situations defined above, say "hey", "how ya been?", "crazy party right?", "man [authority figure] is such as asshole, right", etc. Strike up a conversation. Build a rapport, and ask them out if it's not an inappropriate situation (position of power, event where you really shouldn't be picking someone up, etc.).
It's not that hard, really.
You should try the "Why women criticise sexualised character designs |OT2| I have no pants and I must scream (READ OP)" thread on the gaming side. Its been pages upon pages of "but mah animu tiddies" while people try to explain to them why exactly women criticize those designs. There is no limit to my admiration for the women and male allies there fighting the good fight.
Those threads were a painful read.
This one hasn't been easy, either.
or even if straight and a girl that wasn't physically attractive to them pulled the same shit.
This needs to be added to the OP as a primer for the more.... oblivious men on this forum.
