Your social media stalking them already, this will end well.
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I would just go for it if she works in a different department personally. I imagine it would be easy to resume a working relationship if things did turn sour. Just don't make it awkward if things don't work out. I guess it depends on you though. If you're the kind of guy that can't see your ex walking around on a daily basis without acting weird about it, then it might not be a good idea. Personally I've never left a girl without establishing a friendship first - how you end relationships and how you provide closure is likely a significant contributor to any feelings of animosity afterwards, so how you deal with that may be something to consider.
Think worst possible scenario, she's fickle and ditches you after a few weeks or whatever. Would that create an awkward work place environment for you? If yes, then perhaps don't bother. But if you're good at moving forward then maybe it's not an issue.
That's really weird. I mean, might as well just see what happens, but I would worry I was being manipulated in some way.
Wow that last page was something
Probably not a good idea to do social media stalking
Probably not a good idea to do social media stalking
So I went on a date with that girl I was talking about most recently, last night. We've actually seen each other for 4 days straight.
It was a nice restaurant I paid, she was worried that it was too expensive before we went, so I didn't wanted to ease her mind that I'd pay for whatever we had. The previous couple of 'dates' we had we just spent the night in my bedroom, so I wanted to take her someplace nice just to show her that I don't just want to lounge around in bed, eating pizza all day really.
I've not really taken a girl to a place like that before. The girls I've been with in the past have all been university or college students and I think when your'e in college there's a mutual awareness that you're both poor, and you're not going to drop a couple hundred £ on dinner. That's always been my experience in the past, anyway. We made out outside the restaurant and on the way to the taxi rank, and then she headed home, saying she wanted a good nights sleep.
Aside the date going generally well, I was kind of enamoured by the whole experience. I didn't have a wealthy upbringing, my sister and I grew up in a counsel house (state funded housing) raised by my single parent mother, and we just scraped by never went anywhere expensive or fancy. I don't blame anyone for that, but it really placed what I was doing into context, and I imagine, made me appreciate the experience a lot more. I ended up calling my mother (particularly as she'd been trying to get hold of me for a few days), and promising to take her to a fancy restaurant sometime in January.
I don't really know where things are going with the girl. We're seeing each other often and I think we both like each other, but at the same time, I may move to Montreal soon (she knows this). I'm going away on business for most of next week so I won't see her for a little while, but nevertheless I'm finding myself to be really happy since leaving my fiance a few weeks ago. When I was with her and our relationship was breaking down, even when I knew things weren't working and I knew it wasn't right for us to stay together, at the time, I didn't understand how I'd ever be happy again outside of that relationship - I got over that super quickly, and I'm happier than I've been for the longest time. Not because of Amy (the girl I've been seeing most often recently) either, but just because of everything I wasn't doing when I was with my ex. I wasn't meeting people often, I wasn't going places, and I almost feel like I had stopped developing as a human being while I was with her.
It was a nice restaurant I paid, she was worried that it was too expensive before we went, so I didn't wanted to ease her mind that I'd pay for whatever we had. The previous couple of 'dates' we had we just spent the night in my bedroom, so I wanted to take her someplace nice just to show her that I don't just want to lounge around in bed, eating pizza all day really.
I've not really taken a girl to a place like that before. The girls I've been with in the past have all been university or college students and I think when your'e in college there's a mutual awareness that you're both poor, and you're not going to drop a couple hundred £ on dinner. That's always been my experience in the past, anyway. We made out outside the restaurant and on the way to the taxi rank, and then she headed home, saying she wanted a good nights sleep.
Aside the date going generally well, I was kind of enamoured by the whole experience. I didn't have a wealthy upbringing, my sister and I grew up in a counsel house (state funded housing) raised by my single parent mother, and we just scraped by never went anywhere expensive or fancy. I don't blame anyone for that, but it really placed what I was doing into context, and I imagine, made me appreciate the experience a lot more. I ended up calling my mother (particularly as she'd been trying to get hold of me for a few days), and promising to take her to a fancy restaurant sometime in January.
I don't really know where things are going with the girl. We're seeing each other often and I think we both like each other, but at the same time, I may move to Montreal soon (she knows this). I'm going away on business for most of next week so I won't see her for a little while, but nevertheless I'm finding myself to be really happy since leaving my fiance a few weeks ago. When I was with her and our relationship was breaking down, even when I knew things weren't working and I knew it wasn't right for us to stay together, at the time, I didn't understand how I'd ever be happy again outside of that relationship - I got over that super quickly, and I'm happier than I've been for the longest time. Not because of Amy (the girl I've been seeing most often recently) either, but just because of everything I wasn't doing when I was with my ex. I wasn't meeting people often, I wasn't going places, and I almost feel like I had stopped developing as a human being while I was with her.
I saw a girl with a presentation set up just like this, even down to the projected hotness. Too bad I never matched her. I was laughing out loud. A sense of humor gets you a long way. The only time I ever seem to get responses is when I open with a bad joke. Honestly I just love making cheesy puns.
