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Exactly, here's an opertunity to advise them as adults knowing that we probably did the same shit. They already have the authority figures in thier life giving the zero tollerance advice. Not a good idea, but if you are going to do it here is how you minimise risk.
I guess just see where it goes with the younger girl. That age difference doesn't sound like a big deal to me and sure you being her first same sex date might be a warning but everyone has to start from somewhere right? The other girl you have a date with on Saturday though will probably go better being that you're both in a much similar stages of your lives than you and the younger girl.
Crazy roommate has a gf, and all of a sudden he wants to double date and stuff.
My gf is like "I've know him for months and he never talked to me. Now he wants to be my bff. wtf."
My gf is like "I've know him for months and he never talked to me. Now he wants to be my bff. wtf."
So what do you do when you are too used to having too much of your "own" time?
Like, I've never been in a serious relationship in my 25 years and I got used to spending a lot of my time slacking in my room, playing videogames (mostly online games, MMOs... such a time sink I know but still), watching streams, listening to music, reading forums, doing random things overall.
Thing is I really like this girl I've been dating since end of september. Since last month or so on weekends I've been constantly going to her flat and spending all night and quite a bit of day time with her (Traveling to and from her home takes me like 30 min-1 hr of public transport depending on traffic and luck), I like the time spent with her but at the same time I kind of miss slacking in my room doing random stuff (which I can only do on weekends mostly since on weekdays I have university works so I cant slack much) and sometimes makes me consider if I want to pursue a serious relationship or not.
Why cant I do random stuff at her flat you may ask? Well she works in a really "infrequent" industry (basically works as extra in soap operas from time to time, also randoms works of modelling, which are not stable at all) so she doesnt have internet/wifi nor cable at her home due to not being able to afford it.
I understand her situation and im fine with it, but to be honest I get a bit bored after spending a long time in her flat and feel to urge to play something or watch videos etc. Usually when I leave her home and arrive mine its already like 6 pm of saturday/sunday, which leaves me few time for my hobbies because later at night I might have to do other things (if its saturday I would go again to her house at like 1 am, if its sunday I might have to work on university projects etc)
Basically Im having a difficult time balancing "serious" dating and my hobbies (which tbf are big time sinkers and require a lot of time), part of it due to me getting used to spending too much time on myself.
I would invite her to come my home instead but I live with my mother and brother and it would be awkward for me, my room is not big either and close to my moms, also I have always been embarrased of bringing people home tbh.
I really like this girl and the more time I spend talking with her the more i like her but I also really like doing random stuff in my home so im conflicted :/
Funny thing is I only see her at weekends (mostly because on weekdays Im busy with uni and then tired to travel to her place) and I already feel like I dont have time for myself...
Thoughts? Advice?
Like, I've never been in a serious relationship in my 25 years and I got used to spending a lot of my time slacking in my room, playing videogames (mostly online games, MMOs... such a time sink I know but still), watching streams, listening to music, reading forums, doing random things overall.
Thing is I really like this girl I've been dating since end of september. Since last month or so on weekends I've been constantly going to her flat and spending all night and quite a bit of day time with her (Traveling to and from her home takes me like 30 min-1 hr of public transport depending on traffic and luck), I like the time spent with her but at the same time I kind of miss slacking in my room doing random stuff (which I can only do on weekends mostly since on weekdays I have university works so I cant slack much) and sometimes makes me consider if I want to pursue a serious relationship or not.
Why cant I do random stuff at her flat you may ask? Well she works in a really "infrequent" industry (basically works as extra in soap operas from time to time, also randoms works of modelling, which are not stable at all) so she doesnt have internet/wifi nor cable at her home due to not being able to afford it.
I understand her situation and im fine with it, but to be honest I get a bit bored after spending a long time in her flat and feel to urge to play something or watch videos etc. Usually when I leave her home and arrive mine its already like 6 pm of saturday/sunday, which leaves me few time for my hobbies because later at night I might have to do other things (if its saturday I would go again to her house at like 1 am, if its sunday I might have to work on university projects etc)
Basically Im having a difficult time balancing "serious" dating and my hobbies (which tbf are big time sinkers and require a lot of time), part of it due to me getting used to spending too much time on myself.
I would invite her to come my home instead but I live with my mother and brother and it would be awkward for me, my room is not big either and close to my moms, also I have always been embarrased of bringing people home tbh.
