Literally all of your advice was to basically say fuck it to his relationship. Go flirt with other women and remind her that she's expendable. That's an easy way to fuck up something actually good, and replace it with some bullshit based on her fear of losing him since she's expendable. FOH with that shit.
When you ll become emotionally mature, feel free answering in a way that doesn't involve insults because right now you're not being reasonable
But yes. No matter if mega had it hard in his past or no matter the strength of the relationship, it is basically an indefinite power struggle until each partner manage to stay strong, honest and equal. Not a single relationship is the same, yet they all have the same baselines : confidence, honesty, security, shared values and desires.
It is not the first time that mega is exposing some existential doubts about the very nature of his relationship, and the same point is brought up almost everytime : his desire for intimacy. Sex or the lack of it are one of the triggers encompassing this feeling, now it is to the point that he is admitting lacking in confidence about his worth as a lover.
(edit : slightly untrue, he also told some other issues regarding his own excitement)
Now I don't know about you but this has been lasting for months and he's faking acceptation of the situation. It's a loop. You ponder on shit and go on and on and on, instead of realizing that what you have in terms of "friendship" / familiarity is bugging your mind and you re not comfortable settling down for this.
Today he used the word poisonous. I am not telling him to play games, I'm telling him to get to know other people and work out the insecurity issue which is only fair. You d be insane stopping all kind of social activity simply because you re in a relationship. I didnt tell him to play games, but she's still obviously using a leverage here which is : "I'm not excited by you and I feel like having sex twice a month is also not enjoyable"
What the fudge man. What is wrong about her saying she simply want the closeness but no physical action at all?
Could it be boredom? Probably yeah, spicing it up is a thing. Does she feel something deeper and should mega endure it?
Answer is no. Her issues. Give the man some room so he can have that intimacy he's obviously craving. The whole of it also sounds like he s co dependant but that can be worked out through therapy aswell