Yeah, I like it too.
Personally though I wouldn't have 'good credit score' as one of my traits, and I wouldn't suggest I spend 1/4 of my time worrying about my finances either. I know those slides are just a joke, but people will read into them and I suspect neither of those traits are likely to received all that positively.
Personally though I wouldn't have 'good credit score' as one of my traits, and I wouldn't suggest I spend 1/4 of my time worrying about my finances either. I know those slides are just a joke, but people will read into them and I suspect neither of those traits are likely to received all that positively.
My place, I already have everything setup in case that's an oprion.
My place.
I'm more comfortable there. It's easier for me to make sure she has a good time because I can execute the evening as planned. Little things like having wine available, netflix ready to go, etc.
I mean, it began because I noticed a couple other girls that I matched with being present in the Instagram pics that one linked to her Tinder profile. She chose to make it public and I took a glance. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I mean, I also apparently spend a quarter of my time napping, going off the chart :P. If anything, "Good credit score" has worked in my favor since it beckons questions on how to approach building credit while I'm actually on a date. The only thing that could be taken seriously is that I'm an advocate of LGBT rights. Maybe the fact that I'm an immigrant too, but then I undermine that by claiming I'm exotic anyway. Tinder's all been in good fun, so I'm not terribly concerned or super invested with the way things turn out. Whatever happens, happens.
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What's so bad about a little bit of social media stalking :p
Absolutely nothing. Trust me ladies do it too to make sure you're not some crazy person.
I've done it to make sure that any pictures a person is using aren't 4 years old.
I missed my stop home on the bus yesterday, by quite a bit. Had to get off at the wrong place and walk back for 30 minutes.
The same thing happened today. Not quite as bad, but I missed the stop.
At first I thought I was just tired, but thinking about it I realise I was thinking about the girl I've been seeing. I think I'm falling for her.
That really scares me, because I worry I'm just going to get hurt. Almost tempted to push her away. Jesus.
I've never done it, but I imagine you could use google image search to track photos. Girls also often link their snapchat on tinder, for whatever reason.
With that said. I've never done it, and don't recommend it. I've never met up with a girl that wasn't what she said she was. I don't see any incentive to 'stalk' anyone.
However, if a girl did look me up, it wouldn't bother me. I don't have anything to hide and I'd understand if she was trying to avoid being conned by someone that wasn't who they said they were.
The same thing happened today. Not quite as bad, but I missed the stop.
At first I thought I was just tired, but thinking about it I realise I was thinking about the girl I've been seeing. I think I'm falling for her.
That really scares me, because I worry I'm just going to get hurt. Almost tempted to push her away. Jesus.
I've never done it, but I imagine you could use google image search to track photos. Girls also often link their snapchat on tinder, for whatever reason.
With that said. I've never done it, and don't recommend it. I've never met up with a girl that wasn't what she said she was. I don't see any incentive to 'stalk' anyone.
However, if a girl did look me up, it wouldn't bother me. I don't have anything to hide and I'd understand if she was trying to avoid being conned by someone that wasn't who they said they were.
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Yeah, for my last three jobs I was hired from January thru March. We'll see if this happens for a fourth time this January since I plan to apply for higher positions after I get my CCNA(Hopefully, I pass) next week
In Cat Pee's case he had reason to be suspicious since he suddenly had a load of matches from the same courses at a University. But in general, I do agree with you. As I say, I don't have any reason to be suspicious of women generally, I've not seen anyone horribly misrepresent themselves.
Some women do use filtered photos and whatnot, but usually I'll move the conversation from Tinder to whatsapp within a handful of messages, then on whatsapp I'll ask them for photos a little later.
If I'm pretty chatty with a girl I'll often send her a photo of what I look like first thing in the morning. In most cases, they follow up with something similar and I think it gives a more genuine impression of what they look like.
I look people up if their photos are poor-quality and/or they only have top-down selfie angle shots. There's also been a deluge of bots on Tinder over the past several days too, and some are pretty convincing, so I'll check and see if they're a real person who's bad with English or not.
You can filter FB searches by education and job. If that's on someone's tinder profile, (which it usually is) you can narrow down a search on FB. A lot of people also link to their Instagram which makes it very easy.
I don't do it though because honestly doing that psyches me out. It would just add to me making a picture of them in my head and carrying those expectations into the first meeting for better or for worse.
Man, I get unreasonably provoked by the fact that the girl I'm seeing reads my messages on fb messenger almost immediately after I send them, but answers hours later. I mean I'd get it if I wrote half a novel in each message, but the one this morning was super short. And I say "unreasonably" because I get that I shouldn't care, but I do. We have a date booked for Sunday, too, so it's not like she's not interested.
Turn off message receipts. It's only good for internal business communication. Either she responds or not. Thats it.
My place. There is always a crazy cute cuddly dog and I live alone.
Never thought about that, it does bother me too sometimes.
That said the girl I'm seeing most often at the moment tends to reply when she's seen it. If it's a question anyway.