I really like this girl and the more time I spend talking with her the more i like her but I also really like doing random stuff in my home so im conflicted :/
Funny thing is I only see her at weekends (mostly because on weekdays Im busy with uni and then tired to travel to her place) and I already feel like I dont have time for myself...
Thoughts? Advice?
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I didn't really think there was anything wrong with it just wanted to clear that up, I thought I was reading the post wrong.
I would maybe tell her you don't enjoy that stuff and if that doesn't resonate with her considering your age I would move on.
I would maybe tell her you don't enjoy that stuff and if that doesn't resonate with her considering your age I would move on.
i get the free time thing. i was in your shoes until i started dating my gf (now my wife), she would want to come over every day though. you say you only travel to her on weekends and still don't feel like you have enough time? maybe go out together so you aren't bored when you hang out with her? that seems weird, like you'd rather be home playing games than be with her. and if you're bored hanging out with her maybe you aren't clicking? especially since you are embarrassed to bring her to your house--but it sounds like even if you did you would just play video games while she watched. is she into that kind of stuff?
Goodness no. I wasn't ever that ridiculous. I would usually tell them I had feelings for them and ask if they felt the same. It would usually go pretty down hill from there.
I hope you're right, so far my experience has been quite the opposite.
Edit: Made an Ok Cupid account last night, I guess we'll see where this takes me I guess.
yeah as you said sounds like this girl just might be experimenting. if things ever become sexual, that's how you (and she) will know for sure if she is truly attracted to other females or if it's just a stage she's going through because she's sick of men (this happens a lot especially in college). It sounds like the different date you have with your peer would work out better imo
Yeah well we have been kind of sick lately (we have been sharing colds it seems...) so we usually been doing things at her home (sex talk sleep lol, and some movies from tv in the morning at times), now that we feel better I will propose to go to clubs and stuff so its gonna be better at least. We usually start hanging out at night.
Well maybe I didnt make myself clear my english needs more vocabulary, thing is I do have fun with her a lot, shes really funny overall, but for example if im 8 hours with her I might start getting bored last 2 hours (theres so much sex and talk can cover lol) and then I want to go back to my free time.
Thing here is Im embarrased to bring anyone to my house, main reason being (I think) I dont want my brother to bother us, hes kind of a really annoying person, he has rage problems and likes to make noise and being angry often plus he doesnt know what personal boundaries are so tbh Im embarrased of him, I wouldnt want her to feel uncomfortable.
No I wouldnt do that, If i have someone home I would be with them, I wouldnt ignore her for videogames. Usually I only play videogames when Im alone so yeah.
I feel like if I had my own place all of this would be solved, im so far away from that though :/
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You are aware that people have long term cohabiting relationships correct?
You are aware that people have long term cohabiting relationships correct?
Geeze...
No offense meant, but I felt vicariously awkward just reading that.
Like... do you work or anything?...
By 25, usually people have accepted not having extended periods of alone "slacking" time...
EDIT: Since I really don't mean for this post to come across as insulting, the general advice that I'm getting at is:
You probably should adjust your expectations of life.
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Have a date on Sunday - though only split with my fiance last week so as I said previously, may not be the best thing.
Seem to connect with her pretty well on an intellectual level though, she works for a stroke charity and she's passionate about that, I have a masters in neuropsychology, and I used to work on an accute stroke ward.
Have 3 other dates lined up for the following week or so but thus far I've just asked if they want to go out, and when they're free.
I'm pretty good at initiating with girls but pretty nervous with dates and stuff. Most of the girls I've had success with in the past I've just got them to play video games with me, and eventually we end up making out. That doesn't work universally, as not all girls want to play video games.
I disagree. I play games and chat about games at work as part of my job, at work for leisure (during lunch) often hang out with friends in town at gaming bars, or with friends that just bum around town and 'slack off'. I often have friends over just to randomly skate around town and not do much of anything. I've curated my life deliberately, so that it matches my interests so closely so that work does not often feel like work.
That isn't to say I've not worked hard to get where I want to be, or that I don't work hard at work. But ultimately if I feel that if you really push for what your passionate about you shouldn't have to feel that you've had to grow up and start tolerating activities / work that's unenjoyable. Work feels like play, then I go home and play some more.
Seem to connect with her pretty well on an intellectual level though, she works for a stroke charity and she's passionate about that, I have a masters in neuropsychology, and I used to work on an accute stroke ward.
Have 3 other dates lined up for the following week or so but thus far I've just asked if they want to go out, and when they're free.
