JT Tran made a long post that would be a good read for everyone that expands on what he said in the video:
http://www.abcsofattraction.com/blo...f-couples-can-allies-asian-men-asianmaleally/
There's so much to unpack that I'd like to address, but can't since I'm on my phone, so I'm sorry if my post is a bit incoherent. I do want to share my thoughts on BMAF though since it's kinda been overlooked. From my own anecdotes, it's really complex because of the really odd intersections between black male and Asian female racist stereotypes about sexuality. I mean what Asian male hasn't heard a non-Asian guy tell them how much they love Asian women as if their sole reason for existence was to titillate men. I'm sure I also don't need to get into stereotypes surrounding black men especially with the Queen of Spades thing. So initially and outwardly, those types of relationships are judged on those terms, but still, to a certain extent, implies that Asian men are shit when it comes to being a partner. When a black male colleague of my wife asked me what I would think or feel about a black guy dating my daughter, knowing that I'm "woke," I knew that I didn't need to talk about the difficulties of being a black man in the world compounding with the difficulties of being an Asian woman. So I told him that it's important for me that at the end of the day, my daughter is supported and loved at least as much as she is from me and that there's a shared experience with people of color.
That said, I think it's important to acknowledge the racial bigotry between blacks and Asians as well because Asians aren't really seen as allies when it comes to fighting racism along with having a complex relationship in neglected black communities. Not to mention that many Asians have bought into perpetuating white supremacy by repeating racist stereotypes of black people. Being a person of color, things are never simple.
There is a glass ceiling for how far up Asian men can climb the corporate ladder. It's not just isolated to tech, but an example that all my friends in the field tell me about is how younger white junior engineers are often mentored and given more opportunities to advance compared to their Asian counterparts/seniors along with general overall preferential treatment. The jump from the trenches to management is a very difficult one because of this. Or how Asians aren't good at management and of course the good old pay disparity. There's also the fact that Asian sounding names get fewer callbacks for job interviews and I've read about how people have to actually state that they are fluent in english. Just a few examples.
You're going to need to be more specific than just calling it toxic.