Reading, or just seeing who the message is from (which is all she's probably doing at first) and responding are two totally different things. It's the same with texts - I will see who a text is from immediately, but if I'm in the middle of work, I may not be able to respond for an hour or two.
If you re messaging her multiple times before she gets back to you / she contacts you, she'll think you re getting attached too quickly
Can't stress it enough : women need space / time to wonder about what you're up to. If you don't give them that, especially at the beginning (unless both of you are getting crazy infatuated) ... it simply sounds needy. And it's a turn off.
You wanna be the guy who has it together even if you like her, presumably a lot. Because chances are you re not the only dude she's dating ... and the other dudes are probably doing the same than you. Having a great time, then trying to get her attention. Stand out, don't do it, let her contact you. Keep texts to a minimum
Same thing here. She doesn't owe you any answer whenever you'd like to get one. + you got a date so leave her until sunday man
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First date with a girl last night - used to things escalating slowly, this time I got thrown in the deep-end. Met her family, her pets, had dinner with the parents...there was a moment that hit me like a truck right off the bat. She was playing with her daughter outside when I pulled up. She had to run inside for something real quick, so it was just me and the daughter. 2-yrs old, first thing she says "Are you my daddy?"
Oof. First date hadn't even started yet! I recognize she's young, recognized me as a male adult figure instead of anything biological, but still. (Still had a lot of fun with on the date, will be seeing again!)
Oof. First date hadn't even started yet! I recognize she's young, recognized me as a male adult figure instead of anything biological, but still. (Still had a lot of fun with on the date, will be seeing again!)
Nah dude, I only said hi two days after we went out and then again the next week, and she left my message seen. I'm usually very careful not to look overly attached.
Well, simply say "hey, you ve been going through my mind lately, when are you free ?" instead of just hi, and you ll get an answer
Salamando will be updating us on the second date like, "So our honeymoon was great..."
Just joshing you though, if you had a great time, more power to you!
Speaking of escalating, I have a 3rd date with a girl I've mentioned before tonight. Excited about it but she mentioned the other day that her birthday is a little bit over a week from now. Any thoughts on how to acknowledge the birthday of someone you just started dating? I thought maybe something simple like cooking her dinner or something. I want to be thoughtful without coming off too keen.
Just joshing you though, if you had a great time, more power to you!
Speaking of escalating, I have a 3rd date with a girl I've mentioned before tonight. Excited about it but she mentioned the other day that her birthday is a little bit over a week from now. Any thoughts on how to acknowledge the birthday of someone you just started dating? I thought maybe something simple like cooking her dinner or something. I want to be thoughtful without coming off too keen.
This actually sounds great. I say... embrace it and see how things go. Don't run away.
Daaaaammnnnn. That would have made me uncomfortable as fuck haha. Glad to hear you enjoyed the rest of the date though dude, great stuff.
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I know it isnt. More importantly she's beautiful and fun and sometimes it's nice to do the exact opposite of what you know you should do.
Hey DatingEra, I'd appreciate some feedback
Tried to get in touch with a french girl. We're both abroad and have roughly two weeks before never seeing each other again.
Went eating pizza, didn't click as much. Talked about exes and stuff, so she (21) went on to say "since nothing will happen between us" (I agreed at that time) and reveals she might be into girls, but me approaching got her confused.
For whatever reason I somehow still ended up in her dormitory room and we make out at the end. Felt like more was possible but we had to stop because the roommate wanted to come back and go to sleep.
Next day - she's busy, giving a maybe, before saying "she had a fun night, but she didn't expect it to go any further"
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End of line? Never write again?
Dumb me of course proceeded to tell her that I got the impression she wanted more and that I want her
time issue made me do this instead of playing it cool :(
Any advice on how to handle something like that in the future? And why do I get so hung up over this? I shouldn't worry that much, but I do. Overinvested? How do I stop that from happening? (it was far worse in the past)
Edit: In before I hit the gym today
Tried to get in touch with a french girl. We're both abroad and have roughly two weeks before never seeing each other again.
Went eating pizza, didn't click as much. Talked about exes and stuff, so she (21) went on to say "since nothing will happen between us" (I agreed at that time) and reveals she might be into girls, but me approaching got her confused.
For whatever reason I somehow still ended up in her dormitory room and we make out at the end. Felt like more was possible but we had to stop because the roommate wanted to come back and go to sleep.
Next day - she's busy, giving a maybe, before saying "she had a fun night, but she didn't expect it to go any further"
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End of line? Never write again?
Dumb me of course proceeded to tell her that I got the impression she wanted more and that I want her
time issue made me do this instead of playing it cool :(
Any advice on how to handle something like that in the future? And why do I get so hung up over this? I shouldn't worry that much, but I do. Overinvested? How do I stop that from happening? (it was far worse in the past)
Edit: In before I hit the gym today
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She didn't want anything serious, so having a little make out or even hooking up would fit into that. Just be happy you got to make out and move on.