I'm pretty good at initiating with girls but pretty nervous with dates and stuff. Most of the girls I've had success with in the past I've just got them to play video games with me, and eventually we end up making out. That doesn't work universally, as not all girls want to play video games.
I disagree. I play games and chat about games at work as part of my job, at work for leisure (during lunch) often hang out with friends in town at gaming bars, or with friends that just bum around town and 'slack off'. I often have friends over just to randomly skate around town and not do much of anything. I've curated my life deliberately, so that it matches my interests so closely so that work does not often feel like work.
That isn't to say I've not worked hard to get where I want to be, or that I don't work hard at work. But ultimately if I feel that if you really push for what your passionate about you shouldn't have to feel that you've had to grow up and start tolerating activities / work that's unenjoyable. Work feels like play, then I go home and play some more.
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Yeah. I wanted someone to go out with. Bad idea? I spoke to friends about it and they took the 'whatever makes you feel better' approach.
At the end of the day, there's nothing I can do about my failed relationship but put it behind me. Our relationship failed predominantly because of the distance and there's nothing I could do to resolve the issues. I have to just move forward, and I hate to dwell on the past.
Sure. But, as you said, you worked to get to a point where you could do the things that you wanted, often as part of other things such as "work."
I would think there's a difference between that, and general "slacking time."
And, in particular, it doesn't seem like the poster is describing that sort of situation.
Yes, my uncle had one for 20 years. But to call them your wife is still odd to me if you're not married.
I mean, I gave advice regarding the smoking post, but from when I was 15 to when I was around 19-20 (about a year after you're an adult in my country, can drink etc) my views on what I wanted in a relationship and the values I assign to different aspects of one had immense shifts.
Of about 20 fairly long lived relationships that continued out of my high school cohort, only one couple are still together, married. People move away for work, studies, they travel, it's just a super messy time. I think "I won't give advice" was a bit too strong, "Advice I give is likely to be largely inapplicable to the situation" is probably a better phrase.
I still find myself sitting in the company of other people often wishing we could be doing something more fun. I'm always convincing friends to play a game rather than just chat and do boring stuff. Even if it's a board game, or something similar.
And you weren't the only person to indicate that, too.
So, not sure why your post was selected for comment and the others not.
I'm with you on that.
"I have no free time to do anything fun"
-Proceeds to spend 5 hours reloading Facebook
I think the poster could look at how they're choosing to spend time with their SO, yes.
But, they outright said they want "alone"/"slacking" time.
Nope, Im studying for my major right now.
With the last line u mean I should give up my time to the system or something?
Im still studying so im enjoying my free time as much as I can, considering you have only one life I want to have as much fun as I can on it (without harming others ofc).
I dont know what u mean with this, what expectations should I have?
One doesn't preclude the other.
I worked through my Bachelor's and Master's - because I had stuff I needed to pay for, and they weren't just going to pay for themselves.
But that's neither here nor there, do whatever works for you I guess.
A relationship is "the system"?
Well, best of luck with your relationship.
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I'm also 25 so maybe I have a more similar experience. I would say that there is truth in the idea that your time isnt all your time to do whatever the fuck you want when you get older and are in a relationship. If you want it to work you have to accept that it's shared time to an extent. What you need to do however is communicate that you would like to try and do other things when you hang out. Sex movies chat is fine but try looking around for free or cheap entertainment in the city or town you live in. Even simple things like a drink at a bar, walks, shooting a basketball etc can make hanging more fun for relatively cheap.
You are also totally justified im saying you just wanna hang and recharge alonw for a day. Couples especially early have to be cool with watch other being ablw to do their own thing so try to talk about it if that's how you are feeling. I will say though in a relationship you just dont get free time like when you're single so if you long for it that much you have to make some adult choices.
Personally I dont know anyone who dumped a great girl to spend more time alone who ultimately ended up super happy though.
When I was with my fiance we used to play games all the time. While it was something I loved at first, something I really wanted in a girl, it got a bit irritating after a while. It often meant that I didn't really get all that much time alone.
I used to play a lot of comp shooters, but she's not competitive so she would complain a bit when I played those, because she knew she couldn't play ranked. At the same time, she was also pretty bad at the games, so if I was playing ranked, I didn't really want to play ranked with her. I tried to tell her if she would put in the time, we could play some ranked, she kept going on about wanting to go to the Lighthouse in Destiny, but I told her if she didn't play regular Crucible, she'd never get good enough to go - she didn't put in the time to get better and acted jealous when I played with my friends. I get it, because it was something she really wanted to experience, but it was irritating having her expect that I would carry her through.
It was the same with the Raid on Destiny. She didn't want me doing it without her, but at the same time, she didn't put much time into the game to level up and whatnot, so I ended up being weeks behind friends. If I did something like that, early, without her, she'd often complain about it quite a lot - it would often end up ruining the experience, because she'd mention it every time we play, in a little passive aggressive manner (like if I asked if she wanted to do a Strike, she'd note how I wanted to play with her now).
Sometimes it's good to have a good deal of separation. I don't know if I would want to be with a girl that close to my hobbies again. Definitely very much a first world, and quite geeky problem to have in a relationship though.
I used to play a lot of comp shooters, but she's not competitive so she would complain a bit when I played those, because she knew she couldn't play ranked. At the same time, she was also pretty bad at the games, so if I was playing ranked, I didn't really want to play ranked with her. I tried to tell her if she would put in the time, we could play some ranked, she kept going on about wanting to go to the Lighthouse in Destiny, but I told her if she didn't play regular Crucible, she'd never get good enough to go - she didn't put in the time to get better and acted jealous when I played with my friends. I get it, because it was something she really wanted to experience, but it was irritating having her expect that I would carry her through.
It was the same with the Raid on Destiny. She didn't want me doing it without her, but at the same time, she didn't put much time into the game to level up and whatnot, so I ended up being weeks behind friends. If I did something like that, early, without her, she'd often complain about it quite a lot - it would often end up ruining the experience, because she'd mention it every time we play, in a little passive aggressive manner (like if I asked if she wanted to do a Strike, she'd note how I wanted to play with her now).
Sometimes it's good to have a good deal of separation. I don't know if I would want to be with a girl that close to my hobbies again. Definitely very much a first world, and quite geeky problem to have in a relationship though.
Hey guys just want to make it clear I am not pursuing a serious relationship with this girl, I am fully aware it is only short term. I do not want to force her to change herself, I guess I will just not try to be with her while she is smoking. I guess I was asking it for more of a hypothetical, but yeah you are right, because she smokes relatively infrequently and not around me it does not really affect me much enough to purse a conversation about it.
On the other hand I have a mutual friend that I am legitimately scarred for (ex. he has overdosed before).
Personally I'd recommend against tinder etc. Focus on getting friends first.
Which is generally a good tip: don't try to get with anyone. Don't hunt for a partner. The harder you look the harder it will become.
Just try to befriend them when you meet them. Have no ulterior motive other than becoming a friend.
Something meaningful will follow, if not with them then with someone else close to them.
Any luck with the interest groups?
I have long accepted that I'm probably never going to be able to play jrpgs or other times sinks again. I guess part of becoming an adult is making deal with the time you have. 4 time consuming Hobbies, you either have to let go or make due with a diminished role. I still haven't beaten Final Fantasy 12 HD
I don't know, I guess as I get older I'm starting to realize how unimportant my hobbies are. I realized it's unhealthy to Define Yourself by them.
I don't know, I guess as I get older I'm starting to realize how unimportant my hobbies are. I realized it's unhealthy to Define Yourself by them.
"i understand her situation and im fine with it, but to be honest I get a bit bored after spending a long time in her flat and feel tourge to play something or watch videos etc."
Doing those things together can be fun. Why not float the idea?
My friend who is best with women out of them all says by the end of his first night with someone new they're usually watching YouTube videos/looking at memes and laughing together.
Doing those things together can be fun. Why not float the idea?
My friend who is best with women out of them all says by the end of his first night with someone new they're usually watching YouTube videos/looking at memes and laughing together.
Say women, not females >.>
I don't have a job and I feel like that already. I don't think it's the depression talking either, it just feels like a waste playing games.
Thankfully I dont have to do that, Im lucky in that aspect.
Sadly I cant picture a "dream job" where I would like to work or aim to, so I will have to grind the work life in something Im good at I guess. I will most likely work most my life after studies so I might as well enjoy while I can.
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That was in response to:
You asked me if I work or anything, not talking about relationships here. Your question seems ill intended but I guess thats just me.
Thanks.
Yes I know there will always be responsabilities, right now my responsability is do well in my studies and find a good work path for me (and not being a burden for my mom).
Yeah I will propose to go to bars and stuff, we been with a cold lately so we didnt do outside activities because of that, hopefully cheap activities though because I know she cant spend much. One problem though is that we usually hang late at night and a lot of things are closed at that time lol, but yeah.
I have a problem in that im usually feeling tired (low energy) I dont know why. I do physical activities (gym mostly) but I still feel tired a lot.
When I have visited doctors and done blood exams (not related to energy levels) they havent found anything strange in my blood at least so I dont understand why im usually tired, which makes me be kind of lazy.
And yeah I guess there will always be a trade off when in a relationship, sucks that I like time sinks activities ><
Well as I said in my previous post she currently doesnt have internet/wifi for example (shes kind of new "in town", lives alone and doesnt have a stable income yet), so we cant watch netflix or stuff like that (we usually just hang at her home), thats why I dont do that, I would like to though, but maybe in the future I guess.
She usually shows me funny stuff from her phone but is not the same lol
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Apologies. I thought I had clarified I wasn't intending to be insulting or offensive or anything like that, but I guess me saying that doesn't preclude me from doing it regardless.
In any event, the purpose of the questions was that, in general, I would have thought that by 25 most people were no longer thinking about "slacking off time" in relation to anything else. And that if one hadn't, that getting past that would help with the issue at hand. But, I don't know, just me I guess.
No problem.
Well theres always people that go slower in life, I guess im one of them lol.
And well actually I dont slack off much now because I have less time to do so between university and other things. Sometimes I do slack though (and I do like doing it), part of that because I feel tired so I just watch streams or stuff like that.
I would like to balance it more though and I plan to do it (somehow).
When do you think is a good time to ask for a second date? I had a pretty good first date(drinks and dinner, no action though) and messaged her the next day(today) saying it was a fun time and she replied saying it was fun for her too. She did ask near the end of the date "So, if there was a date number 2 where would we go?".
Should I ask her right away or wait a bit?
Should I ask her right away or wait a bit?
I think last weekend was the weekend I realized this relationship was getting REALLY REALLY serious.
My parents love her. Her mom loves me. I'm told her dad won't like me, because I'm not Pinoy, but no one in the family really cares about his opinion because he's a giant manchild.
Her family is starting to invite us to stuff. Her bro in law wants me in his dnd campaign. Her sister wants me to come to their daughter's baptism. Her mother wants me to run errands for her (and wants to go see christmas lights next month).
There has been a change for sure recently. I'm not sure what caused it. But her family (and my own family) have been really encouraging us.
On the front of mine and her, I had a crisis of faith last month do to my own insecurities. But I try to work them out the best I can. I have to be stronger for her, and for us. Because she's wonderful. Such a sweet and beautiful person. And I have to be able to take care of her. And love her.
Ask her out tomorrow morning.
My parents love her. Her mom loves me. I'm told her dad won't like me, because I'm not Pinoy, but no one in the family really cares about his opinion because he's a giant manchild.
Her family is starting to invite us to stuff. Her bro in law wants me in his dnd campaign. Her sister wants me to come to their daughter's baptism. Her mother wants me to run errands for her (and wants to go see christmas lights next month).
There has been a change for sure recently. I'm not sure what caused it. But her family (and my own family) have been really encouraging us.
On the front of mine and her, I had a crisis of faith last month do to my own insecurities. But I try to work them out the best I can. I have to be stronger for her, and for us. Because she's wonderful. Such a sweet and beautiful person. And I have to be able to take care of her. And love her.
Ask her out tomorrow morning.
A friend of mine dating a Chinese girl who's father did not like the idea of her dating foreigners soon had his mind changed when all the women in the family told him to change his attitude. Don't openly criticize him, he'll come around soon enough.
So I went out with this girl from okc tonight. I think it went well. She laughed a lot and said it was super fun. I didn't get a hookup vibe from her like I initially thought I would based on some of our previous texts. She's really cool and I'd like to see her again but next week is thanksgiving and she's driving up to spend it with a friend. So she said we'd have to hang out after that. The thing is, two weeks is a long time. I feel like things can definitely fizzle out in that time. I feel like it's also possible that that was like a soft rejection.
It can fizzle out but if she really liked you it won't really matter. The girl I'm currently seeing and I booked our first date more than a month in the future and things are going swell here after almost 5 weeks into seeing each other.
I don't know where else to put this but my wife and I have separated after being together for 14 years. Two kids. One of the most emotional days of my life. Doing OK but holy shit did my future take a weird offramp.
Sorry to hear that, there's a few divorced guys here so we know what that's like and that you'll get through it.
Your girlfriend got naked and let a guy fuck her out of pity? That doesn't sound right.
Just curious, how far in (weeks, months, years) do your guy's relationships start falling apart and why?
So I need someone to tell me I'm an idiot right now.
It's been a while since I've posted - my girlfriend and I are still doing well, I think. I've been getting some weird vibes this past week, but I'm thinking they're just from my imagination, and hopefully you guys can confirm that for me. She's been super stressed out about her job and some medical issues that came up recently, but we've been getting through it well and I've been supporting her and just being there for her. Otherwise things have been the same, up until about a week ago. She started feeling a bit more distant, but it seemed to come and go. That was last Saturday. She slept over and Sunday it was all sunshine and roses again. We did different things that day and then Sunday night she says she doesn't want me to sleep over that night - she's just tired. That's the first time that's happened. Then Monday we hang out and it's good again and then she leaves a bit early, says she's tired. This was at 9:45 PM. I haven't seen her since then, and her texts have been a bit, I don't know, colder and sparser? I could totally be imagining that, but it just feels like a shift somehow. I couldn't hang out Tuesday, and she had plans with friends on Wednesday and Thursday. I said I'd be down to swing by if she liked and join in, but no big deal if it was a girls' night thing, and she said yeah, it was just girls' night (Wednesday). I didn't repeat the offer for Thursday. We might see each other today, Friday, but maybe not (this one's on me, my friend is having problems with his fiancee, so I told her I need to kind of be there for him tonight - after we're done I'll see if she wants to get together but I don't know when that will be and told her she should make plans and not wait for that). We're definitely hanging out Saturday - going for a hike and then Thor. But that's the longest we've been apart so far, and its kind of gnawing at me that her texts seem less "warm" I guess.
The kind of shift that happened might be all in my head, and anyways she really has some actual high-stress things happening in her life right now, so I'm probably reading waaaaaaaay too much into this. I'm just worried she's doing the slow disengage before breakup thing. I'm aware I'm probably just imagining it, and my roommate agrees. I just don't know why I'm feeling this way. I haven't behaved any differently, and there hasn't been anything bad that's happened, so hopefully when I see her on Saturday (or maybe Friday) this all just washes away.
I could use some people telling me to shut up and get a grip right now. Please tell me I'm just an idiot and this is all in my head!
It's been a while since I've posted - my girlfriend and I are still doing well, I think. I've been getting some weird vibes this past week, but I'm thinking they're just from my imagination, and hopefully you guys can confirm that for me. She's been super stressed out about her job and some medical issues that came up recently, but we've been getting through it well and I've been supporting her and just being there for her. Otherwise things have been the same, up until about a week ago. She started feeling a bit more distant, but it seemed to come and go. That was last Saturday. She slept over and Sunday it was all sunshine and roses again. We did different things that day and then Sunday night she says she doesn't want me to sleep over that night - she's just tired. That's the first time that's happened. Then Monday we hang out and it's good again and then she leaves a bit early, says she's tired. This was at 9:45 PM. I haven't seen her since then, and her texts have been a bit, I don't know, colder and sparser? I could totally be imagining that, but it just feels like a shift somehow. I couldn't hang out Tuesday, and she had plans with friends on Wednesday and Thursday. I said I'd be down to swing by if she liked and join in, but no big deal if it was a girls' night thing, and she said yeah, it was just girls' night (Wednesday). I didn't repeat the offer for Thursday. We might see each other today, Friday, but maybe not (this one's on me, my friend is having problems with his fiancee, so I told her I need to kind of be there for him tonight - after we're done I'll see if she wants to get together but I don't know when that will be and told her she should make plans and not wait for that). We're definitely hanging out Saturday - going for a hike and then Thor. But that's the longest we've been apart so far, and its kind of gnawing at me that her texts seem less "warm" I guess.
The kind of shift that happened might be all in my head, and anyways she really has some actual high-stress things happening in her life right now, so I'm probably reading waaaaaaaay too much into this. I'm just worried she's doing the slow disengage before breakup thing. I'm aware I'm probably just imagining it, and my roommate agrees. I just don't know why I'm feeling this way. I haven't behaved any differently, and there hasn't been anything bad that's happened, so hopefully when I see her on Saturday (or maybe Friday) this all just washes away.
I could use some people telling me to shut up and get a grip right now. Please tell me I'm just an idiot and this is all in my head!
New relationship so you've just got to chill. I've felt all those things in the past so I know what you are going through. It might be real or you might be projecting. Anyway what I learned to do is not to act on it. She goes, that's OK. She stays, that's great. Just ride it out because any action you take might actullay make happen what you don't want to happen.